Landed at Safety - Happy or Transfer?

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Anonymous wrote:One kid I know ended up at VCU. Was dying to leave because HS Classmates judged and cut the kid totally off after graduation because of college choice. It was really hard for them, lost basically all friends. Now at a selective school, hopefully doing better.

Brutal but understandable on the classmates' part. Kids can be so cutthroat.

Why would anyone want these people for friends? Ew.

"These people" went to top schools. The straggler was left behind. Now that he's caught up they will probably befriend him again.

Going to a lower ranked school does not make someone a "straggler" who is "left behind,." What a bizarre and contrived way to think about higher education.

How does it not? Of course it does. What is bizarre is to feign ignorance to the ways of the world.

Agree this is often the way the world works because so many people, like these “friends,” are only interested in someone for what they can get out of them. And they are AHs.

Disagree this makes them good friends or even good people. Hopefully, the transfer student recognizes this and leaves them behind. Perhaps, in a way, they will have done the transfer a favor in the long run. Imagine being friends with those people without knowing their true natures.

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Anonymous wrote:The few I know ended up staying and enjoying it. They meet friends and move on. Transferring is like starting over - it’s not easy socially.

This. Transferring can be really lonely.

Lonelier to be a graduate of a university with a triple digit rank.

What is it with you people that focus on rank for everything in your life.

It's true. Good luck socially graduating from a place lower (not necessarily in ranking but in reputation, test scores, etc.) than George Washington.

What a sad and also snobby way to live your life.

So if I graduated GW do I make the cut in your eyes?

Actually everyone makes the cut in my eyes. I don’t judge by where someone went to college and prefer to know people from all kinds of backgrounds.

Okay, Mother Teresa, good for you.

How exactly is it saintly to simply not care what tier of college someone went to.

You're acting like you're above it all.

Actually that’s you.

I truly don’t care about that stuff. There’s nothing to feel “above it all” about. I am friends with people who I have shared interests with. I don’t care about their jobs or pedigree. I don’t rank my friends by where they went to undergrad.

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Anonymous wrote:The few I know ended up staying and enjoying it. They meet friends and move on. Transferring is like starting over - it’s not easy socially.

This. Transferring can be really lonely.

Lonelier to be a graduate of a university with a triple digit rank.

What is it with you people that focus on rank for everything in your life.

It's true. Good luck socially graduating from a place lower (not necessarily in ranking but in reputation, test scores, etc.) than George Washington.

What a sad and also snobby way to live your life.

So if I graduated GW do I make the cut in your eyes?

Actually everyone makes the cut in my eyes. I don’t judge by where someone went to college and prefer to know people from all kinds of backgrounds.

Okay, Mother Teresa, good for you.

How exactly is it saintly to simply not care what tier of college someone went to.

You're acting like you're above it all.

Actually that’s you.

I truly don’t care about that stuff. There’s nothing to feel “above it all” about. I am friends with people who I have shared interests with. I don’t care about their jobs or pedigree. I don’t rank my friends by where they went to undergrad.

Sure you don't. You treat LSU, ASU, JMU grads the same as graduates of selective schools?

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Anonymous wrote:The few I know ended up staying and enjoying it. They meet friends and move on. Transferring is like starting over - it’s not easy socially.

This. Transferring can be really lonely.

Lonelier to be a graduate of a university with a triple digit rank.

What is it with you people that focus on rank for everything in your life.

It's true. Good luck socially graduating from a place lower (not necessarily in ranking but in reputation, test scores, etc.) than George Washington.

What a sad and also snobby way to live your life.

So if I graduated GW do I make the cut in your eyes?

Actually everyone makes the cut in my eyes. I don’t judge by where someone went to college and prefer to know people from all kinds of backgrounds.

Okay, Mother Teresa, good for you.

How exactly is it saintly to simply not care what tier of college someone went to.

You're acting like you're above it all.

Actually that’s you.

I truly don’t care about that stuff. There’s nothing to feel “above it all” about. I am friends with people who I have shared interests with. I don’t care about their jobs or pedigree. I don’t rank my friends by where they went to undergrad.

Sure you don't. You treat LSU, ASU, JMU grads the same as graduates of selective schools?

Who are you people? Has to be teen trolls.

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Anonymous wrote:The few I know ended up staying and enjoying it. They meet friends and move on. Transferring is like starting over - it’s not easy socially.

This. Transferring can be really lonely.

Lonelier to be a graduate of a university with a triple digit rank.

What is it with you people that focus on rank for everything in your life.

It's true. Good luck socially graduating from a place lower (not necessarily in ranking but in reputation, test scores, etc.) than George Washington.

What a sad and also snobby way to live your life.

