Critiques and criticism from the parents and spectators

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the coach is the only one that should be coaching during a game.

I give my sons “cheering” type feedback (good job! Nice shot! Great save! Whatever)

I can’t imagine having the audacity to correct/critique another player on the team, but I know it happens. Thankfully we haven’t encountered it…yet (my sons are only 8)

Jim the Accountant who was on the bench in High School the last time he wore a soccer kit and doesn't watch soccer on TV giving tactical advice 😄

[Anonymous]

Coaching from the sidelines by parents is always detrimental. It is just distracting. Coaching from the sidelines by coaches should also be minimized. I agree with other posters that coaches should make their points in practice and minimize their shouting. They can make their points to players that are on the sideline.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Lot of clapping is important and always say excactly how you are feeling throughout the game. Crossing enemy lines like seat jumping in a stadium to upgrade, its great way to meet new people and have lively conversations. Conversation may go astray so clapping is harder and louder can divert from any conflict

The "my side of the field, your side of the field" stuff is funny. There are no assigned seats lol. My daughter plays forward so I usually watch from the offensive half of the field; I spend half the game on the "other team's side." 9 time out of 10 it's no problem at all, people are chill. Every once in a while, you get a bunch of obnoxious parents trash talking the other team, berating the referee nonstop, etc.

If you were on your side you wouldn't hear these private conversations. Parents that sit on the opponent's side and scream/cheer for their team are so obnoxious.

I'm pretty sure some leagues do have rules about where to sit for just this reason.

Yes, just as one example, here are the current NCSL rules for spectators; but other leagues and tournaments have no rules or different rules:

All teams shall be on one side of the field and spectators shall be on the opposite side (unless this is not possible due to geographic conditions).

Coaches and assistants shall remain within 20 yards of their side of the center line.

Coaches are responsible for controlling their own behavior and that of their team and adults on their sideline.

Spectators shall remain between the 18-yard lines extended to the touchline and shall be a minimum of 3 yards from the touchline, whether a spectator restraining line is provided or not. Spectators may not stand behind the goal line or goal.

Use of horns, clappers, bells, sirens, megaphones, etc. is not permitted at NCSL games.

Yep. Notice that there is nothing in those rules about "Team A has to be on this half of the field; Team B has to be on the other half", i.e., none of this silly "our side" and "your side" nonsense for spectators.

If parents and spectators were behaving appropriately, there would be no issues with a parent from the other team standing near you on "your side" of the field.

[Anonymous]

Also annoying are the parents that yell 'man on'.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also annoying are the parents that yell 'man on'.

Not too bad that one

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most parents don't know soccer well enough to scream directions but of course those are aways the loudest.

This.

And the funny thing is that the parents who played at a decent level usually know enough to know they should shut up and watch the game.

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Anonymous wrote:Lot of clapping is important and always say excactly how you are feeling throughout the game. Crossing enemy lines like seat jumping in a stadium to upgrade, its great way to meet new people and have lively conversations. Conversation may go astray so clapping is harder and louder can divert from any conflict

The "my side of the field, your side of the field" stuff is funny. There are no assigned seats lol. My daughter plays forward so I usually watch from the offensive half of the field; I spend half the game on the "other team's side." 9 time out of 10 it's no problem at all, people are chill. Every once in a while, you get a bunch of obnoxious parents trash talking the other team, berating the referee nonstop, etc.

If you were on your side you wouldn't hear these private conversations. Parents that sit on the opponent's side and scream/cheer for their team are so obnoxious.

I'm pretty sure some leagues do have rules about where to sit for just this reason.

Yes, just as one example, here are the current NCSL rules for spectators; but other leagues and tournaments have no rules or different rules:

All teams shall be on one side of the field and spectators shall be on the opposite side (unless this is not possible due to geographic conditions).

Coaches and assistants shall remain within 20 yards of their side of the center line.

Coaches are responsible for controlling their own behavior and that of their team and adults on their sideline.

Spectators shall remain between the 18-yard lines extended to the touchline and shall be a minimum of 3 yards from the touchline, whether a spectator restraining line is provided or not. Spectators may not stand behind the goal line or goal.

Use of horns, clappers, bells, sirens, megaphones, etc. is not permitted at NCSL games.

Yep. Notice that there is nothing in those rules about "Team A has to be on this half of the field; Team B has to be on the other half", i.e., none of this silly "our side" and "your side" nonsense for spectators.

If parents and spectators were behaving appropriately, there would be no issues with a parent from the other team standing near you on "your side" of the field.

The one time I've ejected spectators was when a couple of them were about to throw fists, which I advised them to do in the parking lot instead of on the sideline. One was apologetic after the game, which I appreciated.

[Anonymous]

My daughter's coach was working on a new system of play against an admittedly weaker team one game last year. Parents kept screaming at the kids to do different things and he finally called across the field and told them to stop. This coach is known for being quiet and having talks with individual kids when they come out or before they go in to a game and with the team at halftime, but generally he lets them play and work things out on the field. He says his philosophy is to coach during training and generally to let their brains develop in the games. Everyone was stunned, and since then they have a stopped coaching on the sidelines for the most part. It has been so much nicer!

[Anonymous]

Bring lollipops and tell them to suck it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter's coach was working on a new system of play against an admittedly weaker team one game last year. Parents kept screaming at the kids to do different things and he finally called across the field and told them to stop. This coach is known for being quiet and having talks with individual kids when they come out or before they go in to a game and with the team at halftime, but generally he lets them play and work things out on the field. He says his philosophy is to coach during training and generally to let their brains develop in the games. Everyone was stunned, and since then they have a stopped coaching on the sidelines for the most part. It has been so much nicer!

Give that Coach an award. Not for teaching the Coaching points at practice and not yelling at the kids during the games, but for Communicating his philosophy to the parents in real time! Amazing.