preschool for 4.5 year old but terrified by covid

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Anonymous wrote:I have health anxiety due to some past medical trauma, health scares, and an autoimmune disease currently in remission, so Covid is alarming to me on many levels, especially because it’s new and we don’t know much about it like we do about other illnesses. My DH also has some underlying conditions. That said, I sent my kids back to school in masks as soon as DH and I were fully vaccinated in spring of 2021 and had them in outdoor activities etc. When my kids were fully vaccinated omicron hit, which was a huge disappointment. However, I sent them to school with their KN95’s. I just had my kids boosted a few weeks ago to time with going back to school again and now I feel pretty good about it. I’m also looking forward to the bivalent booster, hopefully in a few weeks. My kids lives are pretty much back to normal now - only thing is I make them mask in places like Target and the grocery store, or large crowds with a lot of strangers. Which isn’t a big deal to them. I listen to pediatricians with public platforms who say that if the child is fully vaccinated (and even better when they can get boosted), the risk of severe disease for them is very low. Hope this helps- I think once you bite the bullet and do it, overall you’ll feel better.

Oh my lord. What happened to you that you’re this concerned about covid for a young child?? There are so many other important things to focus on for children. This behavior is insane.

Well a child in my family has cancer and was given a small chance of survival so there’s that. Take your sociopathic behavior somewhere else.

That is very sad but what does that have to do with covid? Covid won’t likely alter their survival rate or timeline of their cancer much if at all, and, it’s not your child so how does it affect your families choices exactly

without divulging personal information the child has altered lung capacity from a transplant and bc of this has significant risk to their life. Their immune system is so compromised they have to go to the ER with a fever. It’s been an incredibly traumatic 5 years since the diagnosis and on top of this, I have long term complications I have to manage from a virus and an early cancer diagnosis that was probably caused by these complications. The fact is no one knows what the long term impacts are of repeated infections bc the virus is so new. So wanting to take basic MITIGATION measures is NOT insane when it comes to unknowns and health. That’s all I will respond to about this.

Basic mitigation is vaccination and being prepared to get paxlovid, evushield, or other monoclonal antibodies. Wearing your own n95. Keeping a child isolated their entire childhood is not basic mitigation.

Masking is basic mitigation armchair epidemiologist

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Anonymous wrote:I have health anxiety due to some past medical trauma, health scares, and an autoimmune disease currently in remission, so Covid is alarming to me on many levels, especially because it’s new and we don’t know much about it like we do about other illnesses. My DH also has some underlying conditions. That said, I sent my kids back to school in masks as soon as DH and I were fully vaccinated in spring of 2021 and had them in outdoor activities etc. When my kids were fully vaccinated omicron hit, which was a huge disappointment. However, I sent them to school with their KN95’s. I just had my kids boosted a few weeks ago to time with going back to school again and now I feel pretty good about it. I’m also looking forward to the bivalent booster, hopefully in a few weeks. My kids lives are pretty much back to normal now - only thing is I make them mask in places like Target and the grocery store, or large crowds with a lot of strangers. Which isn’t a big deal to them. I listen to pediatricians with public platforms who say that if the child is fully vaccinated (and even better when they can get boosted), the risk of severe disease for them is very low. Hope this helps- I think once you bite the bullet and do it, overall you’ll feel better.

Oh my lord. What happened to you that you’re this concerned about covid for a young child?? There are so many other important things to focus on for children. This behavior is insane.

Well a child in my family has cancer and was given a small chance of survival so there’s that. Take your sociopathic behavior somewhere else.

That is very sad but what does that have to do with covid? Covid won’t likely alter their survival rate or timeline of their cancer much if at all, and, it’s not your child so how does it affect your families choices exactly

without divulging personal information the child has altered lung capacity from a transplant and bc of this has significant risk to their life. Their immune system is so compromised they have to go to the ER with a fever. It’s been an incredibly traumatic 5 years since the diagnosis and on top of this, I have long term complications I have to manage from a virus and an early cancer diagnosis that was probably caused by these complications. The fact is no one knows what the long term impacts are of repeated infections bc the virus is so new. So wanting to take basic MITIGATION measures is NOT insane when it comes to unknowns and health. That’s all I will respond to about this.

Basic mitigation is vaccination and being prepared to get paxlovid, evushield, or other monoclonal antibodies. Wearing your own n95. Keeping a child isolated their entire childhood is not basic mitigation.

Masking is basic mitigation armchair epidemiologist

Isn’t that what she said?

