In your opinion where is the best place for a woman to meet a man?

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Move out the dmv area.

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I met my DH at work. We are lawyers and met at a DOJ litigating division. We are not the only couple from that division. I can think of at least four other married couples from our job, and there are probably more now (I no longer work there, DH does).

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Anonymous wrote:Probably at work. Maybe you have different hobbies than my friends and I, but no one I knew met their significant other during their hobby time. They met in college or at work, or a related internship. I met my husband during an internship in college. We worked in the same research lab.

The workplace is not your personal dating meat market. This is no longer acceptable. #metoo

To adult adults can meet and fall in love at work, and it doesn’t make the place a “dating meat market.”

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Anonymous wrote:Meeting a man in line with your own values should be your highest priority, especially if you're Christian. That can be easier said than done depending on the church; you may need to change demographics accordingly (e.g. moving to PA or IN to meet eligible young Catholic men).

Otherwise, outdoor hobbies like hiking or kayaking groups are your best bet. You're most likely to meet fit, attractive, motivated men that way; depressives aren't regularly engaged in those hobbies.

Good call in avoiding OLD. You do not meet high value people on those sites.

I beg to differ. I met my SO on OKCupid 12+ years ago and she's plenty high value. And I am, too.

Why does no one ever have recent examples of success in OLD? The landscape has changed since 2012.

My friend met her husband online 5 years ago. They both have PhDs and big careers.

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Anonymous wrote:Open board game night at the friendly local gaming store seems to be at least 75% men. Of course, many of them are married or gay, but you'll run into that issue with any social activity. And it's not a great way to meet men if you don't enjoy board gaming, because the men you meet will assume you're into board gaming. That's the problem with tailoring your activities to where you think the men are—what if you don't actually enjoy the activities that men are into?

So my advice is do whatever social activities you enjoy—not because you think there will be men there, but because you enjoy them. If you connect with someone, hooray. If you don't, you're still doing something you enjoy.

No, thanks. A bunch of D&D types hanging out in “the gaming store.” That’s a good way to find someone who will spend all of their free time playing World of Warcraft.

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Anonymous wrote:The Home Depot, so many manly men there.
Some of them have a tool belt.

Sign me up, lol.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve said this before on here and I will say this again. Go to the Whole Foods hot foods bar on a weekday evening and start chatting up the single men who just got off work or the gym - you will eventually meet someone.

Which Whole Foods? The one in Vienna everyone is married

I hope you aren’t single and living in Vienna. If you are, that’s your first problem.

Bear Branch Inn, that’s where the young singles go in Vienna, young being relative of course.

I live in Vienna, and I agree with this. The problem with it is that it’s a bar – you’re gonna find the drinkers there.

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Again, no office rules will ever stamp down hormones and biological instincts. I don't know any way to make it clearer to you people. Maybe it's because I'm a biologist that I understand this and you don't. Or maybe the difference is just that I refuse to pathologize or criminalize normal, healthy, human reactions.

True. I learned my husband's been f***ing his officemate in their shared office for years. She's a dog, but apparently in heat, and he couldn't resist her in such close proximity.
Some people haven't evolved much from animals.

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Anonymous wrote:Graduate school is actually the #1 place for finding top mates.

Then online now.

That's too young.

Not the pp. That is where you meet your spouse. You don’t get engaged until years later. Most people in grad school are in their mid to late twenties. You meet, start dating, start your careers and get married in your late twenties/early thirties and have a few kids. It is the perfect timeline academically, for your career and still start a family.

I watched a video recently where a woman said there there was so much pressure and judgment for a woman in her thirties to have children. She said she knew many women dealing with infertility and miscarriages. Woman was single at 35 and wanted a family but she was single. The man on the video said she and her friends are too late. Their egg quality has been declining. The woman looked so insulted that this man called her old.

[Anonymous]

If you are very attractive, the men will find you. Airport, gym, grocery store, Starbucks, elevators, parking lots, anywhere.

I think conferences have a lot of eligible men in one spot. Business, medical, sports, real estate, law - any kind of conference.

[Anonymous]

Also weddings

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Anonymous wrote:Open board game night at the friendly local gaming store seems to be at least 75% men. Of course, many of them are married or gay, but you'll run into that issue with any social activity. And it's not a great way to meet men if you don't enjoy board gaming, because the men you meet will assume you're into board gaming. That's the problem with tailoring your activities to where you think the men are—what if you don't actually enjoy the activities that men are into?

So my advice is do whatever social activities you enjoy—not because you think there will be men there, but because you enjoy them. If you connect with someone, hooray. If you don't, you're still doing something you enjoy.

No, thanks. A bunch of D&D types hanging out in “the gaming store.” That’s a good way to find someone who will spend all of their free time playing World of Warcraft.

“I want to meet men, just not the kind of men who have hobbies that men like.” 🙄

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Anonymous wrote:Meeting a man in line with your own values should be your highest priority, especially if you're Christian. That can be easier said than done depending on the church; you may need to change demographics accordingly (e.g. moving to PA or IN to meet eligible young Catholic men).

Otherwise, outdoor hobbies like hiking or kayaking groups are your best bet. You're most likely to meet fit, attractive, motivated men that way; depressives aren't regularly engaged in those hobbies.

Good call in avoiding OLD. You do not meet high value people on those sites.

I beg to differ. I met my SO on OKCupid 12+ years ago and she's plenty high value. And I am, too.

Why does no one ever have recent examples of success in OLD? The landscape has changed since 2012.

I have been with a high quality man I met OLD three years ago. They are out there. He'd only been on a short time. I suspect he would have been "taken" pretty quickly if I hadn't met him first.

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Anonymous wrote:Meeting a man in line with your own values should be your highest priority, especially if you're Christian. That can be easier said than done depending on the church; you may need to change demographics accordingly (e.g. moving to PA or IN to meet eligible young Catholic men).

Otherwise, outdoor hobbies like hiking or kayaking groups are your best bet. You're most likely to meet fit, attractive, motivated men that way; depressives aren't regularly engaged in those hobbies.

Good call in avoiding OLD. You do not meet high value people on those sites.

I beg to differ. I met my SO on OKCupid 12+ years ago and she's plenty high value. And I am, too.

Why does no one ever have recent examples of success in OLD? The landscape has changed since 2012.

I have been with a high quality man I met OLD three years ago. They are out there. He'd only been on a short time. I suspect he would have been "taken" pretty quickly if I hadn't met him first.

My BIL is a high quality man who was on the apps. He is handsome, smart and earns a seven figure income. I think his problem was he was going for the hot ones but they were not wife material. He is now taken by someone he met in real life. Professional athletes are on apps. Jason Kelce famously met his wife on a dating app.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve said this before on here and I will say this again. Go to the Whole Foods hot foods bar on a weekday evening and start chatting up the single men who just got off work or the gym - you will eventually meet someone.

Single men are not at Whole Foods. Only married men whose wives sent them to pick up something are there. They are willing to cheat though....

I'm picturing someone just standing by the hot bar talking to strangers and it's just such a hilarious visual.

Whole Foods cashiers:

There's Laura again. Working that Lasagna. What is this, the third time this week?

Thank you for this, lol.