Missing school for academic enrichment - yea or nay?

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Anonymous wrote:The teacher won't say no. They can't. If you tell the school you are picking your child up 15 minutes early every day they will sign out your child 15 minutes early every day. That is your right.

The issue is whether it's appropriate to do so for a choice activity.

And if it matters I would ask to pick up 5 or 10 minutes early, not 15

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As an elementary school teacher, I have had students need to regularly leave a few minutes early for various reasons. This would not bother me in the least.

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School policy you cannot disrupt regular dismissal you selfish monster

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Anonymous wrote:DD tested into a math enrichment class 15 minutes away. Unfortunately, the only available class meets 15 minutes after the last school bell (and you know it takes time to be dismissed and get to the car). I don't want her to be 5-10 minutes late every single class. Do you think it would be unreasonable for me to pick DD up 10 minutes early every Monday afternoon? The issue is that it's a fairly large school (400 kids) and the pre-K program lets out 15-30 minutes before the upper grades, so it is kind of a hectic time in the school lot. My other question is whether all these count as unexcused early release (10 minutes a week through the rest of the year). What do you think? I have no idea if this is a non-issue or an unreasonable thing to ask of the school.

For prek? No.

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Care to elaborate. I forgot to mention that the last 20 minutes of school is time for packing, cleaning, and getting in to their various pick up groups.

Most schools don't allow pickup within 20 or so minutes of the bell.

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I have picked up during this time before. Obviously not on a regular basis. I've never heard of it not being allowed... So if you have a kid's medical appointment, you'd have to pick them up extra early even though it's not necessary for the appointment?

Yes. So that you aren't getting in the way of regular dismissal. School gets out at the same time EVERY DAY. Plan your appointments as necessary. It's not that hard.

Lucky you, who has never had to schedule regular appointments for therapy or treatment. A parent takes what they can get and is happy to get something.

This is not a medical request. The title is missing school for academic enrichment. Not misting school to go to a medical appointment.

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Care to elaborate. I forgot to mention that the last 20 minutes of school is time for packing, cleaning, and getting in to their various pick up groups.

Most schools don't allow pickup within 20 or so minutes of the bell.

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I have picked up during this time before. Obviously not on a regular basis. I've never heard of it not being allowed... So if you have a kid's medical appointment, you'd have to pick them up extra early even though it's not necessary for the appointment?

Yes. So that you aren't getting in the way of regular dismissal. School gets out at the same time EVERY DAY. Plan your appointments as necessary. It's not that hard.

Lucky you, who has never had to schedule regular appointments for therapy or treatment. A parent takes what they can get and is happy to get something.

This is not a medical request. The title is missing school for academic enrichment. Not misting school to go to a medical appointment.

And the two immediately previous posts were about medical appointments, one being incredibly smug.

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I would do it if the enrichment was absolutely needed. But I’d talk to the principal first about it. If your child is accelerated past what the teacher is capable of teaching- then I would consider this essential to their education. Just like if your child needed special ed services, PT, or OT.

My own child took math classes not offered at their home middle school which required them to leave school 2 hrs early once per week. But it was a district program so it was excused.

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Care to elaborate. I forgot to mention that the last 20 minutes of school is time for packing, cleaning, and getting in to their various pick up groups.

Most schools don't allow pickup within 20 or so minutes of the bell.

?

I have picked up during this time before. Obviously not on a regular basis. I've never heard of it not being allowed... So if you have a kid's medical appointment, you'd have to pick them up extra early even though it's not necessary for the appointment?

Yes. So that you aren't getting in the way of regular dismissal. School gets out at the same time EVERY DAY. Plan your appointments as necessary. It's not that hard.

Lucky you, who has never had to schedule regular appointments for therapy or treatment. A parent takes what they can get and is happy to get something.

This is not a medical request. The title is missing school for academic enrichment. Not misting school to go to a medical appointment.

And the two immediately previous posts were about medical appointments, one being incredibly smug.

“Click to see previous posts”

NP that post was in response to a really rude, overbearing post. Totally warranted.

OP, it sounds like this is important to you so you should ask the school. Make it clear you feel this is a good opportunity for your child but don't want to be disruptive to the school.