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Anonymous wrote:I have health anxiety due to some past medical trauma, health scares, and an autoimmune disease currently in remission, so Covid is alarming to me on many levels, especially because it’s new and we don’t know much about it like we do about other illnesses. My DH also has some underlying conditions. That said, I sent my kids back to school in masks as soon as DH and I were fully vaccinated in spring of 2021 and had them in outdoor activities etc. When my kids were fully vaccinated omicron hit, which was a huge disappointment. However, I sent them to school with their KN95’s. I just had my kids boosted a few weeks ago to time with going back to school again and now I feel pretty good about it. I’m also looking forward to the bivalent booster, hopefully in a few weeks. My kids lives are pretty much back to normal now - only thing is I make them mask in places like Target and the grocery store, or large crowds with a lot of strangers. Which isn’t a big deal to them. I listen to pediatricians with public platforms who say that if the child is fully vaccinated (and even better when they can get boosted), the risk of severe disease for them is very low. Hope this helps- I think once you bite the bullet and do it, overall you’ll feel better.

Oh my lord. What happened to you that you’re this concerned about covid for a young child?? There are so many other important things to focus on for children. This behavior is insane.

Well a child in my family has cancer and was given a small chance of survival so there’s that. Take your sociopathic behavior somewhere else.

Isn’t this burying the lede? One of your other children has cancer?

If it’s not your child, then I would suggest focusing on your own 4.5 year old and allowing her to live a normal childhood.

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Anonymous wrote:I have health anxiety due to some past medical trauma, health scares, and an autoimmune disease currently in remission, so Covid is alarming to me on many levels, especially because it’s new and we don’t know much about it like we do about other illnesses. My DH also has some underlying conditions. That said, I sent my kids back to school in masks as soon as DH and I were fully vaccinated in spring of 2021 and had them in outdoor activities etc. When my kids were fully vaccinated omicron hit, which was a huge disappointment. However, I sent them to school with their KN95’s. I just had my kids boosted a few weeks ago to time with going back to school again and now I feel pretty good about it. I’m also looking forward to the bivalent booster, hopefully in a few weeks. My kids lives are pretty much back to normal now - only thing is I make them mask in places like Target and the grocery store, or large crowds with a lot of strangers. Which isn’t a big deal to them. I listen to pediatricians with public platforms who say that if the child is fully vaccinated (and even better when they can get boosted), the risk of severe disease for them is very low. Hope this helps- I think once you bite the bullet and do it, overall you’ll feel better.

Oh my lord. What happened to you that you’re this concerned about covid for a young child?? There are so many other important things to focus on for children. This behavior is insane.

Well a child in my family has cancer and was given a small chance of survival so there’s that. Take your sociopathic behavior somewhere else.

That is very sad but what does that have to do with covid? Covid won’t likely alter their survival rate or timeline of their cancer much if at all, and, it’s not your child so how does it affect your families choices exactly

without divulging personal information the child has altered lung capacity from a transplant and bc of this has significant risk to their life. Their immune system is so compromised they have to go to the ER with a fever. It’s been an incredibly traumatic 5 years since the diagnosis and on top of this, I have long term complications I have to manage from a virus and an early cancer diagnosis that was probably caused by these complications. The fact is no one knows what the long term impacts are of repeated infections bc the virus is so new. So wanting to take basic MITIGATION measures is NOT insane when it comes to unknowns and health. That’s all I will respond to about this.

You seem to have all the answers so exactly what are you seeking here?

If you don't like what she is saying it... read and move along

You’re saying the same thing over and over. Is that your point?

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Anonymous wrote:I have health anxiety due to some past medical trauma, health scares, and an autoimmune disease currently in remission, so Covid is alarming to me on many levels, especially because it’s new and we don’t know much about it like we do about other illnesses. My DH also has some underlying conditions. That said, I sent my kids back to school in masks as soon as DH and I were fully vaccinated in spring of 2021 and had them in outdoor activities etc. When my kids were fully vaccinated omicron hit, which was a huge disappointment. However, I sent them to school with their KN95’s. I just had my kids boosted a few weeks ago to time with going back to school again and now I feel pretty good about it. I’m also looking forward to the bivalent booster, hopefully in a few weeks. My kids lives are pretty much back to normal now - only thing is I make them mask in places like Target and the grocery store, or large crowds with a lot of strangers. Which isn’t a big deal to them. I listen to pediatricians with public platforms who say that if the child is fully vaccinated (and even better when they can get boosted), the risk of severe disease for them is very low. Hope this helps- I think once you bite the bullet and do it, overall you’ll feel better.

