Congratulations OP!! |
Why? Because he has two kids? I am honestly curious. |
OMG i have nothing against having kids early but THIS ^ is insane. |
I'm surprised a college educated teacher would even consider such a man. |
Tell her to sit with him and plan a budget with their expenses. She needs to see how his pay covers rent, transportation, utilities, groceries, and child support x2. Does he have savings to cover rent should they break up or decide to live apart?
These can’t be things she knows about him yet! |
Definitely do not have kids with this man. Their lives will be a train wreck. |
OP's DD broke up with him so problem resolved on its own. |
Hopefully they have not had sex yet. |
He will soon have 3 kids if she moves in with him. |
The birth rate in the 20-24 age range is the 3rd highest of all age ranges so there are a lot of women (and men) becoming parents before 25.
I don't find that aspect to be that shocking. However moving in together when kids are involved after a month is very irresponsible and short sighted. |
I would pitch it from this angle too. It's not fair to the kids to be their mom for a couple years then "Oops, it didn't work out!". If she wants to be their mom, she should marry the dad. She would probably balk at marrying now, so why is she moving in now? She should also consider how working all day with other people's kids, then coming home to somebody else's kids in her living space will impact her mental health and energy levels. |
Sure. However, 25 year-olds today are far less mature and responsible than people that age were in the past. |