Our nanny choked at our house today.

[Anonymous]

OP this is a DCUM rarity in that 99.99 percent agree that you are not a nice person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, we had a feeding tub installed in our nanny. Saves so much time (she can have her meals on the run!), and I sleep soundly, knowing I’ll never have to come home to a messy playroom because the nanny has been dead in my kitchen since lunch.

I read this is Mrs. X’s voice (Laura Linney) 🙂

[Anonymous]

Apropos of nothing, because it has nothing to do with this situation- this literally could be anyone. Even OP could choke,right? And she's worried about if the nanny is qualified? Or what? I don't get it.

BUT ...for choking, there are devices now like Life Vac. Suction devices. We have one, and I think I'll buy more, such as one in the car.


Op, what will you do if there's an anaphylaxis, or heart attack, or car accident from another driver, or anything? How is it her fault? I can see if she took a Fentanyl laced codeine and your DH had to Narcan her after lunch. Then we could have a conversation, but what exactly is your question here?


***Yay, for Dad, though. Impressed he was able to save her.

[Anonymous]

I'm glad everything is fine. Maybe she was rushing eating. She needs to take her time

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How can you prevent it again? By not having grapes, popcorn, or hot dogs - the main foods people choke on - in your house.

Anyone can choke. Your kids were fine in the high chair. YOU could have choked on a grape while home alone with your kids - would you fire yourself from being a parent? Of course not. Shit happens. She doesn't need to go to the ER - even if your husband broke a rib, there's nothing that can be done for it.

+1. Grapes are notorious for for choking as is popcorn (our pediatrician wouldn’t let our kids have it all until age 4); hot dogs and solid potatoes and chucks of chicken.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you are a selfish, horrid human. Just vile.

Nanny here - agreed. I’m so tired of just being the help. I’ve been with my family for 15 years and pretty sure my boss would react the same as op. It’s all about YOU.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP you are a selfish, horrid human. Just vile.

Nanny here - agreed. I’m so tired of just being the help. I’ve been with my family for 15 years and pretty sure my boss would react the same as op. It’s all about YOU.

Why would you stay with someone that long? You are part of the problem.

[Anonymous]

I'd check to see how she is doing and probably give her a day or two paid off if she feels she needs them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny (mid-20s) choked while having lunch with our toddler twins today. We usually work outside the home but thank god my husband had a migraine today and called in or today could have gone very differently.

She was eating a grape when she started choking. The same grapes she served our toddlers but instead of being cut into fours she ate one whole and choked. We just watched the security camera facing the kitchen and you can literally see the panic set in and she grasps her hands around her neck and stands up trying to cough. She tried to perform the Heimlich on herself with our chair but failed. That’s when she walks out of frame of the camera.

She walked upstairs into our bedroom and banged on the door where my husband said he opened the door to her purple faced and about to pass out. Thankfully we trained for this before we had kids, but never did he expect to perform the Heimlich on an adult. Let alone our nanny. It came out fairly quickly he said and she was ok. Crying but ok. He rushed downstairs where she had left our twins (14 months old) in the high chair where they were eating like nothing happened.

We let her go home early and said maybe she should go to urgent care. Not sure if she did.

I’m glad everything is ok but honestly it makes me scared to have her back here tomorrow. What if DH wasn’t here? What would have happened to my kids? What if they choker? Fell? How can we prevent this again?

You sound horrible. Let her have the week off or find a family daycare.
Let her eat her lunch in peace

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have this https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0085F3NGK
And keep it in the kitchen
Never had to use it but it makes me feel better

I live alone and don't own any chairs. I'm going to get that. Thanks!

A counter top will also work. You just need something that you can forcefully push against

I’ve also heard you can use a gallon milk jug midway between zip hood and navel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have this https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0085F3NGK
And keep it in the kitchen
Never had to use it but it makes me feel better

I live alone and don't own any chairs. I'm going to get that. Thanks!

A counter top will also work. You just need something that you can forcefully push against

I’ve also heard you can use a gallon milk jug midway between zip hood and navel.

* xiphoid

[Anonymous]

my guess is she'll be more careful to chew her food thoroughly in the future so I doubt this will be a repeat. However, anyone can drop dead of a heart attack, stroke, anything, at any time.
life is fragile and precious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe she wasn't able to clear her own blockage. That's what would give me pause

Are you suggesting that people who choke to death are somehow incompetent? That seems very victim-blaming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If I were your nanny I’d quit. You obviously don’t give two shits about her. I can’t believe you started this thread.

+1

I agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP you are a selfish, horrid human. Just vile.

Nanny here - agreed. I’m so tired of just being the help. I’ve been with my family for 15 years and pretty sure my boss would react the same as op. It’s all about YOU.

Why would you stay with someone that long? You are part of the problem.

Explain yourself.