Do you wear your wedding ring when you cheat?

[Anonymous]

I only remember one AP of mine who asked me if I wanted her to take off her rings. Told her, no and she never asked again. No one else mentioned it except one who said she knew I probably liked it. I did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Once upon a time I was a cheating wife. I didn't bother hiding it. I think guys were turned on seeing the diamonds while...

I know I was.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like for many APs, the ring is part of the turn on

It can be for sure. I was indifferent to it most of the time but I did find it a turn on when I'd look at her jeweled fingers wrapped around me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine slipped his off. That was one if the first questions I asked upon discovery.

I’m in a similar situation
Please let me know what good questions to ask in discovery about his affair?

[Anonymous]

Jewelry is not a turn on for us, I think that’s weird.

[Anonymous]

All the sanctimonious comments on this post reveal how little people understand about the motives for cheating. Ideally a married couple grows together and maintains healthy, open communication; however, the reality of marriage is that there are ups and downs as two people evolve (or don't) emotionally, psychologically, spiritually and even physically. If you've been cheated on, you are 100% part of the problem because you are 50% of the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All the sanctimonious comments on this post reveal how little people understand about the motives for cheating. Ideally a married couple grows together and maintains healthy, open communication; however, the reality of marriage is that there are ups and downs as two people evolve (or don't) emotionally, psychologically, spiritually and even physically. If you've been cheated on, you are 100% part of the problem because you are 50% of the relationship.

Fk no. Some people are the problem. They cheat in every single relationship. They have issues and bad character.

I’ve been in bad relationships and a long marriage with some serious low points and not once did I cheat.

Do better. Stop making excuses.

[Anonymous]

Betrayal is not actually about the marriage. Hurt people hurt people. Get some help and become a more decent person with integrity. You have chosen to split yourself in pieces. Why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Betrayal is not actually about the marriage. Hurt people hurt people. Get some help and become a more decent person with integrity. You have chosen to split yourself in pieces. Why?

I think men can do this much more easily- compartmentalize their affair partner and family, in order to maintain an image.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Betrayal is not actually about the marriage. Hurt people hurt people. Get some help and become a more decent person with integrity. You have chosen to split yourself in pieces. Why?

I think men can do this much more easily- compartmentalize their affair partner and family, in order to maintain an image.

Lots of people in happy marriages cheat. There is something missing that someone else gives you.

[Anonymous]

80% time, my AP's took off their ring.
The rest of time, they forgot in the heat of things.

There's no deeper meaning behind it, one way or the other.

The one who never wore the ring still has not divorced despite kids out of the house and being miserable.

The one who made a big deal over not taking off the ring is the one is legally separated and on way to divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Betrayal is not actually about the marriage. Hurt people hurt people. Get some help and become a more decent person with integrity. You have chosen to split yourself in pieces. Why?

I think men can do this much more easily- compartmentalize their affair partner and family, in order to maintain an image.

Lots of people in happy marriages cheat. There is something missing that someone else gives you.

Absolutely correct.
From a woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Betrayal is not actually about the marriage. Hurt people hurt people. Get some help and become a more decent person with integrity. You have chosen to split yourself in pieces. Why?

You assume that the cheater is intentionally trying to hurt their partner. That's generally not the case. The cheater is usually just looking to fulfill something missing in the marriage--likely something they've asked for time and again to no avail. Each partner must accept responsibility for what is, or is not, created in the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Lots of people in happy marriages cheat. There is something missing [b]in the cheater and they are trying to fill that void in their own character[b]

Fixed that for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Always wear the rings, we are both married. You may loose it if you take it off.

*lose