Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Depends on the man and the woman.
If someone wakes up everyday and has support and love, then he will feel more motivated and self confident.
I made the mistake of marrying into a family with lots of mental health issues with both of my wife’s parents, thinking that my wife got lucky and didn’t have them. Well the first ten or so years were great and then the conversion started.
All of the negativity and nastiness just progressed to a point of almost unbarability. Waking up every morning to all kinds of negative talk, complaining about everything, every day, had a huge toll on my life outside of home.
Once I reached a point of not giving a shit about her or her opinions my business started to flourish again. I look at our marriage like a prison sentence now, counting the days until kids are all out of the house.
Lol.
Imagine that. A self centered husband wasn’t pitching in at home so the exasperated wife kept trying to get him involved and pulling his weight. He didn’t want to so when he finally wrote her off more entirely “his business flourished.”
People like you never should have married anyone. Good luck with blaming your in laws and wife for your deficiencies. Be sure to saw that on your OLd profile.
Bitter much?
Always very involved with my kids, always had a cleaning person once or twice a week as needed, always was flying around to kids activities on evenings and weekends (and would cover mid day things if wife was spread to thin with other kids), cooked dinner 2-3 times a week. No interest in an online profile now or in the future, won’t be needed. Both in-laws and SIL have mental health issues that have very negatively affected their lives, in the early stages of our relationship I was always told that I got the, “normal one.” I should have thought more into it.
It was definitely a deficiency to allow the verbal and mental abuse to affect me negatively. I took a journal and wrote down the things that were said to me every day for about 3 months, went back and read it and was able to flip a switch instantly.
So going back to purpose of the thread: Yes I think a mans career can be boosted by a supportive relationship, depending on how the relationship is valued. I used to view my marriage as the center of my life with everything coming from it. Now I view myself as the center and the relationship is irrelevant to my mood. I am looking forward to having someone that I can share my life with in a positive and enjoyable way, but for now I just focus on my kids and then myself and work.
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