Vacations with kids clubs etc

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Anonymous wrote:Put them in camp near where you live now. Hire a sitter to stay at your house and care for them while you are home. If you want a camp during the day and evenings I’m not sure why you’re even taking them with you.

In my regular life, kid is in day camp during breaks. He needs the activity and socialization, and I can't provide that myself. I want the same on vacation. I still want him with me though. When I say evening option, I am talking about being able to go out for dinner sans kid one night, not all the nights.

In 14 years of parenting 2 kids, I’ve never sent them anywhere on vacation and we still enjoyed our vacations and had nice times. But I also was/am a SAHM and didn’t sent them places on every school break either. I think you have an unrealistic view of parenting.

Wanting to have an occasional adult dinner, on vacation or otherwise, is not at all an unrealistic view of parenting. It’s a healthy one, in fact.

Read the OP, that’s not what she wants. She wants him gone huge chunks of the day. And what she wants and her budget are also out of sync.

Hi, I am OP. I do, absolutely, want him gone huge chunks of the day. 9-noon or even better, 9-3. Also I would like an option for a night out, 5-9. When he's with us, he will be playing with us in the pool, going on excursions, playing board games, making and having meals, etc. Trust me, the kid does not want to spend all his time with his mom and dad. When I was a kid, I wanted to be around other kids my age. That's what I am providing here, sanity for all while on vacation.

Budget-wise, we can afford quite a lot, but it has to make sense. $20k for a week at Beaches Turks/ Caicos isn't worth it to me personally. I could make $20K go on for a month-long or all-summer-long vacation, which I prefer. I have both time and money, but not so much money that a full time nanny makes sense - kid is too old for that, he wants sports/activities with other kids it's not about just supervision.

$20k won’t last you a month or a summer with full-time childcare which is what you want. I feel so sorry for your poor kid. Why did you have him? One day he will realize how you feel. This is not normal.

In some locations, the day camps are like $200 a week, vs the $500-1000 I pay in DC. And in some cases, it's included.

Is there something wrong with your child? Like he has special needs or something? I’m still struggling to understand.

She wants him to go have fun with kids, what do you not understand? It’s very simple and OP has explained it more than once so I really don’t get how you’re still confused.

She wants him GONE, preferably 6+ hours a day, every day, with some dinners thrown in too. Stop normalizing that.

I’m the PP who went to Santa Barbara. The schedule some days was kids in camp 9-3 (ie 6 hours) and then family time 3-bedtime. For instance, my rising kinder went to a small touch tank aquarium, make your own pizza, and the playground. My rising 4th grader went bowling, to the science museum, and then pick-up was at the pool. Other days kids’ activities were 9 am to 12, and then 5-9 pm. Although they were exhausted, my kids loved the evening we were there for that schedule. The younger one did a pirate themed scavenger hunt and duck duck goose and I’m not sure what else. The older one talks weekly about how it was the “most epic” capture the flag she’ll ever play. It was a little exhausting getting everyone up, dressed, fed, and in sunscreen etc in time for 8:50 am drop off. One of the days that we had our kids in the afternoon, they chose more time away from us - the older one took surfing lessons while the younger one signed up to go with her “favorite babysitter” (ie a counselor) to collect seashells. The remaining days of our vacation I had some “just us four”activities planned for some of the day (but we missed those since we got sick). I wasn’t sure how it would go to be on vacation but apart from our kids 6-7 hrs per day, but we were all happy. Later in the summer I traveled with my girls to visit my sister/parents and we were together more and that was fun too. My DH couldn’t come on that trip. Both styles have their pros / cons. I think my main surprise was that it was more work and more tiring to have the camp schedule while on vacation than I realized it would be, but I’d still do it again.