So if I graduated GW do I make the cut in your eyes?

Actually everyone makes the cut in my eyes. I don’t judge by where someone went to college and prefer to know people from all kinds of backgrounds.

Okay, Mother Teresa, good for you.

How exactly is it saintly to simply not care what tier of college someone went to.

You're acting like you're above it all.

Actually that’s you.

I truly don’t care about that stuff. There’s nothing to feel “above it all” about. I am friends with people who I have shared interests with. I don’t care about their jobs or pedigree. I don’t rank my friends by where they went to undergrad.

Sure you don't. You treat LSU, ASU, JMU grads the same as graduates of selective schools?

Well I’m older than 15, so yes.

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Anonymous wrote:The few I know ended up staying and enjoying it. They meet friends and move on. Transferring is like starting over - it’s not easy socially.

This. Transferring can be really lonely.

Lonelier to be a graduate of a university with a triple digit rank.

What is it with you people that focus on rank for everything in your life.

It's true. Good luck socially graduating from a place lower (not necessarily in ranking but in reputation, test scores, etc.) than George Washington.

What a sad and also snobby way to live your life.

So if I graduated GW do I make the cut in your eyes?

Actually everyone makes the cut in my eyes. I don’t judge by where someone went to college and prefer to know people from all kinds of backgrounds.

Okay, Mother Teresa, good for you.

How exactly is it saintly to simply not care what tier of college someone went to.

You're acting like you're above it all.

Actually that’s you.

I truly don’t care about that stuff. There’s nothing to feel “above it all” about. I am friends with people who I have shared interests with. I don’t care about their jobs or pedigree. I don’t rank my friends by where they went to undergrad.

Sure you don't. You treat LSU, ASU, JMU grads the same as graduates of selective schools?

Well I’m older than 15, so yes.

No, you don't.

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Anonymous wrote:One kid I know ended up at VCU. Was dying to leave because HS Classmates judged and cut the kid totally off after graduation because of college choice. It was really hard for them, lost basically all friends. Now at a selective school, hopefully doing better.

Brutal but understandable on the classmates' part. Kids can be so cutthroat.

Understandable that the kids cut a friend off because they didn’t think VCU was a good school? Are you kidding? WTF is wrong with people.

I've seen this happen many times. The parents get cut off by other parents too. Nothing explicit, they just don't reach out to them anymore.

Then they weren’t real friends. I would have zero interest in spending time with people who determine my value based on where my child attends college. People like that are the worst of the worst. So shallow.

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Anonymous wrote:One kid I know ended up at VCU. Was dying to leave because HS Classmates judged and cut the kid totally off after graduation because of college choice. It was really hard for them, lost basically all friends. Now at a selective school, hopefully doing better.

Brutal but understandable on the classmates' part. Kids can be so cutthroat.

Understandable that the kids cut a friend off because they didn’t think VCU was a good school? Are you kidding? WTF is wrong with people.

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Anonymous wrote:The few I know ended up staying and enjoying it. They meet friends and move on. Transferring is like starting over - it’s not easy socially.

This. Transferring can be really lonely.

Lonelier to be a graduate of a university with a triple digit rank.

What is it with you people that focus on rank for everything in your life.

It's true. Good luck socially graduating from a place lower (not necessarily in ranking but in reputation, test scores, etc.) than George Washington.

What a sad and also snobby way to live your life.

So if I graduated GW do I make the cut in your eyes?

Actually everyone makes the cut in my eyes. I don’t judge by where someone went to college and prefer to know people from all kinds of backgrounds.

Okay, Mother Teresa, good for you.

How exactly is it saintly to simply not care what tier of college someone went to.

You're acting like you're above it all.

Actually that’s you.

I truly don’t care about that stuff. There’s nothing to feel “above it all” about. I am friends with people who I have shared interests with. I don’t care about their jobs or pedigree. I don’t rank my friends by where they went to undergrad.

Sure you don't. You treat LSU, ASU, JMU grads the same as graduates of selective schools?

NP here. I do. It blows me away that you seem to doubt that this is possible.

That is SUCH a bad sign for you, and anyone you might be raising.

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Anonymous wrote:The few I know ended up staying and enjoying it. They meet friends and move on. Transferring is like starting over - it’s not easy socially.

This. Transferring can be really lonely.

Lonelier to be a graduate of a university with a triple digit rank.

What is it with you people that focus on rank for everything in your life.

It's true. Good luck socially graduating from a place lower (not necessarily in ranking but in reputation, test scores, etc.) than George Washington.

What a sad and also snobby way to live your life.

So if I graduated GW do I make the cut in your eyes?

Actually everyone makes the cut in my eyes. I don’t judge by where someone went to college and prefer to know people from all kinds of backgrounds.

