Quick! Is attending MS open house really that important?

[Anonymous]

You learn a lot going through a version of their day. The teachers, the families in the class, how far they have to walk/when, the timing of lunch/gym compared to the rest of the day, so many nuances that can't even be described.

I can't imagine giving up the opportunity to have perspective and context (not to mention, ability to help/suggest solutions to issues) when my kid is telling me about their day.

Honestly I try not to judge parenting but this is pretty bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You learn a lot going through a version of their day. The teachers, the families in the class, how far they have to walk/when, the timing of lunch/gym compared to the rest of the day, so many nuances that can't even be described.

I can't imagine giving up the opportunity to have perspective and context (not to mention, ability to help/suggest solutions to issues) when my kid is telling me about their day.

Honestly I try not to judge parenting but this is pretty bad.

Your kids don’t tell you these things? You need to see them in person to understand?
My kids give me play by plays (usually). Knowing what the hallways look like or what time lunch is won’t make a difference.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, you go. It's called being a parent.

Anything to make yourself feel superior.

You sound lazy.

How did you get lazy out of that statement?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You learn a lot going through a version of their day. The teachers, the families in the class, how far they have to walk/when, the timing of lunch/gym compared to the rest of the day, so many nuances that can't even be described.

I can't imagine giving up the opportunity to have perspective and context (not to mention, ability to help/suggest solutions to issues) when my kid is telling me about their day.

Honestly I try not to judge parenting but this is pretty bad.

Your kids don’t tell you these things? You need to see them in person to understand?
My kids give me play by plays (usually). Knowing what the hallways look like or what time lunch is won’t make a difference.

To think a parent who didn't attend has the same level of understanding as one who did is delusional thinking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you go. It's called being a parent.

Anything to make yourself feel superior.

You sound lazy.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You learn a lot going through a version of their day. The teachers, the families in the class, how far they have to walk/when, the timing of lunch/gym compared to the rest of the day, so many nuances that can't even be described.

I can't imagine giving up the opportunity to have perspective and context (not to mention, ability to help/suggest solutions to issues) when my kid is telling me about their day.

Honestly I try not to judge parenting but this is pretty bad.

Your kids don’t tell you these things? You need to see them in person to understand?
My kids give me play by plays (usually). Knowing what the hallways look like or what time lunch is won’t make a difference.

To think a parent who didn't attend has the same level of understanding as one who did is delusional thinking.

And to think that laying eyes on the teacher for 10 min and seeing the structure of the building gives you a one up is also delusional thinking.
And, of course, another reason to think you are doing it better than those of us who don’t go.

[Anonymous]

I went last year for 6th grade but didn't go this year. I didn't think it would give me any insight or pertinent knowledge regarding DS's day. I preferred to spend the evening with family since we are often so rushed during the week with extracurriculars-I felt like that was more important for me. I still go to the elementary school one for my DD--she cares if I go and I get more intel from this one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a bunch of helicopters! You aren’t needed in your kid’s relationships with their teachers. You don’t need to see what the teacher is wearing and your opinion on whether or not the teacher is nice (like you can even tell in 10 minutes) isn’t of any value. Your kids can handle middle school without you seeing the desks.

+1

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't stress it if you truly can't make it (e.g., work or babysitting issue), as there usually isn't any showstopper information. If you can make it though, it's a good chance to take in atmospherics, get a feel for kids' teachers, and connect with other parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You learn a lot going through a version of their day. The teachers, the families in the class, how far they have to walk/when, the timing of lunch/gym compared to the rest of the day, so many nuances that can't even be described.

I can't imagine giving up the opportunity to have perspective and context (not to mention, ability to help/suggest solutions to issues) when my kid is telling me about their day.

Honestly I try not to judge parenting but this is pretty bad.

Your kids don’t tell you these things? You need to see them in person to understand?
My kids give me play by plays (usually). Knowing what the hallways look like or what time lunch is won’t make a difference.

+1

My kids (3, all close in age) - and their friends who are constantly over- talk and talk and talk. I already know most of what goes on, and have heard it all- at times, perhaps too much. 🤣 I know the answers to all of the above questions before the open house even occurs (for us, the 2nd week of school). 🤷‍♀️

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You learn a lot going through a version of their day. The teachers, the families in the class, how far they have to walk/when, the timing of lunch/gym compared to the rest of the day, so many nuances that can't even be described.

I can't imagine giving up the opportunity to have perspective and context (not to mention, ability to help/suggest solutions to issues) when my kid is telling me about their day.

Honestly I try not to judge parenting but this is pretty bad.

My kids actually talk to me, so I don’t need to go to school and play Inspector Gadget making a linear regression of the lunch vs PE schedule.

[Anonymous]

I went last week and found it super useful. Worth the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What a bunch of helicopters! You aren’t needed in your kid’s relationships with their teachers. You don’t need to see what the teacher is wearing and your opinion on whether or not the teacher is nice (like you can even tell in 10 minutes) isn’t of any value. Your kids can handle middle school without you seeing the desks.

Seriously. Yet they are patting themselves on the back for their superior parenting. It would be funny if it wasn’t so sad.

You rationalizing why you don't go is pretty sad too. Blame the other parents, that's the ticket!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s tonight, 7-830. We will be progressing from class to class, spending 15 minutes in each.

I would prefer to skip it, I doubt I will learn anything I didn’t already read in the double-sided syllabi from each class and, parking sucks. But, apparently the kids have made small projects in each class for parents to see, and DD is upset I won’t see them tonight if I don’t go. (Why do they do this? This feels so first grade!)

So, would you go?

I always went. It’s as important as you believe it to be. My son has adhd and other learning differences. I want to know the teachers and they will know who I am.

[Anonymous]

Are you the same mom who is afraid of what their daughter being angry because she doesn’t want you to call the parents before sleep over?

Why is this even a question of whether to go or not? You sound like an adult child.