How common is it for high schooler to have a tutor?

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Anonymous wrote:MCPS is offering free tutoring. We absolutely use it. I don't see why you wouldn't? We will pay when over, especially for math.

Well, maybe because this post is in the Tweens and Teens forum, and not everyone in the world attends MCPS? Oh, and also, there's no guarantee that free tutoring will be a permanent thing. My kids attended another district before the pandemic, and there was never any sort of free tutoring or the ability to stay after school for help. Kids got one study hall per week or lunch to see help IF teachers were available.

NP here. MCPS free tutoring was funded by CARES Act money and ends at the end of this month. The PP had a good experience with it and has decided to private pay some tutoring in the future. You didn't answer OP's question. Do you use a tutor? How common do you think it is where you live?

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Anonymous wrote:In our non-DMV private it is SO common. We didn't realize it for many years, but we eventually figured out that we were basically the only chumps not tutoring our child in something.

We are in DMV and we know an AP family that tutors for every single course. Which tells me that the kid/s probably do not belong in AP. The parents see it as "well we don't want to dumb our kids down to (the other kids) level", but honestly, if you need to be tutored regularly in every =subject - then it does seem the kid/s is/are in the wrong classes.

That, and you can't have a tutor at work, when the time comes.....

Hey, OP - The above poster is why some people don't talk about it. If your kid doesn't need one, great! If the time comes when they do, it's great that you have the resources.

Actually--I make a point to tell just this type of parent that my kids do have tutors--and yes to get ahead---some people in the DMV need to be reeducated and have to learn that it is a free country and for the time being I can control how I spend my money.....

You sound completely unhinged.

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How does it work - are the tutors from each subject coming to the child’s home on different days?

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Well, it’s exceedingly common in Asians to get ahead. Almost everyone does math enrichment starting from kinder. My kids were tutored in math (not remedial). They are now doing Algebra 1 in 6th grade and learn two levels up in outside tutoring. It’s not about only the teacher but the depth of curriculum which is not offered in public and most private schools. Plus it’s cheaper than private schools. Summer enrichment classes for language arts as well

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Anonymous wrote:How does it work - are the tutors from each subject coming to the child’s home on different days?

For my kids it’s a group math class that we have to drive to our online. We haven’t used 1 on 1 tutor.

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We have tutors —Spanish and math. Have had since elementary. School provides one on one SAT tutoring.

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Anonymous wrote:We have tutors —Spanish and math. Have had since elementary. School provides one on one SAT tutoring.

PS. DS attends a W hs. Has adhd

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Anonymous wrote:How does it work - are the tutors from each subject coming to the child’s home on different days?

My daughter just has a math tutor. She sees clients out of her home. We drop our kid off & pick her up.

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Anonymous wrote:My freshman DS has mentioned in passing multiple times (each time a different kid) that so and so couldn’t make it to something because they had tutoring. These are all kids who play sports with DS and many of whom are in advanced/intensified classes with him.

This got me wondering how common it is for high school students, especially in our area, to have tutors to stay/get ahead (not remedial from what I can tell) and if my DS is at a disadvantage for not having a tutor. Lol. He’s managing fine now as a freshman (honor roll every quarter) despite playing multiple sports and taking mostly intensified and one AP class. But wondering if we should be more proactive in making sure he’s set up for success as his coursework will get increasingly difficult as he progresses through high school.

Or feel free to tell me I’m being THAT mom and I should back TF off and relax.

OP, you mention that your DS is taking an AP class as a freshman. Curious, which subject is that? I did not know freshman can take AP class.

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Anonymous wrote:Pretty much all my kids' friends have tutors in one to three subjects. These are all kids in advanced classes.

These are students who would fail advanced classes without help. No different than kids getting tutors because of learning disabilities. You don’t waste time with a tutor if it’s not necessary.

It's not a waste of time to support a child. There aren't textbooks and the teaching style is way different than when we grew up.

