What are the most common ways women waste their 20s?

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Anonymous wrote:If you are both 24, been together for 2 years, both working, one going to grad school next year. Should you insist on engagement before moving with him to new town or wait until he finishes school?

Don't move for anyone without marriage.

Agreed. You can date long distance. You can break up, dare other people, and get back together later. You can also get married at 25 if you are both ready. Getting married doesn’t mean that you have to start having babies right away.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t work in a female dominated industry. The pay is low and you won’t meet marriageable men. Upskill or go back to school if you have to but you meet a lot of marriageable men at work at that age if you’re working in the good industries.

Meh. My friend earning 6 figures as a specialized nurse practitioner would prob disagree. This is weird advice and don't try to meet people at work. (I work in a male-dominated industry, fwiw)

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Trying to change him.

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Failing to understand their own value. Accepting shabby treatment because they don’t realize they’re due better.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are both 24, been together for 2 years, both working, one going to grad school next year. Should you insist on engagement before moving with him to new town or wait until he finishes school?

Don't move for anyone without marriage.

Agreed. You can date long distance. You can break up, dare other people, and get back together later. You can also get married at 25 if you are both ready. Getting married doesn’t mean that you have to start having babies right away.

I'm incredibly conservative about life decisions generally, but i bucked this advice twice - both moving x-country after i graduated college to a place where basically the only person i knew was my BF (now DH), and then moving in with him 2.5 years later without engagement. My 16 year old self would probably be horrified, but i don't know what to tell you - it just seemed really right, and it's also noteworthy that no one in my life was worried for me. Even my own (very conservative, judgemental) parents just kind of knew that these were good decisions, because "when you know, you know". On the flip side, we all know tons of friends who move in with loser boyfriends and it's obviously a terrible move. But sometimes context matters.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are both 24, been together for 2 years, both working, one going to grad school next year. Should you insist on engagement before moving with him to new town or wait until he finishes school?

Don't move for anyone without marriage.

Agreed. You can date long distance. You can break up, dare other people, and get back together later. You can also get married at 25 if you are both ready. Getting married doesn’t mean that you have to start having babies right away.

I'm incredibly conservative about life decisions generally, but i bucked this advice twice - both moving x-country after i graduated college to a place where basically the only person i knew was my BF (now DH), and then moving in with him 2.5 years later without engagement. My 16 year old self would probably be horrified, but i don't know what to tell you - it just seemed really right, and it's also noteworthy that no one in my life was worried for me. Even my own (very conservative, judgemental) parents just kind of knew that these were good decisions, because "when you know, you know". On the flip side, we all know tons of friends who move in with loser boyfriends and it's obviously a terrible move. But sometimes context matters.

Yes but this scenario is the exception.

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I want to second the poster who said therapy. I came from a messed up family. My mental health was really dragging my “package” down. Getting my embryonal house in order was crucial in attracting better quality guys.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t marry or have kids if you’re a woman. It’s a raw deal and women are waking up to it.

100%. Focus your 20’s on making money.

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DCUM

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are both 24, been together for 2 years, both working, one going to grad school next year. Should you insist on engagement before moving with him to new town or wait until he finishes school?

Don't move for anyone without marriage.

Agreed. You can date long distance. You can break up, dare other people, and get back together later. You can also get married at 25 if you are both ready. Getting married doesn’t mean that you have to start having babies right away.

I'm incredibly conservative about life decisions generally, but i bucked this advice twice - both moving x-country after i graduated college to a place where basically the only person i knew was my BF (now DH), and then moving in with him 2.5 years later without engagement. My 16 year old self would probably be horrified, but i don't know what to tell you - it just seemed really right, and it's also noteworthy that no one in my life was worried for me. Even my own (very conservative, judgemental) parents just kind of knew that these were good decisions, because "when you know, you know". On the flip side, we all know tons of friends who move in with loser boyfriends and it's obviously a terrible move. But sometimes context matters.

I’m not super conservative. I just think it’s a bad idea to move in with someone if you want to get married some day, but you aren’t headed toward marriage with that person. It’s just a waste of time.

Why did you and your husband wait so long to get married if it felt really right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are both 24, been together for 2 years, both working, one going to grad school next year. Should you insist on engagement before moving with him to new town or wait until he finishes school?

Get engaged (and set a date) or break up.

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If I had to give Gen Z advice, I'd tell them to stop wearing those dumpy, baggy looking jeans. Your 20s are your prime ass years!

In 20 years you'll be in your 40s hating the way your lumpy butts look in the trendy skinny jeans & wishing you'd taken advantage of your 20s rear!

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I spent most of mine married, thus wasted and never learned how to date as an adult. Luckily i got a great kid out of it, and an on really good friend terms with my ex and low interest in dating.

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Anonymous wrote:DCUM

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Anonymous wrote:Not marrying a nice guy they went to college/GS with and starting a family — the dating pool only gets shallower.

+100 you don’t have to have kids right away, but this is the best time to pair up with a marriage- and family-minded man.