Okay, Mother Teresa, good for you.

How exactly is it saintly to simply not care what tier of college someone went to.

You're acting like you're above it all.

Actually that’s you.

I truly don’t care about that stuff. There’s nothing to feel “above it all” about. I am friends with people who I have shared interests with. I don’t care about their jobs or pedigree. I don’t rank my friends by where they went to undergrad.

Sure you don't. You treat LSU, ASU, JMU grads the same as graduates of selective schools?

NP here. I do. It blows me away that you seem to doubt that this is possible.

That is SUCH a bad sign for you, and anyone you might be raising.

No, it isn't. Hierarchy exists and stereotyping exists. Get used to it.

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Anonymous wrote:My kid chose her lowest ranked school (Juniata) and it turned out to be a great decision. She gained confidence (which had taken a hit at a competitive/snarky W high school), stood out in the eyes of Juniata’s very attentive faculty. That helped her get highly ranked National internships (think one kid selected per state), resulting in additional scholarships as she advanced through college and admission to multiple funded grad programs.

Congratulations, PP!!

Thank you.

Mind you I wondered if her decision would have any negative ramifications …but I felt I had to show my confidence in her judgement. Turns out that confidence was well placed. 😁

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Anonymous wrote:My kid chose her lowest ranked school (Juniata) and it turned out to be a great decision. She gained confidence (which had taken a hit at a competitive/snarky W high school), stood out in the eyes of Juniata’s very attentive faculty. That helped her get highly ranked National internships (think one kid selected per state), resulting in additional scholarships as she advanced through college and admission to multiple funded grad programs.

Congratulations, PP!!

Thank you.

Mind you I wondered if her decision would have any negative ramifications …but I felt I had to show my confidence in her judgement. Turns out that confidence was well placed. 😁

She will be judged for the rest of her life, unfortunately.

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Anonymous wrote:The few I know ended up staying and enjoying it. They meet friends and move on. Transferring is like starting over - it’s not easy socially.

This. Transferring can be really lonely.

Lonelier to be a graduate of a university with a triple digit rank.

What is it with you people that focus on rank for everything in your life.

It's true. Good luck socially graduating from a place lower (not necessarily in ranking but in reputation, test scores, etc.) than George Washington.

What a sad and also snobby way to live your life.

So if I graduated GW do I make the cut in your eyes?

Actually everyone makes the cut in my eyes. I don’t judge by where someone went to college and prefer to know people from all kinds of backgrounds.

Okay, Mother Teresa, good for you.

How exactly is it saintly to simply not care what tier of college someone went to.

You're acting like you're above it all.

Actually that’s you.

I truly don’t care about that stuff. There’s nothing to feel “above it all” about. I am friends with people who I have shared interests with. I don’t care about their jobs or pedigree. I don’t rank my friends by where they went to undergrad.

Sure you don't. You treat LSU, ASU, JMU grads the same as graduates of selective schools?

NP here. I do. It blows me away that you seem to doubt that this is possible.

That is SUCH a bad sign for you, and anyone you might be raising.

No, it isn't. Hierarchy exists and stereotyping exists. Get used to it.

Only among a subset of insecure people, who feign interest in others based upon their wealth and/or prestige. Some of us live authentically and were raised with better values.

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Anonymous wrote:My kid chose her lowest ranked school (Juniata) and it turned out to be a great decision. She gained confidence (which had taken a hit at a competitive/snarky W high school), stood out in the eyes of Juniata’s very attentive faculty. That helped her get highly ranked National internships (think one kid selected per state), resulting in additional scholarships as she advanced through college and admission to multiple funded grad programs.

Congratulations, PP!!

Thank you.

Mind you I wondered if her decision would have any negative ramifications …but I felt I had to show my confidence in her judgement. Turns out that confidence was well placed. 😁

She will be judged for the rest of her life, unfortunately.

You are a sad excuse for a human.

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Anonymous wrote:My kid chose her lowest ranked school (Juniata) and it turned out to be a great decision. She gained confidence (which had taken a hit at a competitive/snarky W high school), stood out in the eyes of Juniata’s very attentive faculty. That helped her get highly ranked National internships (think one kid selected per state), resulting in additional scholarships as she advanced through college and admission to multiple funded grad programs.

Congratulations, PP!!

Thank you.

Mind you I wondered if her decision would have any negative ramifications …but I felt I had to show my confidence in her judgement. Turns out that confidence was well placed. 😁

She will be judged for the rest of her life, unfortunately.

Only by the one repeat poster and who cares if people like that judge. The bulk of normal people would never consider where she went to undergrad as any sort of pecking order of how they feel about her.