Question for "no shoes" households

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't care about your outfit. No shoes means no exceptions.

Or what? Off to the gulag?

[Anonymous]

We are a no-shows household. I am Indian-American like a PP.

If I were hosting a very formal event like a fundraiser, I would not expect shows off. But if I'm throwing a casual party or dinner and someone randomly decides to wear some fancy shoes (those "shoes make the outfit" type ppl) and wanted to keep them on, I'd be annoyed. But most of my friends are pretty relaxed and generally shoes off at home too (not just Indians).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Indian American here - so grew up with plenty of formal gatherings (if women draped in silk and gold and gems is formal) with no shoes.

No shoe house now - but my midwestern husband wears his shoes in the house sometimes, it only annoys me because of the grit that gets dragged in on the treads of his shoes.

If we have people over, I don’t care - all hardwood and throw rugs, but 90% of the adults who come over take their shoes off without prompting - 100% of the kids. Most of our friends have no shoe houses and the only common factor is their age (younger GenX-older Millennials). We often bring indoor slippers to wear at house parties!

The only time I’ve been strict about it as an adult was when we had a crawling baby/new walker.

It’s looks so much better to be barefoot while wearing a long saree or lengha than it is to be barefoot and wearing a little black dress.

When a woman is wearing Indian clothes you can hardly even see a her feet in the first place. Formal western dresses that are short look ridiculous if you are barefoot or wear socks (shudder).

So you’re comparing apples to oranges!

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[Anonymous]

Planning for holiday parties and willing to eliminate shoes but I can’t think of any dress I have that would not look really really odd with socks. Bare feet would be cold. What am I missing here? What do you all wear?

[Anonymous]

Once when I was in college I was wearing tights with a holes in the heels. I went to a party that was in a no-shoes household and was specifically asked to remove my shoes. It was so embarrassing. I would never ask guests to remove shoes. I don't even ask them when they come by for casual visits. Usually they do when they see our shoes by the door but I tell them they don't have to.

[Anonymous]

My parents entertained quite a bit when I was growing up and we had a large, formal house. No one ever took off shoes, to do so would be considered bizarre back then. And it never occurred to us that it made the floors dirty. People greatly exaggerate dirt being tracked in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In most cultures where shoes are taken off at home, for fancier gatherings people either bring a pair separate, clean soled shoe to wear and change into that at the entrance, and/or guests are provided slippers or fancier indoor shoes to change into. My family had multiple pairs of bedazzled slippers to be worn by guests when I was growing up. Fun times.

Were guests wearing slippers that other guests had worn? Or were the slippers a gift to the guest, so they each had their own pair which no one else had worn?

I would not feel comfortable wearing slippers that someone else had worn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In most cultures where shoes are taken off at home, for fancier gatherings people either bring a pair separate, clean soled shoe to wear and change into that at the entrance, and/or guests are provided slippers or fancier indoor shoes to change into. My family had multiple pairs of bedazzled slippers to be worn by guests when I was growing up. Fun times.

Were guests wearing slippers that other guests had worn? Or were the slippers a gift to the guest, so they each had their own pair which no one else had worn?

I would not feel comfortable wearing slippers that someone else had worn.

I think no-shoes people are also "I don't pick up my dog's poop" people, because they assume everyone's shoes are covered in it.

I'd rather track dog poop into your house than leave with athlete's foot from wearing some old shared slippers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Planning for holiday parties and willing to eliminate shoes but I can’t think of any dress I have that would not look really really odd with socks. Bare feet would be cold. What am I missing here? What do you all wear?

E.G. Gitanos.

We're you never young or do you not believe in fun?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Once when I was in college I was wearing tights with a holes in the heels. I went to a party that was in a no-shoes household and was specifically asked to remove my shoes. It was so embarrassing. I would never ask guests to remove shoes. I don't even ask them when they come by for casual visits. Usually they do when they see our shoes by the door but I tell them they
don't have to.

Always where clean underwear. What if you were in a car crash?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In most cultures where shoes are taken off at home, for fancier gatherings people either bring a pair separate, clean soled shoe to wear and change into that at the entrance, and/or guests are provided slippers or fancier indoor shoes to change into. My family had multiple pairs of bedazzled slippers to be worn by guests when I was growing up. Fun times.

Were guests wearing slippers that other guests had worn? Or were the slippers a gift to the guest, so they each had their own pair which no one else had worn?

[/b]I would not feel comfortable wearing slippers that someone else had worn.

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Same. Do people really expect you to wear slippers that have been worn by someone else? I would rather not come to their house at all if they are going to expect me to take off my shoes and wear some nasty slippers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In most cultures where shoes are taken off at home, for fancier gatherings people either bring a pair separate, clean soled shoe to wear and change into that at the entrance, and/or guests are provided slippers or fancier indoor shoes to change into. My family had multiple pairs of bedazzled slippers to be worn by guests when I was growing up. Fun times.

Were guests wearing slippers that other guests had worn? Or were the slippers a gift to the guest, so they each had their own pair which no one else had worn?

I would not feel comfortable wearing slippers that someone else had worn.

I think no-shoes people are also "I don't pick up my dog's poop" people, because they assume everyone's shoes are covered in it.

I'd rather track dog poop into your house than leave with athlete's foot from wearing some old shared slippers.

Wow, I guess you're a "don't wash slippers or feet" person. Telling on yourself

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In most cultures where shoes are taken off at home, for fancier gatherings people either bring a pair separate, clean soled shoe to wear and change into that at the entrance, and/or guests are provided slippers or fancier indoor shoes to change into. My family had multiple pairs of bedazzled slippers to be worn by guests when I was growing up. Fun times.

Were guests wearing slippers that other guests had worn? Or were the slippers a gift to the guest, so they each had their own pair which no one else had worn?

[/b]I would not feel comfortable wearing slippers that someone else had worn.

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Same. Do people really expect you to wear slippers that have been worn by someone else? I would rather not come to their house at all if they are going to expect me to take off my shoes and wear some nasty slippers.

In addition to looking like an idiot for wearing a little black dress with slippers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Once when I was in college I was wearing tights with a holes in the heels. I went to a party that was in a no-shoes household and was specifically asked to remove my shoes. It was so embarrassing. I would never ask guests to remove shoes. I don't even ask them when they come by for casual visits. Usually they do when they see our shoes by the door but I tell them they
don't have to.

Always where clean underwear. What if you were in a car crash?

LOL this phrase always makes me giggle.

For what it's worth I was wearing tights with holes in the feet because I was a cash-strapped college student.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In most cultures where shoes are taken off at home, for fancier gatherings people either bring a pair separate, clean soled shoe to wear and change into that at the entrance, and/or guests are provided slippers or fancier indoor shoes to change into. My family had multiple pairs of bedazzled slippers to be worn by guests when I was growing up. Fun times.

Were guests wearing slippers that other guests had worn? Or were the slippers a gift to the guest, so they each had their own pair which no one else had worn?

I would not feel comfortable wearing slippers that someone else had worn.

I think no-shoes people are also "I don't pick up my dog's poop" people, because they assume everyone's shoes are covered in it.

I'd rather track dog poop into your house than leave with athlete's foot from wearing some old shared slippers.

Weird that you like tracking dog poop into your own house.