Don't call us.. we will call you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is there a history of people calling them and waking them up?

No


-- OP

Then they are just weird. I would understand if they were on a week or two week vacation. I find it odd that they change residences for two months out of the year and just don’t want to talk to you.

How often do you talk the rest of the year?

[Anonymous]

Talk a lot the rest of the year, but always feel like they want to control everything

[Anonymous]

Bump

[Anonymous]

Why wont you let them enjoy their vacation in peace?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why wont you let them enjoy their vacation in peace?

I am just talking about them "wanting" to call 1 time to speak to hrandkids maybe once in 2 months.

[Anonymous]

Your original question was do we think this is an acceptable level of communication with you and your adult siblings, and most ppl responded yes.

Now you bring up grandkids.

I'm in the camp of letting them enjoy their vacation and be unplugged from the home world. What any of us, or you, for that matter, think of the frequency of communication doesn't matter. They do not want to bother during their vacation and are setting boundaries. Respect that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's sad, like they don't want to talk to you.

Plus 1

[Anonymous]

So they are normally controlling and you have some kind of emotional dependency on that/them because in order to be willing to be controlled, they must offer something of value.

They probably know that being controlling 12 months out of the year is a lot for anyone to bear so they disappear for two months so that you’ll miss them, creating higher demand for them upon their return. Controlling people are also manipulative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nonsense like this makes me miss the world before cell phones and cheap international calling. When I was 16 I went to the USSR for a month and didn’t call my parents until I was waiting for my connecting flight home from the east coast.

Ask them to send a freaking postcard.

Offtopic but I am from the former USSR and just curious how you got to go there and if you’ve ever been back to (I presume) Russia?

[Anonymous]

My guess: they have to pay for incoming calls and/or don’t know how to use silent mode at night

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are the usually communicative or reserved?

Hard to explain- but a combination of both.

-- OP

Narcissistic then
-DP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Long story short: My parents spend 2 months at a Thailand resort every year. I am mid-50's and have 2 adult brothers. We all have families.
Although my parents are older, they are both in great physical and mental health.

Every year before they leave for their trip, they say, "don't call us- we will call you." They always call once. They just got back, and this time they did not call anyone even once. We did communicate more regularly by text (brief texts.)

My question is what do you think is an acceptable level of communication in this situation?

How would you feel if you called and a ladyboy answered?

lol I was thinking along the same lines

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here again. Nothing wrong with texts. When my daughter is grown up, I cannot imagine not speaking to her for 2 months- I would want to, is my point.

You don’t know what she will be like and what your relationship will be like.
I love my son who is a teen but we’ve been apart for a month once and for 6 weeks another time and spoke only once (he stayed with his dad fwiw).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why wont you let them enjoy their vacation in peace?

I am just talking about them "wanting" to call 1 time to speak to hrandkids maybe once in 2 months.

What’s there to change in 2 months? They can call when they get back.
Not everyone is super fond of kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My guess: they have to pay for incoming calls and/or don’t know how to use silent mode at night

No- not the case.

--OP