Missing school for academic enrichment - yea or nay?

[Anonymous]

15 kids and an aide in public school. this has to be kindergarten. Why does she need math enrichment? So you can complain that the math is too easy for her in 1st grade? Why not bake cookies after school and talk about measurements. Or clean up toys and do sorting and count each group. So much math enrichment can happen at home in the early years. No reason to disrupt the whole class once per week because your special snowflake is just so brilliant that she neeeeeeeds to go to an expensive center to do enrichment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD tested into a math enrichment class 15 minutes away. Unfortunately, the only available class meets 15 minutes after the last school bell (and you know it takes time to be dismissed and get to the car). I don't want her to be 5-10 minutes late every single class. Do you think it would be unreasonable for me to pick DD up 10 minutes early every Monday afternoon? The issue is that it's a fairly large school (400 kids) and the pre-K program lets out 15-30 minutes before the upper grades, so it is kind of a hectic time in the school lot. My other question is whether all these count as unexcused early release (10 minutes a week through the rest of the year). What do you think? I have no idea if this is a non-issue or an unreasonable thing to ask of the school.

I would have done something like that when my kids were young and I would have totally believed it was reasonable and made up reasons why.

Now that my kids are grown, I realize this would just be silly and there is no need to do anything like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wouldn't it be better to be the first car in the car rider line? I always see 2 cars who are waiting in line 2 hours before school even dismisses. I thought it was really weird but maybe they have the same situation as your DD. Our school dismisses students 5 mins early to pack up etc. so they come out right on time or a minute earlier.

+1

I did this one day a week for my DD to attend a dance class that had no other openings.

I read a ton of books that year.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not ok. It’s rude.

Nah. School is service for your child. Its rude of them to not meet her needs. Its not rude to say this service isnt fully adequate so ive found others

This. If the school isn’t meeting the need then OP was being very polite not to complain about the teachers lack of differentiation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not ok. It’s rude.

Nah. School is service for your child. Its rude of them to not meet her needs. Its not rude to say this service isnt fully adequate so ive found others

That’s not the point anyone is arguing. Are you being obtuse

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not ok. It’s rude.

Nah. School is service for your child. Its rude of them to not meet her needs. Its not rude to say this service isnt fully adequate so ive found others

That’s not the point anyone is arguing. Are you being obtuse

This was in direct response to a poster saying it was rude. Its not rude to take your kid out of school for any particular reason. Definitely not rude for enrichment. Its weird to think you owe the school all 6.4 hours of the day or whatever because of manners... that's not something OP should consider when making this decision.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not ok. It’s rude.

Nah. School is service for your child. Its rude of them to not meet her needs. Its not rude to say this service isnt fully adequate so ive found others

That’s not the point anyone is arguing. Are you being obtuse

This was in direct response to a poster saying it was rude. Its not rude to take your kid out of school for any particular reason. Definitely not rude for enrichment. Its weird to think you owe the school all 6.4 hours of the day or whatever because of manners... that's not something OP should consider when making this decision.

It is rude.

And entitled.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not ok. It’s rude.

Nah. School is service for your child. Its rude of them to not meet her needs. Its not rude to say this service isnt fully adequate so ive found others

That’s not the point anyone is arguing. Are you being obtuse

This was in direct response to a poster saying it was rude. Its not rude to take your kid out of school for any particular reason. Definitely not rude for enrichment. Its weird to think you owe the school all 6.4 hours of the day or whatever because of manners... that's not something OP should consider when making this decision.

It is rude.

And entitled.

Not rude. And yes she is entitled. All kids are entitled to an education that needs their needs and abilities.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not ok. It’s rude.

Nah. School is service for your child. Its rude of them to not meet her needs. Its not rude to say this service isnt fully adequate so ive found others

That’s not the point anyone is arguing. Are you being obtuse

This was in direct response to a poster saying it was rude. Its not rude to take your kid out of school for any particular reason. Definitely not rude for enrichment. Its weird to think you owe the school all 6.4 hours of the day or whatever because of manners... that's not something OP should consider when making this decision.