IME DCUM is not always super connected to reality. I've made the mistake of basing decisions on what people post here, and they were bad decisions that I regretted.

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There’s a reason most schools don’t allow early dismissal so close to the end of the day. It’s disruptive.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you can try pulling her out early and see if it's stressful for your child. She will need a snack in the car.

I'm not worried about her except the unexcused absence issue. I'm trying to be mindful of the teacher and the front office staff. Is it unreasonable for her to leave during "packing up" time once a week?

PP you replied to. When my kids were little, I would never have dreamed of doing that. But they're now 19 and 14, and I've realized that people pull their kids out for all sorts of reasons. So if this enrichment opportunity is important to you, I think you should try. No, it's not a huge burden on the teacher, or the front office.

I pull out my youngest for extra violin rehearsals when she's gearing up for a competition or audition. Less than once a week, of course, which is normal, because she's in high school, and those classes are harder to make-up. But the concept is the same: that you do what's best for your kid.

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Anonymous wrote:I would do it if the enrichment was absolutely needed. But I’d talk to the principal first about it. If your child is accelerated past what the teacher is capable of teaching- then I would consider this essential to their education. Just like if your child needed special ed services, PT, or OT.

My own child took math classes not offered at their home middle school which required them to leave school 2 hrs early once per week. But it was a district program so it was excused.

I feel like it is needed, but admit school and lots of other parents may not agree. Our curriculum is a year behind some states, and I was told she is about 2 years ahead in math. She just brought home a worksheet from school at the level of problems like 10-5 and 7+2. I did talk to the teacher during conferences and she basically said that she isn't going to accelerate DD, but she can play math games and do math coloring instead.

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Anonymous wrote:DD tested into a math enrichment class 15 minutes away. Unfortunately, the only available class meets 15 minutes after the last school bell (and you know it takes time to be dismissed and get to the car). I don't want her to be 5-10 minutes late every single class. Do you think it would be unreasonable for me to pick DD up 10 minutes early every Monday afternoon? The issue is that it's a fairly large school (400 kids) and the pre-K program lets out 15-30 minutes before the upper grades, so it is kind of a hectic time in the school lot. My other question is whether all these count as unexcused early release (10 minutes a week through the rest of the year). What do you think? I have no idea if this is a non-issue or an unreasonable thing to ask of the school.

For prek? No.

Sorry I wasn't clear. PreK dismissal is 15-30 minutes before DD normally gets out. So for her to leave 5 or 10 minutes early, she would be in the tail end of preK dismissal.

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Care to elaborate. I forgot to mention that the last 20 minutes of school is time for packing, cleaning, and getting in to their various pick up groups.

Most schools don't allow pickup within 20 or so minutes of the bell.

?

I have picked up during this time before. Obviously not on a regular basis. I've never heard of it not being allowed... So if you have a kid's medical appointment, you'd have to pick them up extra early even though it's not necessary for the appointment?

Yes. So that you aren't getting in the way of regular dismissal. School gets out at the same time EVERY DAY. Plan your appointments as necessary. It's not that hard.

I guess we have a more flexible school. Kids have left near bell time a lot, since I can see them leaving while I am waiting to enter the lot.

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I won’t want to do it since it’s every week for an entire school year, and it’s not medical related ( teacher and/or school may not like /allow it), but if you plan to do it anyways, at least try once see the traffic after dismissal and how long does it take you to get to the activity place. I drive kids to activities once a week right after dismissal, the traffic is terrible and I have to allow double the time to get to the activity place. I even got a warning once due to speeding.

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Anonymous wrote:I would do it if the enrichment was absolutely needed. But I’d talk to the principal first about it. If your child is accelerated past what the teacher is capable of teaching- then I would consider this essential to their education. Just like if your child needed special ed services, PT, or OT.

My own child took math classes not offered at their home middle school which required them to leave school 2 hrs early once per week. But it was a district program so it was excused.

I feel like it is needed, but admit school and lots of other parents may not agree. Our curriculum is a year behind some states, and I was told she is about 2 years ahead in math. She just brought home a worksheet from school at the level of problems like 10-5 and 7+2. I did talk to the teacher during conferences and she basically said that she isn't going to accelerate DD, but she can play math games and do math coloring instead.

I would do it without hesitation in this case. It’s for the benefit of your child.