Landed at Safety - Happy or Transfer?

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Anonymous wrote:One kid I know ended up at VCU. Was dying to leave because HS Classmates judged and cut the kid totally off after graduation because of college choice. It was really hard for them, lost basically all friends. Now at a selective school, hopefully doing better.

Brutal but understandable on the classmates' part. Kids can be so cutthroat.

Why would anyone want these people for friends? Ew.

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Anonymous wrote:One kid I know ended up at VCU. Was dying to leave because HS Classmates judged and cut the kid totally off after graduation because of college choice. It was really hard for them, lost basically all friends. Now at a selective school, hopefully doing better.

Those sound like terrible “friends.” I can’t imagine people behaving like this in real life.

They weren't "terrible" friends. They were good friends and stayed friends with everyone else in the group.

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Anonymous wrote:The few I know ended up staying and enjoying it. They meet friends and move on. Transferring is like starting over - it’s not easy socially.

This. Transferring can be really lonely.

Lonelier to be a graduate of a university with a triple digit rank.

What is it with you people that focus on rank for everything in your life.

It's true. Good luck socially graduating from a place lower (not necessarily in ranking but in reputation, test scores, etc.) than George Washington.

As someone who went to a top ten school (as did my spouse) I honestly could not tell you off the top of my head where many of my friends went to college and I definitely do not care.

Maybe you wouldn't care if it was Boston University or Tulane. UMBC grads are getting judged.

Um... no. One of my good friends didn't even go to college at all.

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Anonymous wrote:One kid I know ended up at VCU. Was dying to leave because HS Classmates judged and cut the kid totally off after graduation because of college choice. It was really hard for them, lost basically all friends. Now at a selective school, hopefully doing better.

Brutal but understandable on the classmates' part. Kids can be so cutthroat.

Understandable that the kids cut a friend off because they didn’t think VCU was a good school? Are you kidding? WTF is wrong with people.

DP. Totally agree.

My students at unranked LAC went on to Oxford, NYU Tisch etc. Friends from VCU with PhDs or high profile jobs. One of most successful financially was one of the least academic people I knew who went to WVU.

The high status schools are good at helping with connections, but driven students can be successful at a host of schools, and, just because a school is ranked a certain way by a 3rd party isn't the end all be all.

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Anonymous wrote:One kid I know ended up at VCU. Was dying to leave because HS Classmates judged and cut the kid totally off after graduation because of college choice. It was really hard for them, lost basically all friends. Now at a selective school, hopefully doing better.

Those sound like terrible “friends.” I can’t imagine people behaving like this in real life.

They weren't "terrible" friends. They were good friends and stayed friends with everyone else in the group.

DP. People who think less of you because of the rank of your college are not good friends.

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Anonymous wrote:One kid I know ended up at VCU. Was dying to leave because HS Classmates judged and cut the kid totally off after graduation because of college choice. It was really hard for them, lost basically all friends. Now at a selective school, hopefully doing better.

Brutal but understandable on the classmates' part. Kids can be so cutthroat.

Why would anyone want these people for friends? Ew.

This. Do you ask your friends for a resume? It's weird.

I've found the people who are obsessed with status generally just kind of don't have real friends.

[Anonymous]

My kid chose her lowest ranked school (Juniata) and it turned out to be a great decision. She gained confidence (which had taken a hit at a competitive/snarky W high school), stood out in the eyes of Juniata’s very attentive faculty. That helped her get highly ranked National internships (think one kid selected per state), resulting in additional scholarships as she advanced through college and admission to multiple funded grad programs.

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Anonymous wrote:One kid I know ended up at VCU. Was dying to leave because HS Classmates judged and cut the kid totally off after graduation because of college choice. It was really hard for them, lost basically all friends. Now at a selective school, hopefully doing better.

Brutal but understandable on the classmates' part. Kids can be so cutthroat.

Understandable?