It is rude.

And entitled.

It’s not rude, what a strange take. The kid needs to learn, school isn’t interested in doing it, the OP found an option that was.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not ok. It’s rude.

Nah. School is service for your child. Its rude of them to not meet her needs. Its not rude to say this service isnt fully adequate so ive found others

That’s not the point anyone is arguing. Are you being obtuse

This was in direct response to a poster saying it was rude. Its not rude to take your kid out of school for any particular reason. Definitely not rude for enrichment. Its weird to think you owe the school all 6.4 hours of the day or whatever because of manners... that's not something OP should consider when making this decision.

It is rude.

And entitled.

It’s not rude, what a strange take. The kid needs to learn, school isn’t interested in doing it, the OP found an option that was.

School isn’t meant to be a la carte. If OP feels that this school isn’t meeting her DD’s needs then she should look for a private school that will. It’s disruptive to teachers and the other students if students are coming and going.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not ok. It’s rude.

Nah. School is service for your child. Its rude of them to not meet her needs. Its not rude to say this service isnt fully adequate so ive found others

That’s not the point anyone is arguing. Are you being obtuse

This was in direct response to a poster saying it was rude. Its not rude to take your kid out of school for any particular reason. Definitely not rude for enrichment. Its weird to think you owe the school all 6.4 hours of the day or whatever because of manners... that's not something OP should consider when making this decision.

It is rude.

And entitled.

It isn't at all rude. As long as the pick up doesn't effect anyone else (like others have said about timing with dismissal) no one at all cares if you pick your kid up and what you do with them.

Entitled? I mean maybe, but not in a bad way. Her kid is entitled to learn at her speed. She is using her own resources to fix the issue.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not ok. It’s rude.

Nah. School is service for your child. Its rude of them to not meet her needs. Its not rude to say this service isnt fully adequate so ive found others

That’s not the point anyone is arguing. Are you being obtuse

This was in direct response to a poster saying it was rude. Its not rude to take your kid out of school for any particular reason. Definitely not rude for enrichment. Its weird to think you owe the school all 6.4 hours of the day or whatever because of manners... that's not something OP should consider when making this decision.

It is rude.

And entitled.

It’s not rude, what a strange take. The kid needs to learn, school isn’t interested in doing it, the OP found an option that was.

School isn’t meant to be a la carte. If OP feels that this school isn’t meeting her DD’s needs then she should look for a private school that will. It’s disruptive to teachers and the other students if students are coming and going.

I would say school isnt meant to be all one size fits all. Kids need different approaches. Sometimes that's through the school and sometimes its not.

[Anonymous]

Ask the school all these questions FFS and stop crowdsourcing

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not ok. It’s rude.

Nah. School is service for your child. Its rude of them to not meet her needs. Its not rude to say this service isnt fully adequate so ive found others

That’s not the point anyone is arguing. Are you being obtuse

This was in direct response to a poster saying it was rude. Its not rude to take your kid out of school for any particular reason. Definitely not rude for enrichment. Its weird to think you owe the school all 6.4 hours of the day or whatever because of manners... that's not something OP should consider when making this decision.

It is rude.

And entitled.

It’s not rude, what a strange take. The kid needs to learn, school isn’t interested in doing it, the OP found an option that was.

School isn’t meant to be a la carte. If OP feels that this school isn’t meeting her DD’s needs then she should look for a private school that will. It’s disruptive to teachers and the other students if students are coming and going.

It is in fact supposed to be differentiated by abilities. Other kids aren’t “disrupted” by a kid packing her backpack ten minutes before they do to go do extra math.

[Anonymous]

I had to do this to get my kid to physical therapy at CNMC once a week. It was not a problem for the school. However, it was medical so there was no question about unexcused absence. I don't think it's entitled or that big of a hassle. Give it a try.