
I don't necessarily agree. I grew up on FA and my DCs now pay full tuition. While I didn't complain at college, I don't begrudge someone for complaining about the food. May really be bad. |
Everyone knows her child is on full FA because she tells everyone so. To respond to the negative comments some of you have posted: First, I think it is impolite for anyone who is receiving a gift to criticize it. Second, I think it is also impolite to comment negatively on the food that eveyone at table is sharing, especially, as in this case, when the negative comment is made in response to someone else's praise of the food. Therefore, I would have found her comment annoying even if her son had not been receiving the food by the largesse of the school. |
Full FA is not a gift, or "largesse." It is financial aid. They applied for financial aid, they got it. Once in, they are full members of the community, with the same rights and responsibilities as any other member of the community, paying or not. As such, and regardless of the family's financial status, or the aid they receive (or not) from the school, they have the right to criticize, complain, defend their child's interests, use up resources, contribute resources, stay, or leave, or whatever. The fact of being on FA does not mean that they have fewer rights than e.g. you do to participate in the life of the school (in whatever way, for good or for bad). It just means they are on FA. |
Thought I was doing a fellow parent's son a favor by telling the parent that my son had told me that hers was doing something at school that violated the honor code. The father, a lawyer, called me and I was astonished to find him in full lawyer mode. His first words to me was a question asked as if I were a witness under cross-examination:
"What is your son's exposure in this?" |
But it would never be as bad as public school food, at least in MCPS's. I know from experience. |
I disagree. I found it obnoxious. |
Right - so she was being impolite by criticizing the food in front of someone who had just praised it. That makes her someone with bad manners. The fact that her kid is on full FA has nothing to do with that. |
No, her child's receiving the food as a gift from the school has everything to do with its being bad manners to criticize it. |
This is why I said what I said. I'm sorry to have upset you. |
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When I was in HS (big 3), we were playing in the front yard of my friend's large home and his father (hi-powered exec) pointed at a black squirrel running across the grass and said "hey, look... a <insert n-word> squirrel." |
wow, that's really bad. you win |
PP again. I realize we've gone off on a tangent, I just don't like to be lectured on how to raise my DC with HFA. And I resent this idea that I am keeping joy from my happy child. You have no idea how I am raising him. You can bet that when he was a fluent reader in K and 1st, and other children were learning how to read, I had private conversations with the teachers about meeting his needs. I would NEVER have stood up in a group of parents and said "my child is a fluent reader, how will you meet his needs." That's just bragging. And I have seen it so many times and I do hold it against the parents. I thought at first that you might be a particularly defensive parent of a child with autism, but if you are lecturing me in this way, my guess is that you are not. This is why I said what I said. I'm sorry to have upset you. I also didn't intend to imply this. That is terrible....I'm sorry. |
I know you found it obnoxious; you have made that clear. What do you disagree with, specifically? Do you think that someone on FA does not have the right to criticize anything at the school? |
The food is not a gift from the school. Good grief. And she wasn't criticizing it, she was talking about her kid--maybe she was complaining about her kid being picky, maybe she was out of line. We don't know, we weren't there. And the original poster of this (who sounds like a real pampered peach, hope it's not DS's school), is doling out "new" info to try to make herself sound better.....yeah, right it's working ![]() |