Unpopular relationship opinions

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The way women achieve orgasms change with age, hormones, childbirth and aging. So what got a woman off in her 20s will not work in 30s. But, if sex is fulfilling and women can find pleasure then it is a positive feedback loop.
When men say that my wife does not want sex, for me this is marital dysfunction. Usually lack of female libido is because of illness or exhaustion. But mainly it is dislike of husband, and bad unfulfilling sex.

Delusional. Women need to take responsibility for their own sexuality. Stop blaming men for your frigidity, your laziness, your out of shapeness, your neurotic obsessions with trivia that doesnt matter.

[Anonymous]

Sex is not a need, it is a want or desire. Nobody ever died from not having it. Don't accept "I have to get my needs met" as an excuse for anything, it just rationalizes bad behavior, lack of self control, and misunderstanding of actual biological needs.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women should contribute 50% to the relationship, including financially.

Men should have babies and nurse the children.

Ketanji has entered the thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t get why some people take issue with spouses being best friends.

I take no issue with that at all. It's just rare in my experience. My mother and father in law are best friends, my parents not at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's okay to let yourself go after marriage/babies/becoming too comfortable in your relationship, but don't be a complete shocked pikachu if your spouse loses physical or sexual attraction to you.

Not O.k. As a spouse, as a parent, or even just for yourself. How lazy and dysfunctional does one have to be to declare that its o.k. to be a blimped out slob? Despite that it now describes 2/3 of all American adults.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:long-term monogamy and sexual desire are incompatible. I am not sure this is unpopular, but people certainly don't want to acknowledge that monogamy as we know it has dire, dire consequences.

Agree. It should be okay to not want sex after 20 years of a marriage.

If both parties are ok with no sex after 25 years what is the problem? Hugging, kisses, and snuggling are enough intimacy at that point, it shouldn't be frowned upon.

But what about the rest of us who aren't bed death lesbians?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Even in a long term happy marriage, you should have a plan if you needed to leave and where you would get the resources to do that. You can be committed, but you should also be realistic.

The plan is always women who are college educated in sought after majors. Those who have full control of their reproductive choices including not having kids, adopting children or using surrogates. It is women giving some care about childcare situation in their residence and career options. And finally, women need to control and grow money that they have sole access to. It can be their own earned money, inheritance, money from alimony, money from husband, lottery, or gifted money through trusts etc. have your own money and grow your own money. Does not matter if you are SAHM, WOHM, nepo baby, sugar baby, sugar mama, rich or poor. Have lots of insurance especially if you are SAHM, old etc.

No more than 2 kids. FFS.

That is the economic plan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sex is not a need, it is a want or desire. Nobody ever died from not having it. Don't accept "I have to get my needs met" as an excuse for anything, it just rationalizes bad behavior, lack of self control, and misunderstanding of actual biological needs.

Thank you for the perspective of a sex negative fourth wave feminist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sex is not a need, it is a want or desire. Nobody ever died from not having it. Don't accept "I have to get my needs met" as an excuse for anything, it just rationalizes bad behavior, lack of self control, and misunderstanding of actual biological needs.

Are you seeing a doctor for your frigidity?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Marriage is between one man and one woman until death of one party. (Very unpopular, no one in this thread believes this)

Finances should be totally joint and undisentangleable. (See above)

More people should choose celibacy. Marriage is definitely hard but there is at least a point to it; sleeping with people as a single person sounds a lot more fun than it actually ends up being. The juice isn’t worth the squeeze, as they say.

You have to be a very special person to enjoy monogamy. Sleeping with single people is very very fun if you're single.

Can someone please explain it to me how it’s very very fun? Dating scene sex is very limited in terms of not having oral on multiple partners, changing partners before I can even get into his rhythm, using protection and scare of infections. It takes couple months for me just to adjust my pelvic floor to a new partner, learn to trust them allow certain things etc.

Are you a man who just like PIV in condom with many different women ? Because to me as a woman it’s not nearly as fun as marital unprotected sex of greater variety

I’m a woman and I think it’s fun! I’m attractive and find it easy to match. I don’t fall into partners randomly - I’m dating for sex and fun as I won’t marry again. I also don’t take months to “warm up” or “adjust” to a partner!?!?

I think you need to relax a little.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sex is not a need, it is a want or desire. Nobody ever died from not having it. Don't accept "I have to get my needs met" as an excuse for anything, it just rationalizes bad behavior, lack of self control, and misunderstanding of actual biological needs.

Thank you for the perspective of a sex negative fourth wave feminist.

Not sure why this is getting so much blowback. If you washed up alone on a desert island, it’s the lack of food and/or water, not the lack of sex, that would eventually kill you. It’s just a fact.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Marriage is between one man and one woman until death of one party. (Very unpopular, no one in this thread believes this)

Finances should be totally joint and undisentangleable. (See above)

More people should choose celibacy. Marriage is definitely hard but there is at least a point to it; sleeping with people as a single person sounds a lot more fun than it actually ends up being. The juice isn’t worth the squeeze, as they say.

You have to be a very special person to enjoy monogamy. Sleeping with single people is very very fun if you're single.

Can someone please explain it to me how it’s very very fun? Dating scene sex is very limited in terms of not having oral on multiple partners, changing partners before I can even get into his rhythm, using protection and scare of infections. It takes couple months for me just to adjust my pelvic floor to a new partner, learn to trust them allow certain things etc.

Are you a man who just like PIV in condom with many different women ? Because to me as a woman it’s not nearly as fun as marital unprotected sex of greater variety

I’m a woman and I think it’s fun! I’m attractive and find it easy to match. I don’t fall into partners randomly - I’m dating for sex and fun as I won’t marry again. I also don’t take months to “warm up” or “adjust” to a partner!?!?

I think you need to relax a little.

I don’t get it: do they all perform oral on you during “dating” sex? Do you like oral on multiple men ? How do you avoid STDs?

[Anonymous]

My wife doesn't need to know about my ONS.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Marriage is between one man and one woman until death of one party. (Very unpopular, no one in this thread believes this)

Finances should be totally joint and undisentangleable. (See above)

More people should choose celibacy. Marriage is definitely hard but there is at least a point to it; sleeping with people as a single person sounds a lot more fun than it actually ends up being. The juice isn’t worth the squeeze, as they say.

You have to be a very special person to enjoy monogamy. Sleeping with single people is very very fun if you're single.

Can someone please explain it to me how it’s very very fun? Dating scene sex is very limited in terms of not having oral on multiple partners, changing partners before I can even get into his rhythm, using protection and scare of infections. It takes couple months for me just to adjust my pelvic floor to a new partner, learn to trust them allow certain things etc.

Are you a man who just like PIV in condom with many different women ? Because to me as a woman it’s not nearly as fun as marital unprotected sex of greater variety

I’m a woman and I think it’s fun! I’m attractive and find it easy to match. I don’t fall into partners randomly - I’m dating for sex and fun as I won’t marry again. I also don’t take months to “warm up” or “adjust” to a partner!?!?

I think you need to relax a little.

I don’t get it: do they all perform oral on you during “dating” sex? Do you like oral on multiple men ? How do you avoid STDs?

How did you avoid it before you were married? Fact: most people don’t have an STI.

[Anonymous]

Women are under no obligation to tell a man if she’s having an abortion. It’s wonderful if she feels comfortable doing so, but it is not incumbent.