If you are patiently waiting to divorce, please come in.

[Anonymous]

So many delusional & deflecting women on here.
So sexist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:8 years?!

Sometimes, this is what "prioritizing the children's best interests" looks like.

I'm still married on paper. We live essentially separate lives in separate houses. It's less than ideal, but it preserves our children's quality of life, allowing their childhood to be about them being children, not collateral damage in a war between their parents.

I'd divorce my spouse today if doing so wouldn't throw my children's lives into financial chaos and upheaval, but it would. So we make do. Sometimes, loving someone means doing what's best for them instead of what's easiest for me.

You really aren’t doing your children any favors by modeling such a messed up relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sure your husband is counting the days too.

Probably not. The ADHD/ASD types are entirely oblivious. I feel this area has a lot of them, because they do well in jobs that require very high levels of technical expertise, and the DC area has a lot of jobs like this. In my little street, there are no less than three men with that profile. One of them can't keep a girlfriend, the two others have very unhappy wives.

Women in general are a cranky bunch. A lot of them make the mistake of thinking their partner is to blame. Then they divorce and discover they’re still unhappy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sure your husband is counting the days too.

Probably not. The ADHD/ASD types are entirely oblivious. I feel this area has a lot of them, because they do well in jobs that require very high levels of technical expertise, and the DC area has a lot of jobs like this. In my little street, there are no less than three men with that profile. One of them can't keep a girlfriend, the two others have very unhappy wives.

Women in general are a cranky bunch. A lot of them make the mistake of thinking their partner is to blame. Then they divorce and discover they’re still unhappy.

See the opposite. The women are happy. Their ex goes and repeats the same bad behaviors with another woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ex-wife said she would divorce me when the youngest turned 18. I beat her to the punch by 12 years. Best decision I ever made.

Yay 50/50 finally! Hope the kids have it together.

They are probably doing better than your kids

#triggered

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom did this spring semester of my (the youngest) freshman year at college and can’t understand why we’re estranged.

I'm sure she is confused how she raised such a self-centered child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ex-wife said she would divorce me when the youngest turned 18. I beat her to the punch by 12 years. Best decision I ever made.

Good for you. What kind of idiot would announce something like this?

There are many of those idiots on this board

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom did this spring semester of my (the youngest) freshman year at college and can’t understand why we’re estranged.

What should she have done instead, assuming she could not remain married without being miserable?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:8 years?!

Sometimes, this is what "prioritizing the children's best interests" looks like.

I'm still married on paper. We live essentially separate lives in separate houses. It's less than ideal, but it preserves our children's quality of life, allowing their childhood to be about them being children, not collateral damage in a war between their parents.

I'd divorce my spouse today if doing so wouldn't throw my children's lives into financial chaos and upheaval, but it would. So we make do. Sometimes, loving someone means doing what's best for them instead of what's easiest for me.

So, you’re separated?

[Anonymous]

Just waiting for the next round of paperwork. Trying hard to be patient.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom did this spring semester of my (the youngest) freshman year at college and can’t understand why we’re estranged.

Your mom did what?

Why are you both estranged from each other?

[Anonymous]

8 years is long enough to get help for ADHD. Since most people seem to have no sympathy for this disability, a majoroty of people with ADHD have other comorbidities like anxiety and depression so maybe you could offer some compassion as a different way to approach your situation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:8 years?!

Sometimes, this is what "prioritizing the children's best interests" looks like.

I'm still married on paper. We live essentially separate lives in separate houses. It's less than ideal, but it preserves our children's quality of life, allowing their childhood to be about them being children, not collateral damage in a war between their parents.

I'd divorce my spouse today if doing so wouldn't throw my children's lives into financial chaos and upheaval, but it would. So we make do. Sometimes, loving someone means doing what's best for them instead of what's easiest for me.

No loving your children is not staying in a bad marriage you tho k they aren’t messed up because you stay lol dumb

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:8 years?!

Sometimes, this is what "prioritizing the children's best interests" looks like.

I'm still married on paper. We live essentially separate lives in separate houses. It's less than ideal, but it preserves our children's quality of life, allowing their childhood to be about them being children, not collateral damage in a war between their parents.

I'd divorce my spouse today if doing so wouldn't throw my children's lives into financial chaos and upheaval, but it would. So we make do. Sometimes, loving someone means doing what's best for them instead of what's easiest for me.

No loving your children is not staying in a bad marriage you tho k they aren’t messed up because you stay lol dumb

The fact of the matter is, if your father is a selfish mentally disordered person you, as a child, will suffer whether he’s a divorced coparent deadbeat or a married deadbeat.

In fact, you will suffer until you cut him off entirely, set strong boundaries, or he dies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:8 years is long enough to get help for ADHD. Since most people seem to have no sympathy for this disability, a majoroty of people with ADHD have other comorbidities like anxiety and depression so maybe you could offer some compassion as a different way to approach your situation?

Funny how women with adhd get professional help and stay on meds but men with adhd rage and don’t even accept their symptoms if diagnoses.