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Anonymous wrote:One kid I know ended up at VCU. Was dying to leave because HS Classmates judged and cut the kid totally off after graduation because of college choice. It was really hard for them, lost basically all friends. Now at a selective school, hopefully doing better.

Brutal but understandable on the classmates' part. Kids can be so cutthroat.

Understandable?

Yes. And Brutal.

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Anonymous wrote:The few I know ended up staying and enjoying it. They meet friends and move on. Transferring is like starting over - it’s not easy socially.

This. Transferring can be really lonely.

Lonelier to be a graduate of a university with a triple digit rank.

What is it with you people that focus on rank for everything in your life.

It's true. Good luck socially graduating from a place lower (not necessarily in ranking but in reputation, test scores, etc.) than George Washington.

As someone who went to a top ten school (as did my spouse) I honestly could not tell you off the top of my head where many of my friends went to college and I definitely do not care.

Maybe you wouldn't care if it was Boston University or Tulane. UMBC grads are getting judged.

What part of “could not tell you where many of their friends went to college” don’t you understand? How can someone be judged on something if the other person is unaware of it?

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Anonymous wrote:My kid chose her lowest ranked school (Juniata) and it turned out to be a great decision. She gained confidence (which had taken a hit at a competitive/snarky W high school), stood out in the eyes of Juniata’s very attentive faculty. That helped her get highly ranked National internships (think one kid selected per state), resulting in additional scholarships as she advanced through college and admission to multiple funded grad programs.

This is so awesome! Thanks for sharing and congrats to your kid.

I often encourage my clients to consider Juniata (if interests align of course). Great school.

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Anonymous wrote:The few I know ended up staying and enjoying it. They meet friends and move on. Transferring is like starting over - it’s not easy socially.

This. Transferring can be really lonely.

Lonelier to be a graduate of a university with a triple digit rank.

What is it with you people that focus on rank for everything in your life.

It's true. Good luck socially graduating from a place lower (not necessarily in ranking but in reputation, test scores, etc.) than George Washington.

As someone who went to a top ten school (as did my spouse) I honestly could not tell you off the top of my head where many of my friends went to college and I definitely do not care.

Maybe you wouldn't care if it was Boston University or Tulane. UMBC grads are getting judged.

What part of “could not tell you where many of their friends went to college” don’t you understand? How can someone be judged on something if the other person is unaware of it?

Of my close friends, I know where 90% went to college.

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Anonymous wrote:The few I know ended up staying and enjoying it. They meet friends and move on. Transferring is like starting over - it’s not easy socially.

Lonelier to be a graduate of a university with a triple digit rank.

I don’t see the connection. This makes no sense at all.

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Anonymous wrote:The few I know ended up staying and enjoying it. They meet friends and move on. Transferring is like starting over - it’s not easy socially.

This. Transferring can be really lonely.

Lonelier to be a graduate of a university with a triple digit rank.

Not really.

Unless you're a social misfit, you find your people over 4 years.

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Anonymous wrote:The few I know ended up staying and enjoying it. They meet friends and move on. Transferring is like starting over - it’s not easy socially.

This. Transferring can be really lonely.

Lonelier to be a graduate of a university with a triple digit rank.

What is it with you people that focus on rank for everything in your life.

It's true. Good luck socially graduating from a place lower (not necessarily in ranking but in reputation, test scores, etc.) than George Washington.

As someone who went to a top ten school (as did my spouse) I honestly could not tell you off the top of my head where many of my friends went to college and I definitely do not care.

Maybe you wouldn't care if it was Boston University or Tulane. UMBC grads are getting judged.

What part of “could not tell you where many of their friends went to college” don’t you understand? How can someone be judged on something if the other person is unaware of it?

DP
Yup. Also, what's wrong with umbc? It's a great school.

One of the smartest people I know went to U at Shady Grove, got scholarships, finished at UMB and was recognized as a top scholar amongst all the U MD system schools. The person throwing a spanner into this thread by trolling based on rank is sad and twisted. Lots of ways to achieve and be successful at a variety of schools.