preschool for 4.5 year old but terrified by covid

[Anonymous]

Op, you know you will die one day, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I don’t want to be a jerk but - you realize your behavior is very extreme? Basically nobody is still doing what you are doing. Even the ones who were because of small kids aren’t anymore because they can get the kids vaccinated.

Think. Does it make sense to you that you are behaving so differently from everyone else? How do you justify it?

Actually that's incorrect. I have a 18 month old and we were completely isolated until DC got a shot. Since then we have started doing outdoor activities. I know other parents personally who have been the same and are slowly venturing out. Stop making her feel bad and like she is alone.
I work full time but have been able to work from home as my place or work are very cautious still about covid.
I have been taking care of my child whilst working. Its been incredibly difficult. A close friend is doing the same. For us the struggle was worth protecting our babies over. I had a nanny for a few months but found it a real pain.
Now that DC is vaccinated we will be sending DC to a daycare for 2 days a week. It's taken me a lot to get go this point. I also have a underlying condition. You can do this. Just take it slow. Be cautious. Check their policy. Don't let anyone make you feel ridiculous. Only YOU get to decide your risk tolerance. Due to the nature of my work I came across terrible covid cases and decided I didn't want that for my family. I also lost a family member ro covid and wanted to protect my child.
And for those who will comment about my child suffering absolutely not DC is ahead for DC's age,
spirited and a happy child. And does fine in the park around other kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I don’t want to be a jerk but - you realize your behavior is very extreme? Basically nobody is still doing what you are doing. Even the ones who were because of small kids aren’t anymore because they can get the kids vaccinated.

Think. Does it make sense to you that you are behaving so differently from everyone else? How do you justify it?

Actually that's incorrect. I have a 18 month old and we were completely isolated until DC got a shot. Since then we have started doing outdoor activities. I know other parents personally who have been the same and are slowly venturing out. Stop making her feel bad and like she is alone.
I work full time but have been able to work from home as my place or work are very cautious still about covid.
I have been taking care of my child whilst working. Its been incredibly difficult. A close friend is doing the same. For us the struggle was worth protecting our babies over. I had a nanny for a few months but found it a real pain.
Now that DC is vaccinated we will be sending DC to a daycare for 2 days a week. It's taken me a lot to get go this point. I also have a underlying condition. You can do this. Just take it slow. Be cautious. Check their policy. Don't let anyone make you feel ridiculous. Only YOU get to decide your risk tolerance. Due to the nature of my work I came across terrible covid cases and decided I didn't want that for my family. I also lost a family member ro covid and wanted to protect my child.
And for those who will comment about my child suffering absolutely not DC is ahead for DC's age,
spirited and a happy child. And does fine in the park around other kids.

How about your suffering and mental health? That schedule sounds incredibly hard on you. Stress is also very damaging to health, just another perspective. Everyone is doing the best they can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I don’t want to be a jerk but - you realize your behavior is very extreme? Basically nobody is still doing what you are doing. Even the ones who were because of small kids aren’t anymore because they can get the kids vaccinated.

Think. Does it make sense to you that you are behaving so differently from everyone else? How do you justify it?

Actually that's incorrect. I have a 18 month old and we were completely isolated until DC got a shot. Since then we have started doing outdoor activities. I know other parents personally who have been the same and are slowly venturing out. Stop making her feel bad and like she is alone.
I work full time but have been able to work from home as my place or work are very cautious still about covid.
I have been taking care of my child whilst working. Its been incredibly difficult. A close friend is doing the same. For us the struggle was worth protecting our babies over. I had a nanny for a few months but found it a real pain.
Now that DC is vaccinated we will be sending DC to a daycare for 2 days a week. It's taken me a lot to get go this point. I also have a underlying condition. You can do this. Just take it slow. Be cautious. Check their policy. Don't let anyone make you feel ridiculous. Only YOU get to decide your risk tolerance. Due to the nature of my work I came across terrible covid cases and decided I didn't want that for my family. I also lost a family member ro covid and wanted to protect my child.
And for those who will comment about my child suffering absolutely not DC is ahead for DC's age,
spirited and a happy child. And does fine in the park around other kids.

How about your suffering and mental health? That schedule sounds incredibly hard on you. Stress is also very damaging to health, just another perspective. Everyone is doing the best they can.

Yes it was very hard especially as all the load fell on me. I got through with the support of friends who were in similar situations and weekly check ins with my therapist. But I set a goal that once dc was vaccinated we would start our transition to normal and that is what we are working towards. The point of my post was to let OP know that she isn't alone and that she can do it.

[Anonymous]

I say this as kindly as possible. You need professional help. You have extreme anxiety and covid triggered some type of mental health crisis in you. I think you’re aware of this which is why you realize it’s uncommon and that’s a great first step. I think once you take the first step it’ll be easy to bounce back to live your normal pre-Covid life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I don’t want to be a jerk but - you realize your behavior is very extreme? Basically nobody is still doing what you are doing. Even the ones who were because of small kids aren’t anymore because they can get the kids vaccinated.

