Do you wear your wedding ring when you cheat?

[Anonymous]

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You assume that the cheater is intentionally trying to hurt their partner. That's generally not the case. The cheater is usually just looking to fulfill something missing in the marriage--likely something they've asked for time and again to no avail. Each partner must accept responsibility for what is, or is not, created in the relationship.

You are a cheater's apologist. Studies show that the majority of people who cheat also say they are in a happy marriage. Most people cheat because they are looking to fill a void in THEMSELVES, not a void in the marriage. Choosing to cheat is 1000% on the person making the choice.

Choosing to cheat is of course the cheater's decision. I don't think that is in dispute. As for why, what leads to it, and all of that, it's never black and white.

Incorrect. The why doesn't matter - only the action. Did you cheat, or not? If so, that is your choice. Stop trying to blame your sh**y choices on your spouse. You are the only one choosing to disregard marriage vows, not the person sitting at home being faithful.

Woman here and reading this, I actually sympathize with the man.
Dear God, who can deal with this woman and keep their sanity??

Of course you're "a woman" on the anon board. More likely: you're sockpuppeting for the pp, who got taken to task (rightly) for being an apologist for cheaters.

[Anonymous]

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You assume that the cheater is intentionally trying to hurt their partner. That's generally not the case. The cheater is usually just looking to fulfill something missing in the marriage--likely something they've asked for time and again to no avail. Each partner must accept responsibility for what is, or is not, created in the relationship.

You are a cheater's apologist. Studies show that the majority of people who cheat also say they are in a happy marriage. Most people cheat because they are looking to fill a void in THEMSELVES, not a void in the marriage. Choosing to cheat is 1000% on the person making the choice.

Really? Cite these studies. That's mostly just a DCUM trope. Most all cheaters are not getting any sex from their spouse and go looking for it elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

You assume that the cheater is intentionally trying to hurt their partner. That's generally not the case. The cheater is usually just looking to fulfill something missing in the marriage--likely something they've asked for time and again to no avail. Each partner must accept responsibility for what is, or is not, created in the relationship.

You are a cheater's apologist. Studies show that the majority of people who cheat also say they are in a happy marriage. Most people cheat because they are looking to fill a void in THEMSELVES, not a void in the marriage. Choosing to cheat is 1000% on the person making the choice.

Really? Cite these studies. That's mostly just a DCUM trope. Most all cheaters are not getting any sex from their spouse and go looking for it elsewhere.

This is true I believe. I've read it multiple times in infidelity books.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

You assume that the cheater is intentionally trying to hurt their partner. That's generally not the case. The cheater is usually just looking to fulfill something missing in the marriage--likely something they've asked for time and again to no avail. Each partner must accept responsibility for what is, or is not, created in the relationship.

You are a cheater's apologist. Studies show that the majority of people who cheat also say they are in a happy marriage. Most people cheat because they are looking to fill a void in THEMSELVES, not a void in the marriage. Choosing to cheat is 1000% on the person making the choice.

Really? Cite these studies. That's mostly just a DCUM trope. Most all cheaters are not getting any sex from their spouse and go looking for it elsewhere.

I think lots of cheaters are in happy enough marriages, not great but also not bad enough to divorce.

If things were great, you wouldn’t cheat and if they are so bad you just divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

You assume that the cheater is intentionally trying to hurt their partner. That's generally not the case. The cheater is usually just looking to fulfill something missing in the marriage--likely something they've asked for time and again to no avail. Each partner must accept responsibility for what is, or is not, created in the relationship.

You are a cheater's apologist. Studies show that the majority of people who cheat also say they are in a happy marriage. Most people cheat because they are looking to fill a void in THEMSELVES, not a void in the marriage. Choosing to cheat is 1000% on the person making the choice.

Really? Cite these studies. That's mostly just a DCUM trope. Most all cheaters are not getting any sex from their spouse and go looking for it elsewhere.

I think lots of cheaters are in happy enough marriages, not great but also not bad enough to divorce.

If things were great, you wouldn’t cheat and if they are so bad you just divorce.

Happy marriage here. Sex 3-4 times a week. Zero signs. Got a text from a fiend across the country this weekend - great family —51 year old husband of 25 years was banging someone elss. They literally just did a 6-month vacation around the world with kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

You assume that the cheater is intentionally trying to hurt their partner. That's generally not the case. The cheater is usually just looking to fulfill something missing in the marriage--likely something they've asked for time and again to no avail. Each partner must accept responsibility for what is, or is not, created in the relationship.

You are a cheater's apologist. Studies show that the majority of people who cheat also say they are in a happy marriage. Most people cheat because they are looking to fill a void in THEMSELVES, not a void in the marriage. Choosing to cheat is 1000% on the person making the choice.

Really? Cite these studies. That's mostly just a DCUM trope. Most all cheaters are not getting any sex from their spouse and go looking for it elsewhere.

I think lots of cheaters are in happy enough marriages, not great but also not bad enough to divorce.

If things were great, you wouldn’t cheat and if they are so bad you just divorce.

This is 100% my situation . Not great so I cheat but not bad enough to divorce

[Anonymous]

You are a cheater's apologist. Studies show that the majority of people who cheat also say they are in a happy marriage. Most people cheat because they are looking to fill a void in THEMSELVES, not a void in the marriage. Choosing to cheat is 1000% on the person making the choice.

Really? Cite these studies. That's mostly just a DCUM trope. Most all cheaters are not getting any sex from their spouse and go looking for it elsewhere.

You really should educate yourself before you go trying to pretend to know anything. See the article below. There are many, many that say the same thing. So - you are wrong.

Statistics show that 56% of men and 34% of women who commit infidelity rate their marriages as happy or very happy. This makes the reason people cheat a little harder to dissect and comprehend.

https://couplesacademy.org/infidelity-statistics/

[Anonymous]

DP. Concur that my marriage is good, therefore not looking to divorce. But not great, therefore I cheated.

[Anonymous]

The ring question actually hits at one of the key reasons people cheat - temptation / thrill of something forbidden.

I haven’t sexually cheated but have definitely gotten a little too flirty and touchy with a married co worker over drinks. The fact my ring was brushing up against parts of her body that should be off limits, and she wasn’t doing anything to stop it, was part of the power trip / turn on.

I sort of see this like an addiction / drug. Some people commit transgressions in controlled doses while others totally blow things up with serial behavior …

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The ring question actually hits at one of the key reasons people cheat - temptation / thrill of something forbidden.

I haven’t sexually cheated but have definitely gotten a little too flirty and touchy with a married co worker over drinks. The fact my ring was brushing up against parts of her body that should be off limits, and she wasn’t doing anything to stop it, was part of the power trip / turn on.

I sort of see this like an addiction / drug. Some people commit transgressions in controlled doses while others totally blow things up with serial behavior …

It is like an addiction because your brain is flooded with dopamine. I think you feel the thrill even without wearing the ring since you still know you are both married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Once upon a time I was a cheating wife. I didn't bother hiding it. I think guys were turned on seeing the diamonds while...

While rearranging your insides?