What is the point of a Nanny?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For my peace and mind, yes I need a nanny

I don't want to be 24/7 with my kids.

I get wanting to have a career but it is sad that you don't want to be with your kids. Why have them?

24/7? You can die on your mommy of the year hill. The rest of us have and want more.

-np

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For my peace and mind, yes I need a nanny

I don't want to be 24/7 with my kids.

I get wanting to have a career but it is sad that you don't want to be with your kids. Why have them?

Ask Charles Darwin to explain, since you don't know how to read or count well enough to work it out from a book.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:BTW vast majority of people say Nanny in DC but they don’t pay Nanny wages.

$100,000 a year with full benefits is bare minimum.

Gloria Richards is a famous Nanny and she charges $167 an hour. But $100k is going rate.

Sound right as back in 1996 my cousin married a nanny who worked for hedge fund guy and she was making $40k a year, free room and board, full benefits. They gave her a $10,000 wedding gift check when she got married. Even used their Hampton house for free if she took vacation.

In NYC and San Fran in 2023 going rate is $150,000 to $220,000 for a nanny.

Real Nannies pass the Nanny Association Exam, speak multiple languages. In case of my cousins wife she had a Nursing Degree. And was a certified newborn care specialist.

And in Manhattan even with 200k a year the nanny gets free room and board and food stipend.

Vast majority DC parents have an illegal or a women they are taking advantage of.

If a real Nanny a person would need to earn 500k or more to make it worth while.

Correct. Most people are not paying for nor can they afford a professional Nanny.

They have a personal child care provider/consistent long term babysitter. Which is totally fine! And more than what most people can afford!

However, the issues with consistency, early childhood education, basic professionalism - like showing up to work on time - do.not.happen. with a true professional Nanny. It’s legitimately part of the service you’re paying for.

But tbh, it’s generally only UHNW families that can afford/pay for that kind of service…the same people who pay for elite boarding school and have multiple household staff. Nanny cooking or cleaning isn’t an issue because there is a chef and housekeeper, not a person that comes by a couple times a week to do those tasks but staff that are full time.

It’s less prestigious to say babysitter, so people say nanny, but this poster is correct, it really doesn’t seem like these are professional Nannies.

Lol. My eyes are rolling so hard. It’s not like being a nanny is a licensed profession. Literally any person can call themselves a nanny. It’s not like being a doctor, no matter how badly you want to think there’s some distinction between “professional nanny” and a “long term babysitter”. They are the same thing. Sure, some families can afford additional qualifications and choose to hire someone with that background. Good on them.

But things like showing up on time and being consistent don’t require speaking multiple languages or having a degree.

My nanny of 10 years speaks one language (Spanish) and her English is not awesome. She has an 8th grade education and no special training other than raising her own 4 children. She’s never been late or unreliable, ever. She has become family to us and I trust her more than DH haha.

And good on you that you are satisfied with your 8th grade educated nanny. Many like you pay less for a nanny but then spend extra money on academic tutoring and enrichment and whatnot. If you pay more for a college-educated nanny who speaks English and has other special skills, your nanny can also provide the academics and enrichment too.

Our former neighbors had a nanny who used to be a math teacher, in addition to having raised her own kids. Their kids always got all the math awards at school without setting foot in a Kumon center. But they paid well for that kind of service. I knew of another family whose nanny was a musician, so the kids got music lessons at home. Etc.

You can put down educated nannies as being pretentious or whatever, but it might actually be more cost effective to combine childcare and enrichment in one provider.

Uhh, no. My nanny sister makes it very clear that her nanny fee (30/hr) is quite different from her academic/tutoring fee (75/hr.) She is a former ES teacher with endorsements in reading and math.

[Anonymous]

It's obvious. It's simple. It's money. I earn about 6 times the Nanny salary.
You cannot be this dense.

[Anonymous]

So I can have mental rest away from children

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For my peace and mind, yes I need a nanny

I don't want to be 24/7 with my kids.

I get wanting to have a career but it is sad that you don't want to be with your kids. Why have them?

Why your partner cheats on you?

Really you start conversations like this?
Respect other people's opinions. I don't want to be 24/7 with my kids

Many parents kills their kids and then suicides.
So stop judging parents who says they don't want to be with their kids all day.

[Anonymous]

Just like you like watching something to get off because nothing works

Don't judge

[Anonymous]

I know parents that says oh my precious gems and then that mom goes buying new boots and her daughter doesn't have enough clothes. Very hypocrite some ugly moms

[Anonymous]

I hate moms who pretends they love their kids. The show offs are the worst