If you are patiently waiting to divorce, please come in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have been divorced for 2 years and live together. That's an option to consider if you are not planning to be in a serious relationship or get remarried. We have 6 years to go. We have a bigger house though and I converted our shed into a man's cave. I hardly see my ex wife. We communicated via texts and just for kids stuff.

Tax reasons to do this already instead of later? Don’t get it.

Lots of married people don’t live together. Ask around

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yet another DH with mental health issues
Every day we have such a post

No one wants to admit it, but most men are simply not built to handle the complexities of home management and child rearing. It involves too many balls in the air. They are better suited to singular focus. But since we now require "equality" we pathologize men when they struggle.

If they were not so "singular" about abusing women and leaving them poor when they "singularly" decide to leave marriages were women are financially dependent, perhaps more women would let them have "singular" focus in marriage. You cannot have it both ways

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:8 years?!

Sometimes, this is what "prioritizing the children's best interests" looks like.

I'm still married on paper. We live essentially separate lives in separate houses. It's less than ideal, but it preserves our children's quality of life, allowing their childhood to be about them being children, not collateral damage in a war between their parents.

I'd divorce my spouse today if doing so wouldn't throw my children's lives into financial chaos and upheaval, but it would. So we make do. Sometimes, loving someone means doing what's best for them instead of what's easiest for me.

But you're already supporting two households - isn't that generally the financial issue? What would change if you got divorced?

Health insurance, for starters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yet another DH with mental health issues
Every day we have such a post

No one wants to admit it, but most men are simply not built to handle the complexities of home management and child rearing. It involves too many balls in the air. They are better suited to singular focus. But since we now require "equality" we pathologize men when they struggle.

If women can do it, so can men.

Can but won’t. Even more selfish and insulting.