Dooce

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Having seen what mental illness and/or addiction can do to some of the most wonderful people I know, I really curdle at the word "crazy." I also loved Dooce's blog back in the day. She had an original voice at a time when there weren't many original voices in mommy blogging. I thought she loved Jon and the girls quite fiercely, unvarnished, not in a "Families are Forever" Utah sort of way as she had been raised, but in a "this will always take a lot of work" sort of way. And I also suspected that she wasn't always going to be up to the task of a nuclear family, so wasn't surprised when it fell apart. I hope she has support now.

DP. This really captures it for me, too.

[Anonymous]

I think she is saying that her body dysmorphia from her anorexia nervosa is maybe the same as the body dysmorphia of trans people, and that no one's body dysmorphia should be validated.

I support trans people and I want people to live whatever gender they prefer to be. But I also guess I'm not sure what the difference is between bad anorexia nervosa body dysmorphia and trans body dysmorphia. I know I am saying this all wrong but if anyone can explain to me I think it would help me out.

I think dooce has a lot of problems and struggles with mental illness, so I'm worried that I can kind of see the point of what she is saying.

[Anonymous]

So many of the OG bloggers I used to read have marriages/families that blew up although few blogged about the real problems they were having.

dooce of course.
Maggie Mason of Mighty Girl got divorced from Brian the twitter developer guy and remarried and now has a trans kid of her own.
Rebecca Woolf of Girls Gone Child just published a book about her husband's death where she reveals that their eclectic hippiesh lifestyle with 4 kids (they got married when they found out she was pregnant) was hiding serious problems -- husband refused to wear a condom or get a vascectomy and had anger issues so that two weeks before his cancer diagnosis she actually asked him for a divorce, they hadn't had sex for several years because she felt that he had sexually mistreated her throughout their marriage.
Who else? So many weird stories connected to bloggers and their marriages that didn't really get explored originally in their blogs even though we thought blogs were trying to get the truth out there at the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think she is saying that her body dysmorphia from her anorexia nervosa is maybe the same as the body dysmorphia of trans people, and that no one's body dysmorphia should be validated.

I support trans people and I want people to live whatever gender they prefer to be. But I also guess I'm not sure what the difference is between bad anorexia nervosa body dysmorphia and trans body dysmorphia. I know I am saying this all wrong but if anyone can explain to me I think it would help me out.

I think dooce has a lot of problems and struggles with mental illness, so I'm worried that I can kind of see the point of what she is saying.

Well for one, a trans person can live a long and happy life as a trans person. Anorexia will kill you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many of the OG bloggers I used to read have marriages/families that blew up although few blogged about the real problems they were having.

dooce of course.
Maggie Mason of Mighty Girl got divorced from Brian the twitter developer guy and remarried and now has a trans kid of her own.
Rebecca Woolf of Girls Gone Child just published a book about her husband's death where she reveals that their eclectic hippiesh lifestyle with 4 kids (they got married when they found out she was pregnant) was hiding serious problems -- husband refused to wear a condom or get a vascectomy and had anger issues so that two weeks before his cancer diagnosis she actually asked him for a divorce, they hadn't had sex for several years because she felt that he had sexually mistreated her throughout their marriage.
Who else? So many weird stories connected to bloggers and their marriages that didn't really get explored originally in their blogs even though we thought blogs were trying to get the truth out there at the time.

Wow what a blast from the past. I used to read these so regularly and I totally forgot about them by now. I'll have to look them up.

Anyways, crummy marriages and divorce is nothing compared to what's happening with Dooce and obviously not unique to bloggers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think she is saying that her body dysmorphia from her anorexia nervosa is maybe the same as the body dysmorphia of trans people, and that no one's body dysmorphia should be validated.

I support trans people and I want people to live whatever gender they prefer to be. But I also guess I'm not sure what the difference is between bad anorexia nervosa body dysmorphia and trans body dysmorphia. I know I am saying this all wrong but if anyone can explain to me I think it would help me out.

I think dooce has a lot of problems and struggles with mental illness, so I'm worried that I can kind of see the point of what she is saying.

You are not the trans supporter you like people to think you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think she is saying that her body dysmorphia from her anorexia nervosa is maybe the same as the body dysmorphia of trans people, and that no one's body dysmorphia should be validated.

I support trans people and I want people to live whatever gender they prefer to be. But I also guess I'm not sure what the difference is between bad anorexia nervosa body dysmorphia and trans body dysmorphia. I know I am saying this all wrong but if anyone can explain to me I think it would help me out.

I think dooce has a lot of problems and struggles with mental illness, so I'm worried that I can kind of see the point of what she is saying.

You are not the trans supporter you like people to think you are.

That might be a little harsh, I think PP is coming from a genuine place.

The way I understand it, body dysmorphia needs to be addressed and for a trans individual, that is dressing differently, makeup, puberty blockers, hormones, etc. The dysmorphia doesn’t mean the gender identity is off.

