Don’t ask the question if you can’t handle the first hand feedback. |
OP is thinking about the kids. It's OP's therapist who isn't. I vote OP gets a new therapist. |
The low interaction is what would concern me OP. Are the parents cordial/friendly just lacking romance? Can they sit down together for family dinners? Or are they essentially strangers living under the same roof? I would not discount how much stress the latter puts on children. |
Not every therapist has similar worth as the couch they use. |
+1 million |
+1 |
I'm in situation #1 and will stay there at least till DD leaves, only because she would HATE having her time split and having to spend time with DH instead of me. She doesn't even like that I leave for work before she needs to go to the bus and DH has to take her. |
Try posting in a medical board. The whole point of this site is soliciting opinions. |
I can handle it. I can also tell you your example is not the norm. And that it’s not about the parent but the kids. And that some people are weaker and more selfish than others. |
WTF. You are on a parenting message board and OP doesn’t want our opinion. The point of this site is to get other people’s opinions on your situation. |
OP you’re a stuck up stuffy butt |
DH's parents divorced right after he moved out of the house and the divorce still effects him as an adult! No matter what age you are, divorce effects kids or adult kids. I was shocked to see it unfold in him but after all, your parents are your parents. |
For those I know in this situation, their trauma came from realizing their happy childhood memories were a shame. And there were soooo many memories. And learning as an adult that it was fake is more traumatic than growing up with seperate but caring and honest parents. |
This is where we are. Low conflict, no romance. We are still warm and cordial and cooperative. We have family dinners, do family activities, and take vacations together. Are we blissfully happy adults? No. But we are content knowing we are doing our kids who are in fact blissfully happy. They would be devastated by a divorced living situation. Once they are adults, we shall see and even if they are devastated then well they will have to be grown ups about it because life is complicated. |
Not a study, but a child of divorce here too. I definitely would pick 1. Being a child of divorce scars you for life and I had an excellent mother and grandparents. |