Oh my lord. What happened to you that you’re this concerned about covid for a young child?? There are so many other important things to focus on for children. This behavior is insane.

Well a child in my family has cancer and was given a small chance of survival so there’s that. Take your sociopathic behavior somewhere else.

Isn’t this burying the lede? One of your other children has cancer?

If it’s not your child, then I would suggest focusing on your own 4.5 year old and allowing her to live a normal childhood. [/qu


I don't believe OP wrote that or I'm lost

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Anonymous wrote:OP I don’t want to be a jerk but - you realize your behavior is very extreme? Basically nobody is still doing what you are doing. Even the ones who were because of small kids aren’t anymore because they can get the kids vaccinated.

Think. Does it make sense to you that you are behaving so differently from everyone else? How do you justify it?

Actually that's incorrect. I have a 18 month old and we were completely isolated until DC got a shot. Since then we have started doing outdoor activities. I know other parents personally who have been the same and are slowly venturing out. Stop making her feel bad and like she is alone.
I work full time but have been able to work from home as my place or work are very cautious still about covid.
I have been taking care of my child whilst working. Its been incredibly difficult. A close friend is doing the same. For us the struggle was worth protecting our babies over. I had a nanny for a few months but found it a real pain.
Now that DC is vaccinated we will be sending DC to a daycare for 2 days a week. It's taken me a lot to get go this point. I also have a underlying condition. You can do this. Just take it slow. Be cautious. Check their policy. Don't let anyone make you feel ridiculous. Only YOU get to decide your risk tolerance. Due to the nature of my work I came across terrible covid cases and decided I didn't want that for my family. I also lost a family member ro covid and wanted to protect my child.
And for those who will comment about my child suffering absolutely not DC is ahead for DC's age,
spirited and a happy child. And does fine in the park around other kids.

Yeah but you’re in the vast minority.

You're a herd follower, we get it.

You’re paranoid and in need of professional help, we get it.

We are lot not lockdown. I was an early n95 adopter because I was pregnant. I remember some snotty b in ikea loudly proclaiming masks increase transmission so that I would be sure to overhear her. I ignored her. Two weeks later everything was locked down and nobody could buy masks or hand sanitizer. I knew cloth and surgical masks were BS from the outset because I was an EMT.

"Mainstream" sources have been wrong almost every single time with this stupid virus, and it will turn out to be that way with <50s and vaccines too.

so yea, when I see someone thinking for themselves, even if they might be wrong, I admire them at this point and I have to roll my eyes at the smug sheeple

[Anonymous]

Hi op! I understand your concern.

Here’s my advice:

-obviously make sure you are all up to date on your vaccinations
-invest in good kn95s for your kid to wear. We use the ones from well before.
-test your kid one to three times a week using home tests. This increases the likelihood you will be able to catch COVID early and isolate the four year old from the rest of the household.
-keep your house well ventilated. Crack the windows, keep doors open whe nice out, buy hepa air filters, use Merv 13 air filters in the hvac.

Good luck!

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OP here still following the thread thank you for the input. I had a baby because I’m older. I knew I wanted a second and we were prepared to have a baby in 2020 but I waited a whole year for vaccines to come out. And we were in absolute lockdown my whole pregnancy like actual just home and yard deliveries only. I went in town to my appointments with a kn and n95 and face shields. Again I’m in a rural small town area so I can do this stuff but I know the preschool has had covid cases and the kids don’t wear masks anymore (or the teachers). It just sucks seeing my sister and mom deal with this weeks after infection. We’re European and A- blood type and I worry we may react worse (I don’t know just my anxiety trying to explain why things could be bad and not just a cold). And these articles about how much covid messes with you and cognition and nervous system and circulatory system don’t help. Do people just try not to think of these studies and hope for the best?

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Anonymous wrote:Hi op! I understand your concern.

Here’s my advice:

-obviously make sure you are all up to date on your vaccinations
-invest in good kn95s for your kid to wear. We use the ones from well before.
-test your kid one to three times a week using home tests. This increases the likelihood you will be able to catch COVID early and isolate the four year old from the rest of the household.
-keep your house well ventilated. Crack the windows, keep doors open whe nice out, buy hepa air filters, use Merv 13 air filters in the hvac.

Good luck!

