flexible summer schedules

[Anonymous]

I would block it as you know it's an issue. ANd your SVP has given permission for people to be more compressed.

And don't feel guilty or like you have to contort yourself. be confident.

[Anonymous]

Make sure you update when camp starts, OP!

[Anonymous]

I would decline it saying per your outlook calendar you are unavailable and calendar is up-to-date for them to offer another time. You will watch recording or catch up with someone who attends.

That’s ridiculous of that person and if they come back I would then reply quoting the svp about making reasonable accommodations. If you are the only one to do this, that’s their poor mgmt. never should be one person deep.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is this the kind of job you have to cancel vacation for, like a law firm? If not, then tell them you have prescheduled commitments and you cannot make that time. No ifs, ands or buts. If it was important enough that you be there, they should have asked you. If you’d been on vacation they’d have rescheduled or found a sub, right? So tell them that.

If it’s a job where you must cancel vacation to accommodate them, then that sucks and I’m sorry. Been there. Left for a more family friendly place. In the meantime call the camp and ask if they have a carpool list. Maybe you can make an arrangement with another parent or outright pay them.

The company is totally cool with vacation and stepping out and whatever. This particular individual, who again, I do not report to, is not. Kind of tempted to just call in sick tomorrow.

OP, you are causing the problem here by not declining the meeting. It's not great that you left it until the night before, but tell your boss you can't make it to the meeting. Say you will be happy to reschedule later in the same day, or they can find someone else to present the material which you are happy to provide.

I bet the other person has some summer commitment they don't want impinged by a normal meeting time. Too bad for them.

The invitation was only sent at 1 pm today. I DID decline the meeting and propose a new time this afternoon.

Then stick with this approach OP. You are not available during the requested timeslot. You do not need to say it’s due to your child’s camp. I wouldn’t even get into this with someone that isn’t your manager. This is a short time period you’re not available and that’s ok.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would push back citing the policy of the other senior member. Say “I have a family conflict that will pull me away from 8-8:40 every morning.” Or something.

How lame and performative of them btw. Yuck.

Don't say "family" conflict if you are a woman. It just feeds a stereotype. Leave it at, "I have a conflict, but am available after 8:45," or something like that.

Great point. I think a lot of women (including myself) have a tendency to over explain because we feel guilty for balancing kids and career. But we do not owe our employer an expectation for what we do during non work hours.

I want to add on to the above. You also do not owe your employer an explanation for what you are doing during business hours if you have the flexibility to take leave for personal reasons as needed. Do not schedule your PTO as a “parent teacher conference” or your “annual wellness exam”. It’s just personal appt from 10am-Noon.

For the naysayers - no, this doesn’t work in every position (eg shitftwork where hours can’t be flexed). But most posters on DCUM are desk workers and can take PTO during the day for personal reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would push back citing the policy of the other senior member. Say “I have a family conflict that will pull me away from 8-8:40 every morning.” Or something.

How lame and performative of them btw. Yuck.

Absolutely this. That is terrible and unnecessary behavior by the manager. I make 4x your salary and would not put up with this either - also have two young kids and it would destroy our mornings and schedule.

It's workplace dysfunction and people need to push back.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am not fine, as it turns out. He called my boss (who is in Denver) at 7:45 EDT and laid into him, saying I was being "uncooperative." Boss told him to pound sand, but this manager is now furious with me and already working up to chain to let anyone within earshot know how useless I am.

Dollars to donuts this is not the first time and won't be the last time this manager is being a jerk. You're in thr right and your supervisor has your back. You'll be fine, especially since 70k isn't enough to get rid of you. If it goes to HR, ask them to renegotiate your salary to have you on call beyond an 8 hour work day.

+1 no way they are finding someone else willing to work these BS hours for that salary.

As a PP said, there are "drop everything" jobs and they pay commensurate to it. This is not that job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would push back citing the policy of the other senior member. Say “I have a family conflict that will pull me away from 8-8:40 every morning.” Or something.

How lame and performative of them btw. Yuck.

This. I'd decline the meeting and say I"m not starting my day until xXXX time for the next 2 weeks due to a family obligation. Cite the other manager re: flexible schedules. The end.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would push back citing the policy of the other senior member. Say “I have a family conflict that will pull me away from 8-8:40 every morning.” Or something.

How lame and performative of them btw. Yuck.

“I have a conflict between 8 and 830 every morning. My calendar is up to date with my availability” [block off times you don’t want to meet]

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would push back citing the policy of the other senior member. Say “I have a family conflict that will pull me away from 8-8:40 every morning.” Or something.

How lame and performative of them btw. Yuck.

Don't say "family" conflict if you are a woman. It just feeds a stereotype. Leave it at, "I have a conflict, but am available after 8:45," or something like that.

Great point. I think a lot of women (including myself) have a tendency to over explain because we feel guilty for balancing kids and career. But we do not owe our employer an expectation for what we do during non work hours.

I want to add on to the above. You also do not owe your employer an explanation for what you are doing during business hours if you have the flexibility to take leave for personal reasons as needed. Do not schedule your PTO as a “parent teacher conference” or your “annual wellness exam”. It’s just personal appt from 10am-Noon.

For the naysayers - no, this doesn’t work in every position (eg shitftwork where hours can’t be flexed). But most posters on DCUM are desk workers and can take PTO during the day for personal reasons.

Yes! I am a late 30s leader and I had to tell my direct reports to stop inputting why they are taking PTO. We have open PTO, I could care less what you are doing (in the sense of approving the time) and I feel like people think they need a “good” reason to take time off.

I also wanted them to set the expectation with their teams that they don’t need to convince them (my direct reports) that the time off is justified.

[Anonymous]

Are there people on the call who are in Europe or something? That is the only justification for an 8:00 AM call. Guy sounds like an a-hole.