My wife's birthday is tomorrow - I need a last-minute gift idea!

[Anonymous]

Something fancy that will make OP's wife feel special and pampered: Diptyque candle, Gucci Diana bag, gift certificate to the Ritz Carlton hotel spa in Georgetown.

These can all be picked up in store.

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Anonymous wrote:Flowers, nice bottle of wine, gift card to one of her favorite stores inside a card with a loving and thoughtful message from you, dinner out at any restaurant you know she really enjoys.

This is the absolute floor floor in terms of a thoughtful intentional gift but it’s still better than the air fryer poor OP’s wife is going to end up with

Eh, it’s what I would want.

That’s cool but in all seriousness why a gift card to your favorite store? That’s just like repackaging your own money to you.

If they share finances, then that’s true of literally any gift…

The difference is if your husband buys something for you that he sees and thinks “oh she would love that,” then sure he used the joint money but it was thoughtful. A gift card for you to go to the store is … not thoughtful. “Here go to this place and spend this money when you could have done that anytime.” But I respect that different people may feel differently about this and both be right.

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What I really want is for him to fix the running toilet OR to stop objecting when I try to call a plumber. Do you have anything like this in hour house?

You--Honey, the toilet is running. I need you to fix it.
Him--sure, I'll get to it next weekend.
You--Okay, just letting you know that you have until X date (like 3-4 weeks away) and if you haven't been able to get to it by then, I'm going to call the plumber.

He then has that time to "s*** or get off the can" Make sure he has like 3 weekends between when you tell him and when you call the plumber. He can either make the time to fix it or you call the plumber. If he complains, you tell him that you gave him the opportunity to save the money and fix it himself, but he didn't make the time, so you got it fixed.

If a man says he is going to do something, he will do it.

No need to nag him every six months.

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I would like silk pj's and a set of silk pillowcases.

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Anonymous wrote:Flowers, nice bottle of wine, gift card to one of her favorite stores inside a card with a loving and thoughtful message from you, dinner out at any restaurant you know she really enjoys.

This is the absolute floor floor in terms of a thoughtful intentional gift but it’s still better than the air fryer poor OP’s wife is going to end up with

Eh, it’s what I would want.

That’s cool but in all seriousness why a gift card to your favorite store? That’s just like repackaging your own money to you.

If they share finances, then that’s true of literally any gift…

The difference is if your husband buys something for you that he sees and thinks “oh she would love that,” then sure he used the joint money but it was thoughtful. A gift card for you to go to the store is … not thoughtful. “Here go to this place and spend this money when you could have done that anytime.” But I respect that different people may feel differently about this and both be right.

I’ll take a gift card to Sephora over some random thing my husband thinks I might want. Both things are thoughtful.

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Anonymous wrote:Flowers, nice bottle of wine, gift card to one of her favorite stores inside a card with a loving and thoughtful message from you, dinner out at any restaurant you know she really enjoys.

This is the absolute floor floor in terms of a thoughtful intentional gift but it’s still better than the air fryer poor OP’s wife is going to end up with

Eh, it’s what I would want.

That’s cool but in all seriousness why a gift card to your favorite store? That’s just like repackaging your own money to you.

If they share finances, then that’s true of literally any gift…

The difference is if your husband buys something for you that he sees and thinks “oh she would love that,” then sure he used the joint money but it was thoughtful. A gift card for you to go to the store is … not thoughtful. “Here go to this place and spend this money when you could have done that anytime.” But I respect that different people may feel differently about this and both be right.

On the other hand, if you are someone with specific tastes and he has a history of getting gifts that "miss the mark", then a gift card to a store you love to shop at, is thoughtful. It says that I don't want to pick the wrong gift that you will either have to take the time to exchange or feel obligated to keep, but I want you to get something nice for yourself. It should be a store that your partner likes to shop at to get things she wants for herself. That varies by the person. Just knowing the right store still makes it thoughtful.

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Contribute to have an enjoyable dinner/lunch. No IPhones, no TV, no blaming, no shaming.
Be a respectful father and husband.

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Anonymous wrote:Contribute to have an enjoyable dinner/lunch. No IPhones, no TV, no blaming, no shaming.
Be a respectful father and husband.

What the hell kind of man are you living with …

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Anonymous wrote:Macy's gold necklace.

What a weird set of modifers -- is there something special about Macy's jewelry?

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Anonymous wrote:Something fancy that will make OP's wife feel special and pampered: Diptyque candle, Gucci Diana bag, gift certificate to the Ritz Carlton hotel spa in Georgetown.

These can all be picked up in store.

Who are the candle-loving posters on this thread?

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Anonymous wrote:Something fancy that will make OP's wife feel special and pampered: Diptyque candle, Gucci Diana bag, gift certificate to the Ritz Carlton hotel spa in Georgetown.

These can all be picked up in store.

Who are the candle-loving posters on this thread?

Not just on this thread, but there are a number of people who not only love candles, but think they are a good gift for various occasions. They aren't. First, the majority of people don't like candles and those that do, often like specific kinds and will buy the kind they like for themselves. It's a very archaic gift and not very appropriate any more.

[Anonymous]

I would enjoy:

Massage booked for a weekend day. He will watch the kids

Surprise trip to the local jewelry store or her favorite jewelry company website where I pick out something I want

Book a sitter for a Saturday night and make dinner reservation

[Anonymous]

The hatred of the husband on this thread just because he wants to get some input on what to get his wife for her birthday! Some of you really have issues with your husbands.

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Anonymous wrote:The hatred of the husband on this thread just because he wants to get some input on what to get his wife for her birthday! Some of you really have issues with your husbands.

Um. What? There were requests for more info and some gentle teasing. Plus many different suggestions on what different women like or are less interested. Also what to avoid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends on what she likes. If it were me I’d love:

An Amazon gift card to buy books for my Kindle and some chocolate.

Yes, and clean the house so I don't feel guilty delving into my new book knowing there are things to be done.

Oh, for me it would need to be low sugar treats.

Op, buy or do something that shows you know her.