I googled my therapist

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You broke trust by violating her boundaries.

Rrsearching public information about a person one is hiring is not at all breaking boundaries. It's also very smart.

OP self professed to doing a “deep dive” on the therapists social media to find out why they weren’t clicking. Unnecessary. If they aren’t clicking, just find a new therapist period.

[Anonymous]

Who is the weirdo saying you should not Google your medical providers? Are you a therapist with a sketchy public profile?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who is the weirdo saying you should not Google your medical providers? Are you a therapist with a sketchy public profile?

Most likely! That's my guess.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You broke trust by violating her boundaries.

Rrsearching public information about a person one is hiring is not at all breaking boundaries. It's also very smart.

OP self professed to doing a “deep dive” on the therapists social media to find out why they weren’t clicking. Unnecessary. If they aren’t clicking, just find a new therapist period.

Maybe you don't understand Facebook. If it's public on FB, it's open season. People literally put items on FB that they do not care about anyone seeing. The person is saying " These are my beliefs, my lifestyle, what is important to me." If it's private, a trained professional should will also know that it's never really private, but OP didn't break into her acct. But people who use FB don't all know that their comments on other public posts or pages. I have learned quite a bit about people that way...while not even trying!

FWIW, all the items OP found would 100% be information I would want to consider before deciding on this therapist.
OP, in my view, did due diligence.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You broke trust by violating her boundaries.

Rrsearching public information about a person one is hiring is not at all breaking boundaries. It's also very smart.

OP self professed to doing a “deep dive” on the therapists social media to find out why they weren’t clicking. Unnecessary. If they aren’t clicking, just find a new therapist period.

Well, OP found out, right? So what's the problem here?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You broke trust by violating her boundaries.

A patient can’t violate a therapist’s boundaries. You don’t know what you are talking about. You sound dim.

They have a professional not personal relationship. When OP googled their therapist, they crossed an inappropriate personal boundary.

How?? No boundaries were crossed. At all! What's the deal here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously, is there anyone who HASN'T googled their therapist?

+10000

[Anonymous]

Why are you paying for this therapist when you can get decent advice for free from DCUM? Before you start rolling you eyes at me, let me phrase it this way: Why are you asking questions about therapy on DCUM when you have a paid professional on retainer who is qualified to answer these questions?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where did you find this person? I call BS that a medical provider only has a Masters, unless this isn’t a real psychologist/licensed therapist.

Many social workers are good therapists, and most have MSW’s.

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Anonymous wrote:Being a psychotherapist doesn’t necessitate a doctorate. There are many licensed masters level therapists: LCSW, LCPC, LMFT but clearly none of those should be referred to as Dr. I’m an LCSW and have a PhD in an unrelated field so technically I’m Dr Larla but I’d NEVER use that in a clinical setting bc it would give the impression I had a PhD in social work.

FWIW I’m not kooky or new age at all and “manifesting” is definitely not a research-based therapeutic intervention! But I also don’t take insurance. Lots of us don’t because we can run more efficient private practices if they are cash pay and clients submit for reimbursement. I know it’s not ideal.

But there’s no indication that the therapist has used “Dr” in a clinical setting. The OP found this on “social media”.

No. It's on the link to the therapy portal. "Dr." Larla Smith is acailable.

It sounds like you don’t like or respect this therapist, so you should get another. You don’t need to justify it.

The therapy portal may be a medical portal that labels all primary-type providers “Dr Last Name.” My doctors office does this, and the two providers I see - a nurse practitioner and a physician assistant are both listed as “Dr Last Name.” It is incorrect, they don’t introduce themselves that way, but the portal is the portal.

Googling your physician, your vet, your therapist, your ANYTHING is actually something everyone should do. Why on earth would you not? That is literally what public info is for. And by google, I mean social media, court records, lawsuits, public commentary, etc. It's your job to decide how to interpret, but the info is there for a reason.

This is not a normal thought process. Google a date maybe, your vet though? That’s kookoobutts

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Where did you find this person? I call BS that a medical provider only has a Masters, unless this isn’t a real psychologist/licensed therapist.

Many social workers are good therapists, and most have MSW’s.

But they don’t go by Dr. Karla.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm EXCELLENT at establishing boundaries, have never used ANY drugs and have an associate's degree in office work (basically, being an EA). Can I help you with something specific regarding boundaries?

I have trouble saying no and I often do things I'd rather not do because it's easier than saying no. Apparently, I also breach boundaries via google searches.

Why do you have trouble saying no? Are you worried about people not liking you if you say no? That you’ll let them down? Something else? A friend of mine at work was the same as you, and one day I casually asked her if I could borrow $10,000. She was completely shocked and stammered that she couldn’t do that, sorry. I smiled and said “of course you can’t; that’s a totally unreasonable request!” Then I told her every time someone asked her for something, to imagine they were asking for $10,000.

For me, the key to saying no is never giving a reason why. Pushy people will find a reason your “no” shouldn’t stand. By not giving a reason, they have less to work with. So I don’t say “I can’t because my parents are staying with us and my son broke his leg in four places so I’m overwhelmed right now “. I just say “I can’t, sorry.” If the person asks why I refuse to give a reason and just say again “that won’t be possible, but good luck.” Now there are exceptions to this- I’ll give a reason to family members, very close friends. Basically only people who don’t try to take advantage of me. Sometimes I offer a piece of what they’re asking. “Sorry I can’t host a banquet for 600 at my house tomorrow, but I’m happy to drop off napkins.”