Think. Does it make sense to you that you are behaving so differently from everyone else? How do you justify it?

Actually that's incorrect. I have a 18 month old and we were completely isolated until DC got a shot. Since then we have started doing outdoor activities. I know other parents personally who have been the same and are slowly venturing out. Stop making her feel bad and like she is alone.
I work full time but have been able to work from home as my place or work are very cautious still about covid.
I have been taking care of my child whilst working. Its been incredibly difficult. A close friend is doing the same. For us the struggle was worth protecting our babies over. I had a nanny for a few months but found it a real pain.
Now that DC is vaccinated we will be sending DC to a daycare for 2 days a week. It's taken me a lot to get go this point. I also have a underlying condition. You can do this. Just take it slow. Be cautious. Check their policy. Don't let anyone make you feel ridiculous. Only YOU get to decide your risk tolerance. Due to the nature of my work I came across terrible covid cases and decided I didn't want that for my family. I also lost a family member ro covid and wanted to protect my child.
And for those who will comment about my child suffering absolutely not DC is ahead for DC's age,
spirited and a happy child. And does fine in the park around other kids.

How about your suffering and mental health? That schedule sounds incredibly hard on you. Stress is also very damaging to health, just another perspective. Everyone is doing the best they can.

+1 at least it seems OP’s anxiety is far more harmful to her than covid is likely to ever be.
I have OCD, I intimately understand the way obsessive health fears can dominate one’s life- but exposure to the risk is a necessary start in alleviating the suffering. And maybe go on some Zoloft for awhile to help the transition.

[Anonymous]

I have health anxiety due to some past medical trauma, health scares, and an autoimmune disease currently in remission, so Covid is alarming to me on many levels, especially because it’s new and we don’t know much about it like we do about other illnesses. My DH also has some underlying conditions. That said, I sent my kids back to school in masks as soon as DH and I were fully vaccinated in spring of 2021 and had them in outdoor activities etc. When my kids were fully vaccinated omicron hit, which was a huge disappointment. However, I sent them to school with their KN95’s. I just had my kids boosted a few weeks ago to time with going back to school again and now I feel pretty good about it. I’m also looking forward to the bivalent booster, hopefully in a few weeks. My kids lives are pretty much back to normal now - only thing is I make them mask in places like Target and the grocery store, or large crowds with a lot of strangers. Which isn’t a big deal to them. I listen to pediatricians with public platforms who say that if the child is fully vaccinated (and even better when they can get boosted), the risk of severe disease for them is very low. Hope this helps- I think once you bite the bullet and do it, overall you’ll feel better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I don’t want to be a jerk but - you realize your behavior is very extreme? Basically nobody is still doing what you are doing. Even the ones who were because of small kids aren’t anymore because they can get the kids vaccinated.

Think. Does it make sense to you that you are behaving so differently from everyone else? How do you justify it?

Actually that's incorrect. I have a 18 month old and we were completely isolated until DC got a shot. Since then we have started doing outdoor activities. I know other parents personally who have been the same and are slowly venturing out. Stop making her feel bad and like she is alone.
I work full time but have been able to work from home as my place or work are very cautious still about covid.
I have been taking care of my child whilst working. Its been incredibly difficult. A close friend is doing the same. For us the struggle was worth protecting our babies over. I had a nanny for a few months but found it a real pain.
Now that DC is vaccinated we will be sending DC to a daycare for 2 days a week. It's taken me a lot to get go this point. I also have a underlying condition. You can do this. Just take it slow. Be cautious. Check their policy. Don't let anyone make you feel ridiculous. Only YOU get to decide your risk tolerance. Due to the nature of my work I came across terrible covid cases and decided I didn't want that for my family. I also lost a family member ro covid and wanted to protect my child.
And for those who will comment about my child suffering absolutely not DC is ahead for DC's age,
spirited and a happy child. And does fine in the park around other kids.

This is definitely unusual. Only 5% of daycare eligible kids are even vaccinated. You’re an outlier and your behavior is strange. In most of the country it would have been strange in fall 2020. It’s incredibly strange in almost fall 2022. It’s even stranger since we now know the vaccine doesn’t prevent transmission and that almost everyone will catch covid at some point.

