What are the most common ways women waste their 20s?

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Anonymous wrote:Gotta lock down a dude with prospects while you're still pretty!

I was at my hottest in my early 30s.

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Don’t prioritize any man who does not prioritize you.

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Anonymous wrote:Gotta lock down a dude with prospects while you're still pretty!

I was at my hottest in my early 30s.

Based on my entirely subjective and anecdotal research, and also recognizing that there is a range for any given individual, I think 27 is the average age at which a woman is at her most attractive.

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Anonymous wrote:The most common mistake I saw my 20-something peers make was wasting too much time in dead-end relationships. Early to late twenties are a woman's prime dating years and there's no reason to date the same guy for years on end without getting engaged and married within 2 years, MAX.

Agreed!

I think 2 years from meeting someone to marrying them is pretty quick, and I say that as someone who actually did that! But I agree with your general point that most young women could be a little more discerning in who they date and for how long. If you’re in your late 20s and you’ve been with a guy for over 3 years, what are you waiting for?

I'm a PP who watched many of my friends do this in their 20s and it was the sunk cost fallacy at work. Eventually they'd break up and lots of those guys were engaged to the next woman within a year.

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I would say that one thing worse than being single is being married to some just because he checks all the boxes. I married a man in my last twenties and spent so much of my life miserable. He was perfect on paper, but not perfect for me. Don’t settle to fit some arbitrary timelines.

If you marry someone who likes you most for your appearance, your partner will hold their love hostage if your looks fade. Not all men are like this. Finding someone less shallow will allow you to age normally and still feel loved and desired.

Make your own money. At least a solid salary that can support a family on your own. It gives you freedom.

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I'm so happy I followed none of this advice. The best thing I ever did was not overthink the future and just be my authentic self. I happen to like who that is.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm so happy I followed none of this advice. The best thing I ever did was not overthink the future and just be my authentic self. I happen to like who that is.

And the rest of us do too!

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Anonymous wrote:Things I wasted:
My dating potential - I should have dated more!
My f*ckablity potential - I should have f*d more men!
My career potential - I should have gone for a high paying career!

+1 Don’t pass up f$cking the hot guy with the 🍆 because you’re scared you won’t be marriage material later.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm so happy I followed none of this advice. The best thing I ever did was not overthink the future and just be my authentic self. I happen to like who that is.

This is pretty important. I mean, you have to keep an eye on the future and can't simply carpe diem all day every day. But it's easy to be so focused on the future, you fail to notice some good opportunities in the present that will also serve you well in the future.

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Anonymous wrote:Let’s say you believe that your mid-late 20s are the best time to meet a partner. You may disagree but let’s say for arguments sake. What are the most common mistakes women make that waste the “best” relationship-building years, and how would you advise Gen Z women to not repeat these mistakes? Or if this was you, what advice would you give your younger self?

I’ll start: I always wanted a relationship, but could not move on easily from rejection and breakup and wasted precious months moving over failed romances. I also wasted time trying to change the minds of men who just wanted casual sex. I had been exposed to too much online misogyny and believed that if I held out and proved that I was “not that kind of girl” and that I was the type you would marry, not just sleep with, instead of just ignoring the guys who had this mentality. The best advice to my 25 year old self would be to move on, and move on faster.

Free yourself from the idea that marriage/having a man is the only or best way to happiness. Spend time building your own life, career, interests. If you want a relationship, date a lot and don't be afraid to move on. Don't compromise your core values. Don't let a guy string you along.

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If you are both 24, been together for 2 years, both working, one going to grad school next year. Should you insist on engagement before moving with him to new town or wait until he finishes school?

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Anonymous wrote:If you are both 24, been together for 2 years, both working, one going to grad school next year. Should you insist on engagement before moving with him to new town or wait until he finishes school?

Don't move for anyone without marriage.

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Wasting time thinking you're fat. You are in the best shape of your life. Enjoy it.

Wasting time on fixer uppers. You cannot change him. Don't waste your 20s with a party guy or an unavailable guy (emotionally, physically or otherwise only half interested in you).

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Anonymous wrote:2 years, max! If he is not committing long term, move on. Twenties are the most valuable years, so don't waste them.

This. And don't move in with him if you aren't engaged and have a wedding date set. If a guy in this 20s or older doesn't want to get married after 2 years to you, he probably never will.

I wasted 5 years in my 20s on a guy afraid of commitment, do not advise. It would have been better to be single for longer than with a guy wasting my time seeing if he could find someone better.

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Don't kid yourself: Time is ticking away. You will feel like you literally woke up one day and turned 30 years old. Don't get so caught up in your career that you forget this.