This is incredibly messed up. Young children should not undergo recurring medical tests when they aren’t even sick. Please get help.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here still following the thread thank you for the input. I had a baby because I’m older. I knew I wanted a second and we were prepared to have a baby in 2020 but I waited a whole year for vaccines to come out. And we were in absolute lockdown my whole pregnancy like actual just home and yard deliveries only. I went in town to my appointments with a kn and n95 and face shields. Again I’m in a rural small town area so I can do this stuff but I know the preschool has had covid cases and the kids don’t wear masks anymore (or the teachers). It just sucks seeing my sister and mom deal with this weeks after infection. We’re European and A- blood type and I worry we may react worse (I don’t know just my anxiety trying to explain why things could be bad and not just a cold). And these articles about how much covid messes with you and cognition and nervous system and circulatory system don’t help. Do people just try not to think of these studies and hope for the best?

Best thing that could happen to you would be to catch covid and you could move on with your life.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here still following the thread thank you for the input. I had a baby because I’m older. I knew I wanted a second and we were prepared to have a baby in 2020 but I waited a whole year for vaccines to come out. And we were in absolute lockdown my whole pregnancy like actual just home and yard deliveries only. I went in town to my appointments with a kn and n95 and face shields. Again I’m in a rural small town area so I can do this stuff but I know the preschool has had covid cases and the kids don’t wear masks anymore (or the teachers). It just sucks seeing my sister and mom deal with this weeks after infection. We’re European and A- blood type and I worry we may react worse (I don’t know just my anxiety trying to explain why things could be bad and not just a cold). And these articles about how much covid messes with you and cognition and nervous system and circulatory system don’t help. Do people just try not to think of these studies and hope for the best?

Short answer: yes. Same thing I do with brain eating amoeba and car crash statistics. And also sexual assault statistics given that I have a daughter. We vaccinate and mask in crowded indoor locations, wear our seatbelts, and I teach both my boy and my girl about consent and hope for the best. I’m not shutting them (or me) up forever just because there are bad things in the world.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here still following the thread thank you for the input. I had a baby because I’m older. I knew I wanted a second and we were prepared to have a baby in 2020 but I waited a whole year for vaccines to come out. And we were in absolute lockdown my whole pregnancy like actual just home and yard deliveries only. I went in town to my appointments with a kn and n95 and face shields. Again I’m in a rural small town area so I can do this stuff but I know the preschool has had covid cases and the kids don’t wear masks anymore (or the teachers). It just sucks seeing my sister and mom deal with this weeks after infection. We’re European and A- blood type and I worry we may react worse (I don’t know just my anxiety trying to explain why things could be bad and not just a cold). And these articles about how much covid messes with you and cognition and nervous system and circulatory system don’t help. Do people just try not to think of these studies and hope for the best?

Do you ride in a car?
Do you look at cancer stats?
You guys are much more likely to die in a car crash, and your child is far more likely to get cancer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi op! I understand your concern.

Here’s my advice:

-obviously make sure you are all up to date on your vaccinations
-invest in good kn95s for your kid to wear. We use the ones from well before.
-test your kid one to three times a week using home tests. This increases the likelihood you will be able to catch COVID early and isolate the four year old from the rest of the household.
-keep your house well ventilated. Crack the windows, keep doors open whe nice out, buy hepa air filters, use Merv 13 air filters in the hvac.

Good luck!

This is incredibly messed up. Young children should not undergo recurring medical tests when they aren’t even sick. Please get help.

And isolate a 4yr old?!

[Anonymous]

If it were me with these concerns and a new baby at home, I would not send my child to preschool and they will be totally fine just going straight into kindergarten. I would however, venture out more like trips to the park, zoo etc to give your child experiences; consider play dates out too. Not everyone sends their children to preschool and in your case, the extra school year might be what you need and to better prepare you emotionally for the next.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here still following the thread thank you for the input. I had a baby because I’m older. I knew I wanted a second and we were prepared to have a baby in 2020 but I waited a whole year for vaccines to come out. And we were in absolute lockdown my whole pregnancy like actual just home and yard deliveries only. I went in town to my appointments with a kn and n95 and face shields. Again I’m in a rural small town area so I can do this stuff but I know the preschool has had covid cases and the kids don’t wear masks anymore (or the teachers). It just sucks seeing my sister and mom deal with this weeks after infection. We’re European and A- blood type and I worry we may react worse (I don’t know just my anxiety trying to explain why things could be bad and not just a cold). And these articles about how much covid messes with you and cognition and nervous system and circulatory system don’t help. Do people just try not to think of these studies and hope for the best?

Basically, yes. There will be lots of articles about scary things that will happen to very very very few people. You can’t live you life worrying about every consequence of going out into the world. Seek help for your anxiety, it’s treatable!!