I think this is a big problem and all the private tutoring is masking how poorly schools are educating kids. At least when you had textbooks you could re read a lesson on your own. Thank God for Khan Academy, but I still think more should be happening at schools.

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Anonymous wrote:My freshman DS has mentioned in passing multiple times (each time a different kid) that so and so couldn’t make it to something because they had tutoring. These are all kids who play sports with DS and many of whom are in advanced/intensified classes with him.

This got me wondering how common it is for high school students, especially in our area, to have tutors to stay/get ahead (not remedial from what I can tell) and if my DS is at a disadvantage for not having a tutor. Lol. He’s managing fine now as a freshman (honor roll every quarter) despite playing multiple sports and taking mostly intensified and one AP class. But wondering if we should be more proactive in making sure he’s set up for success as his coursework will get increasingly difficult as he progresses through high school.

Or feel free to tell me I’m being THAT mom and I should back TF off and relax.

OP, you mention that your DS is taking an AP class as a freshman. Curious, which subject is that? I did not know freshman can take AP class.

World History. DS' school offers regular, intensified and AP for freshman. I believe that is the only AP course offered to freshman but not certain.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My freshman DS has mentioned in passing multiple times (each time a different kid) that so and so couldn’t make it to something because they had tutoring. These are all kids who play sports with DS and many of whom are in advanced/intensified classes with him.

This got me wondering how common it is for high school students, especially in our area, to have tutors to stay/get ahead (not remedial from what I can tell) and if my DS is at a disadvantage for not having a tutor. Lol. He’s managing fine now as a freshman (honor roll every quarter) despite playing multiple sports and taking mostly intensified and one AP class. But wondering if we should be more proactive in making sure he’s set up for success as his coursework will get increasingly difficult as he progresses through high school.

Or feel free to tell me I’m being THAT mom and I should back TF off and relax.

OP, you mention that your DS is taking an AP class as a freshman. Curious, which subject is that? I did not know freshman can take AP class.

MCPS allows all high schoolers to take APs. DS took AP Gov and AP computer science principles in 9th grade. DD will probably take those, AP Music and AP Precalc.

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Anonymous wrote:How does it work - are the tutors from each subject coming to the child’s home on different days?

There are tutoring companies where parents drop off kids. Private tutors that come to your home, or your kid goes to theirs. And online tutoring. We did all three.

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Anonymous wrote:MCPS is offering free tutoring. We absolutely use it. I don't see why you wouldn't? We will pay when over, especially for math.

Well, maybe because this post is in the Tweens and Teens forum, and not everyone in the world attends MCPS? Oh, and also, there's no guarantee that free tutoring will be a permanent thing. My kids attended another district before the pandemic, and there was never any sort of free tutoring or the ability to stay after school for help. Kids got one study hall per week or lunch to see help IF teachers were available.

NP here. MCPS free tutoring was funded by CARES Act money and ends at the end of this month. The PP had a good experience with it and has decided to private pay some tutoring in the future. You didn't answer OP's question. Do you use a tutor? How common do you think it is where you live?

It's very common where I live, and honestly, I regret not using tutors more for my kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Pretty much all my kids' friends have tutors in one to three subjects. These are all kids in advanced classes.

These are students who would fail advanced classes without help. No different than kids getting tutors because of learning disabilities. You don’t waste time with a tutor if it’s not necessary.

It's not a waste of time to support a child. There aren't textbooks and the teaching style is way different than when we grew up.

I think this is a big problem and all the private tutoring is masking how poorly schools are educating kids. At least when you had textbooks you could re read a lesson on your own. Thank God for Khan Academy, but I still think more should be happening at schools.

+1. What troubles me the most is when people talk about families that value education having high-achieving students, suggesting that those whose kids are not high achievers don't promote education within their families. This makes it sound like if you parents cared about education, you too would be getting straight As in advanced classes. The reality is the vast majority of those students aren't getting their grades based solely on what they are getting from school. There are multiple outside tutors, enrichment classes, family members, and other supports contributing to their success. The schools play a minor part in their achievement.