Whoa, I love when I find these nuggets of good wisdom buried in the jerk responses. Thank you PP (new poster here). Did you learn this the hard way or you are naturally protective of boundaries?

I think it mostly came naturally from watching my mother who said no to almost everything with zero f**ks given, and then I tweaked it a little. Like I will give reasons why I’m saying no to certain people.

My mom was also a master at saying no. I remember her saying to one request, after a lengthy description and request, by saying, "I think not". It became legend in our family.

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Anonymous wrote:Being a psychotherapist doesn’t necessitate a doctorate. There are many licensed masters level therapists: LCSW, LCPC, LMFT but clearly none of those should be referred to as Dr. I’m an LCSW and have a PhD in an unrelated field so technically I’m Dr Larla but I’d NEVER use that in a clinical setting bc it would give the impression I had a PhD in social work.

FWIW I’m not kooky or new age at all and “manifesting” is definitely not a research-based therapeutic intervention! But I also don’t take insurance. Lots of us don’t because we can run more efficient private practices if they are cash pay and clients submit for reimbursement. I know it’s not ideal.

But there’s no indication that the therapist has used “Dr” in a clinical setting. The OP found this on “social media”.

No. It's on the link to the therapy portal. "Dr." Larla Smith is acailable.

It sounds like you don’t like or respect this therapist, so you should get another. You don’t need to justify it.

The therapy portal may be a medical portal that labels all primary-type providers “Dr Last Name.” My doctors office does this, and the two providers I see - a nurse practitioner and a physician assistant are both listed as “Dr Last Name.” It is incorrect, they don’t introduce themselves that way, but the portal is the portal.

Googling your physician, your vet, your therapist, your ANYTHING is actually something everyone should do. Why on earth would you not? That is literally what public info is for. And by google, I mean social media, court records, lawsuits, public commentary, etc. It's your job to decide how to interpret, but the info is there for a reason.

This is not a normal thought process. Google a date maybe, your vet though? That’s kookoobutts

NP. Are you 95 years old or something? This is how the world has worked for twenty years now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being a psychotherapist doesn’t necessitate a doctorate. There are many licensed masters level therapists: LCSW, LCPC, LMFT but clearly none of those should be referred to as Dr. I’m an LCSW and have a PhD in an unrelated field so technically I’m Dr Larla but I’d NEVER use that in a clinical setting bc it would give the impression I had a PhD in social work.

FWIW I’m not kooky or new age at all and “manifesting” is definitely not a research-based therapeutic intervention! But I also don’t take insurance. Lots of us don’t because we can run more efficient private practices if they are cash pay and clients submit for reimbursement. I know it’s not ideal.

But there’s no indication that the therapist has used “Dr” in a clinical setting. The OP found this on “social media”.

No. It's on the link to the therapy portal. "Dr." Larla Smith is acailable.

It sounds like you don’t like or respect this therapist, so you should get another. You don’t need to justify it.

The therapy portal may be a medical portal that labels all primary-type providers “Dr Last Name.” My doctors office does this, and the two providers I see - a nurse practitioner and a physician assistant are both listed as “Dr Last Name.” It is incorrect, they don’t introduce themselves that way, but the portal is the portal.

Googling your physician, your vet, your therapist, your ANYTHING is actually something everyone should do. Why on earth would you not? That is literally what public info is for. And by google, I mean social media, court records, lawsuits, public commentary, etc. It's your job to decide how to interpret, but the info is there for a reason.

This is not a normal thought process. Google a date maybe, your vet though? That’s kookoobutts

Googling your vet, your dentist, your anything can tell you a lot about their experience, where they practiced before, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being a psychotherapist doesn’t necessitate a doctorate. There are many licensed masters level therapists: LCSW, LCPC, LMFT but clearly none of those should be referred to as Dr. I’m an LCSW and have a PhD in an unrelated field so technically I’m Dr Larla but I’d NEVER use that in a clinical setting bc it would give the impression I had a PhD in social work.

FWIW I’m not kooky or new age at all and “manifesting” is definitely not a research-based therapeutic intervention! But I also don’t take insurance. Lots of us don’t because we can run more efficient private practices if they are cash pay and clients submit for reimbursement. I know it’s not ideal.

But there’s no indication that the therapist has used “Dr” in a clinical setting. The OP found this on “social media”.

No. It's on the link to the therapy portal. "Dr." Larla Smith is acailable.

It sounds like you don’t like or respect this therapist, so you should get another. You don’t need to justify it.

The therapy portal may be a medical portal that labels all primary-type providers “Dr Last Name.” My doctors office does this, and the two providers I see - a nurse practitioner and a physician assistant are both listed as “Dr Last Name.” It is incorrect, they don’t introduce themselves that way, but the portal is the portal.

Googling your physician, your vet, your therapist, your ANYTHING is actually something everyone should do. Why on earth would you not? That is literally what public info is for. And by google, I mean social media, court records, lawsuits, public commentary, etc. It's your job to decide how to interpret, but the info is there for a reason.

This is not a normal thought process. Google a date maybe, your vet though? That’s kookoobutts

Googling your vet, your dentist, your anything can tell you a lot about their experience, where they practiced before, etc.

Agree, looking up their professional history, reviews, educational history is completely normal. Taking a self proclaimed “deep dive” on their social media to find out their political beliefs, dating history, who they follow, what they’ve been tagged in, etc. goes beyond a normal boundary.