Parents/Families at these schools...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t read all of this.

PSA: take your Big 3 offer

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a mom who doesn’t work outside the home and if someone described me as an unemployed mom I would probably punch them in their flinty eyed face so whoever wrote that, if you’re wondering why the moms at your school don’t like you let this be a clue.

+1

And I'd like to add that as a highly educated SAHM who has chosen to stay home for many reasons, I'm also the one volunteering for many jobs at the school and the one you call to pick up your kid in the carpool line when the nanny is sick. And I'm certainly not social engineering the class dynamics. Why are you disparaging a group of people simply because they have made a different choice? I respect and appreciate my friends with high powered careers and they do the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a mom who doesn’t work outside the home and if someone described me as an unemployed mom I would probably punch them in their flinty eyed face so whoever wrote that, if you’re wondering why the moms at your school don’t like you let this be a clue.

+1000
Well said. That poster is an obnoxious and rude person and I hope not at my kids school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a mom who doesn’t work outside the home and if someone described me as an unemployed mom I would probably punch them in their flinty eyed face so whoever wrote that, if you’re wondering why the moms at your school don’t like you let this be a clue.

+1

And I'd like to add that as a highly educated SAHM who has chosen to stay home for many reasons, I'm also the one volunteering for many jobs at the school and the one you call to pick up your kid in the carpool line when the nanny is sick. And I'm certainly not social engineering the class dynamics. Why are you disparaging a group of people simply because they have made a different choice? I respect and appreciate my friends with high powered careers and they do the same.

Oh, c'mon, you know when we meet you at the school a school function, as soon as you say what you do (or don't do in this case), we look right past you, anxiously trying to see how we can escape and talk to the interesting people. I don't know why we are arguing about this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think its interesting that people assume every type of parent doesn't exist at all these schools. Choose one school over another isn't going to be like a magic social circle of happiness. The best thing you can do is pick the school based on the philosophy of the school and if it feels like a good fit for your kid. Chances are, if you do that..you will find families that value similar things and likely vibe with many of them as a result.

This isn't true. Many of these schools have a significantly higher number of a specific type of personality, which is why they have the reputations they do. Ignore it and you'll end up stuck at a school with moms who don't have much else going on outside of the school and they will let you know while making your child miserable.

this is so true. We have encountered a horrible queenbee mom at our DC’s school and she has made the experience miserable for us. She and her posies make sure to make my child feel left out. My child is a lot older and doesn’t care anymore. But the initial were tough very tough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a mom who doesn’t work outside the home and if someone described me as an unemployed mom I would probably punch them in their flinty eyed face so whoever wrote that, if you’re wondering why the moms at your school don’t like you let this be a clue.

+1

And I'd like to add that as a highly educated SAHM who has chosen to stay home for many reasons, I'm also the one volunteering for many jobs at the school and the one you call to pick up your kid in the carpool line when the nanny is sick. And I'm certainly not social engineering the class dynamics. Why are you disparaging a group of people simply because they have made a different choice? I respect and appreciate my friends with high powered careers and they do the same.

Oh, c'mon, you know when we meet you at the school a school function, as soon as you say what you do (or don't do in this case), we look right past you, anxiously trying to see how we can escape and talk to the interesting people. I don't know why we are arguing about this.

Who wants to be a #2?! 💩

[Anonymous]

That was joke btw - but I'd love to be a #1. Sounds amazing!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sidwell parent here...we are not a monolith. It's a fairly diverse community. I will say that I enjoy most of the parents I encounter, but there are some (as I am sure exist everywhere) that I try to avoid.

And they post negativity on here every week, can’t miss them. Flinty stared and bravely posting outlier opinions anonymously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a mom who doesn’t work outside the home and if someone described me as an unemployed mom I would probably punch them in their flinty eyed face so whoever wrote that, if you’re wondering why the moms at your school don’t like you let this be a clue.

+1

And I'd like to add that as a highly educated SAHM who has chosen to stay home for many reasons, I'm also the one volunteering for many jobs at the school and the one you call to pick up your kid in the carpool line when the nanny is sick. And I'm certainly not social engineering the class dynamics. Why are you disparaging a group of people simply because they have made a different choice? I respect and appreciate my friends with high powered careers and they do the same.

I’m a highly educated NOT-a-SAHM who does all those things too and volunteers at the school. Just saying

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DCUM stereotypes of the parents at my kid's school were 100% right. I wish I'd believed them going in instead of being led down the garden path by admissions and admin. I'm not sure it would have changed anything but at least I would have had my eyes open.

Search for the worst, most troll filled threads you can find about your prospective schools. Take everything you read about the parent vibe as absolute gospel.

Exactly - the only way to know is ask current families and visit schools. So many posts on dcum are obviously from the admissions teams!
Thank me later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a mom who doesn’t work outside the home and if someone described me as an unemployed mom I would probably punch them in their flinty eyed face so whoever wrote that, if you’re wondering why the moms at your school don’t like you let this be a clue.

+1

And I'd like to add that as a highly educated SAHM who has chosen to stay home for many reasons, I'm also the one volunteering for many jobs at the school and the one you call to pick up your kid in the carpool line when the nanny is sick. And I'm certainly not social engineering the class dynamics. Why are you disparaging a group of people simply because they have made a different choice? I respect and appreciate my friends with high powered careers and they do the same.

Issue is many working moms do not respect SAHM or they are just secretly jealous. Ran across a few of these with around the clock housekeeper and nanny and they only saw their kids maybe 3 days a week (as their kids were in bed before they got home for years when kids were little). These working moms would work all day then go out to mom and other adult cocktail events and dinners almost every night of the week. So sad and their kids were just very sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think its interesting that people assume every type of parent doesn't exist at all these schools. Choose one school over another isn't going to be like a magic social circle of happiness. The best thing you can do is pick the school based on the philosophy of the school and if it feels like a good fit for your kid. Chances are, if you do that..you will find families that value similar things and likely vibe with many of them as a result.

This isn't true. Many of these schools have a significantly higher number of a specific type of personality, which is why they have the reputations they do. Ignore it and you'll end up stuck at a school with moms who don't have much else going on outside of the school and they will let you know while making your child miserable.

this is so true. We have encountered a horrible queenbee mom at our DC’s school and she has made the experience miserable for us. She and her posies make sure to make my child feel left out. My child is a lot older and doesn’t care anymore. But the initial were tough very tough.

What school? This is what OP is asking.

We had a queen bee or two at ours that tried to cut kids out and it did work for many years even in highschool until their own kids starting seeing what they were doing and told them to stop. This was at a boys school. Their kids say things about their mean moms that I would be devastated if my kids said about me. Their boys saw right through their crap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a mom who doesn’t work outside the home and if someone described me as an unemployed mom I would probably punch them in their flinty eyed face so whoever wrote that, if you’re wondering why the moms at your school don’t like you let this be a clue.

+1

And I'd like to add that as a highly educated SAHM who has chosen to stay home for many reasons, I'm also the one volunteering for many jobs at the school and the one you call to pick up your kid in the carpool line when the nanny is sick. And I'm certainly not social engineering the class dynamics. Why are you disparaging a group of people simply because they have made a different choice? I respect and appreciate my friends with high powered careers and they do the same.

I’m a highly educated NOT-a-SAHM who does all those things too and volunteers at the school. Just saying

But you missed a lot when they were younger and went to bed before you got home. Be honest you can have it all but not at the same time and it is okay.