Unbelievable that your child has been home without a full time childcare provider while you work, and you think this is better than the child catching covid! Your child has a miserable existence and will likely catch covid anyway. How sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have health anxiety due to some past medical trauma, health scares, and an autoimmune disease currently in remission, so Covid is alarming to me on many levels, especially because it’s new and we don’t know much about it like we do about other illnesses. My DH also has some underlying conditions. That said, I sent my kids back to school in masks as soon as DH and I were fully vaccinated in spring of 2021 and had them in outdoor activities etc. When my kids were fully vaccinated omicron hit, which was a huge disappointment. However, I sent them to school with their KN95’s. I just had my kids boosted a few weeks ago to time with going back to school again and now I feel pretty good about it. I’m also looking forward to the bivalent booster, hopefully in a few weeks. My kids lives are pretty much back to normal now - only thing is I make them mask in places like Target and the grocery store, or large crowds with a lot of strangers. Which isn’t a big deal to them. I listen to pediatricians with public platforms who say that if the child is fully vaccinated (and even better when they can get boosted), the risk of severe disease for them is very low. Hope this helps- I think once you bite the bullet and do it, overall you’ll feel better.

Oh my lord. What happened to you that you’re this concerned about covid for a young child?? There are so many other important things to focus on for children. This behavior is insane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I don’t want to be a jerk but - you realize your behavior is very extreme? Basically nobody is still doing what you are doing. Even the ones who were because of small kids aren’t anymore because they can get the kids vaccinated.

Think. Does it make sense to you that you are behaving so differently from everyone else? How do you justify it?

Actually that's incorrect. I have a 18 month old and we were completely isolated until DC got a shot. Since then we have started doing outdoor activities. I know other parents personally who have been the same and are slowly venturing out. Stop making her feel bad and like she is alone.
I work full time but have been able to work from home as my place or work are very cautious still about covid.
I have been taking care of my child whilst working. Its been incredibly difficult. A close friend is doing the same. For us the struggle was worth protecting our babies over. I had a nanny for a few months but found it a real pain.
Now that DC is vaccinated we will be sending DC to a daycare for 2 days a week. It's taken me a lot to get go this point. I also have a underlying condition. You can do this. Just take it slow. Be cautious. Check their policy. Don't let anyone make you feel ridiculous. Only YOU get to decide your risk tolerance. Due to the nature of my work I came across terrible covid cases and decided I didn't want that for my family. I also lost a family member ro covid and wanted to protect my child.
And for those who will comment about my child suffering absolutely not DC is ahead for DC's age,
spirited and a happy child. And does fine in the park around other kids.

You are also in an extreme minority.

[Anonymous]

I really find it deliciously ironic that DCUM is piling on OP when two years ago half of you were getting "OMG I'm literally shaking!!!!" angry that parents dared to send their kids to school without useless double layer cloth masks and didn't want experimental vaccines with zero long term safety data, which turned out to not even stop transmission.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really find it deliciously ironic that DCUM is piling on OP when two years ago half of you were getting "OMG I'm literally shaking!!!!" angry that parents dared to send their kids to school without useless double layer cloth masks and didn't want experimental vaccines with zero long term safety data, which turned out to not even stop transmission.

I know, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really find it deliciously ironic that DCUM is piling on OP when two years ago half of you were getting "OMG I'm literally shaking!!!!" angry that parents dared to send their kids to school without useless double layer cloth masks and didn't want experimental vaccines with zero long term safety data, which turned out to not even stop transmission.

+100000. Better keep giving your kids boosters!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I don’t want to be a jerk but - you realize your behavior is very extreme? Basically nobody is still doing what you are doing. Even the ones who were because of small kids aren’t anymore because they can get the kids vaccinated.

Think. Does it make sense to you that you are behaving so differently from everyone else? How do you justify it?

Actually that's incorrect. I have a 18 month old and we were completely isolated until DC got a shot. Since then we have started doing outdoor activities. I know other parents personally who have been the same and are slowly venturing out. Stop making her feel bad and like she is alone.
I work full time but have been able to work from home as my place or work are very cautious still about covid.
I have been taking care of my child whilst working. Its been incredibly difficult. A close friend is doing the same. For us the struggle was worth protecting our babies over. I had a nanny for a few months but found it a real pain.
Now that DC is vaccinated we will be sending DC to a daycare for 2 days a week. It's taken me a lot to get go this point. I also have a underlying condition. You can do this. Just take it slow. Be cautious. Check their policy. Don't let anyone make you feel ridiculous. Only YOU get to decide your risk tolerance. Due to the nature of my work I came across terrible covid cases and decided I didn't want that for my family. I also lost a family member ro covid and wanted to protect my child.
And for those who will comment about my child suffering absolutely not DC is ahead for DC's age,
spirited and a happy child. And does fine in the park around other kids.

Yeah but you’re in the vast minority.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really find it deliciously ironic that DCUM is piling on OP when two years ago half of you were getting "OMG I'm literally shaking!!!!" angry that parents dared to send their kids to school without useless double layer cloth masks and didn't want experimental vaccines with zero long term safety data, which turned out to not even stop transmission.

That was an extremely privileged and small bubble of people.
I have had to work in person throughout the pandemic and my then-1 year old was continuously in daycare except for the few weeks that all childcare was shut down in April 2020. We didn’t have the luxury to do otherwise.