Anorexia is in part caused by a belief that the thinner you are, the more worth you have. So with anorexia, the belief behind the dysmorphia is what you address.

It’s late and I’m not articulating this well. But there is a lot of good information out there on it.

[Anonymous]

Anorexia is not similar to transgender. Having known friends suffering from anorexia and having had two friends transition (back in the 90s before the transgender panic started).

[Anonymous]

Coming back into this thread late to say thanks PP for the above explanation, it was really helpful to me and it does make sense. I will look into it more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Coming back into this thread late to say thanks PP for the above explanation, it was really helpful to me and it does make sense. I will look into it more.

I meant to address that to 23:13. Thank you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many of the OG bloggers I used to read have marriages/families that blew up although few blogged about the real problems they were having.

dooce of course.
Maggie Mason of Mighty Girl got divorced from Brian the twitter developer guy and remarried and now has a trans kid of her own.
Rebecca Woolf of Girls Gone Child just published a book about her husband's death where she reveals that their eclectic hippiesh lifestyle with 4 kids (they got married when they found out she was pregnant) was hiding serious problems -- husband refused to wear a condom or get a vascectomy and had anger issues so that two weeks before his cancer diagnosis she actually asked him for a divorce, they hadn't had sex for several years because she felt that he had sexually mistreated her throughout their marriage.
Who else? So many weird stories connected to bloggers and their marriages that didn't really get explored originally in their blogs even though we thought blogs were trying to get the truth out there at the time.

I stopped reading Mighty Girl after they got divorced, I felt like her entire blog was a lie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So many of the OG bloggers I used to read have marriages/families that blew up although few blogged about the real problems they were having.

dooce of course.
Maggie Mason of Mighty Girl got divorced from Brian the twitter developer guy and remarried and now has a trans kid of her own.
Rebecca Woolf of Girls Gone Child just published a book about her husband's death where she reveals that their eclectic hippiesh lifestyle with 4 kids (they got married when they found out she was pregnant) was hiding serious problems -- husband refused to wear a condom or get a vascectomy and had anger issues so that two weeks before his cancer diagnosis she actually asked him for a divorce, they hadn't had sex for several years because she felt that he had sexually mistreated her throughout their marriage.
Who else? So many weird stories connected to bloggers and their marriages that didn't really get explored originally in their blogs even though we thought blogs were trying to get the truth out there at the time.

I stopped reading Mighty Girl after they got divorced, I felt like her entire blog was a lie.

I just remember how phenomenal her hair was. The color and the curls were awesome!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So many of the OG bloggers I used to read have marriages/families that blew up although few blogged about the real problems they were having.

dooce of course.
Maggie Mason of Mighty Girl got divorced from Brian the twitter developer guy and remarried and now has a trans kid of her own.
Rebecca Woolf of Girls Gone Child just published a book about her husband's death where she reveals that their eclectic hippiesh lifestyle with 4 kids (they got married when they found out she was pregnant) was hiding serious problems -- husband refused to wear a condom or get a vascectomy and had anger issues so that two weeks before his cancer diagnosis she actually asked him for a divorce, they hadn't had sex for several years because she felt that he had sexually mistreated her throughout their marriage.
Who else? So many weird stories connected to bloggers and their marriages that didn't really get explored originally in their blogs even though we thought blogs were trying to get the truth out there at the time.

I stopped reading Mighty Girl after they got divorced, I felt like her entire blog was a lie.

I just remember how phenomenal her hair was. The color and the curls were awesome!

Agree!

Did anyone used to watch those "momversation" videos with all the OGs. I really enjoyed those and really liked some of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So many of the OG bloggers I used to read have marriages/families that blew up although few blogged about the real problems they were having.

dooce of course.
Maggie Mason of Mighty Girl got divorced from Brian the twitter developer guy and remarried and now has a trans kid of her own.
Rebecca Woolf of Girls Gone Child just published a book about her husband's death where she reveals that their eclectic hippiesh lifestyle with 4 kids (they got married when they found out she was pregnant) was hiding serious problems -- husband refused to wear a condom or get a vascectomy and had anger issues so that two weeks before his cancer diagnosis she actually asked him for a divorce, they hadn't had sex for several years because she felt that he had sexually mistreated her throughout their marriage.
Who else? So many weird stories connected to bloggers and their marriages that didn't really get explored originally in their blogs even though we thought blogs were trying to get the truth out there at the time.

I stopped reading Mighty Girl after they got divorced, I felt like her entire blog was a lie.

I just remember how phenomenal her hair was. The color and the curls were awesome!

Agree!

Did anyone used to watch those "momversation" videos with all the OGs. I really enjoyed those and really liked some of them.

I remember that group of OG bloggers. The one who seemed most genuine and talented was Alice, who blogged as Finslippy. From what I can tell, her life did not implode and she remains normal and functioning.

[Anonymous]

I too loved momverssation. My favorite was Karen Waldron but I liked them all and Dooce did say some stuff that helped me!