Does anyone NOT talk politics with their spouse/partner?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t talk about it because it doesn’t matter. Too many other important things to discuss

Enjoy your privilege.

What?

[Anonymous]

We talk about everything including politics, I think you should be able to talk about everything with your spouse even if you disagree on some topics. We agree with most things but not on abortion or the death penalty. I don't try to change his position he doesn't try to change mine. It works.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dh and I probably have the same feelings about everything but he often can’t see the other side. Whereas I like to argue the middle of every issue.

Like abortion. He’s very very anti abortion. But then he can’t believe it wouldn’t be available for rape, disabilities, incest, life of the mother. He just wants to repeat that it’s gross that someone would be allowed to abort a 37 week old baby.

Some couples agree on some parts of the same issue too. Some think abortion is ok to a certain time frame like 12 weeks others are ok with partial birth abortions or full term. The point is I think it's better to be able to talk about it then never be able to voice your thoughts. That's stranger to me than just disagreeing on issues. You should be able to talk about all this not ending up in a fight.

[Anonymous]

We both hate politics, hate career politicians and prefer mayors or governors who managed cities or states and have a budget track record to any politiking congressman or senator out lying for votes.

I amazing we’ve continued to live in this crazy city, but for the most part we could avoid the swamp, but now with our children’s schooling going down the tubes we’re making it a priority to relocate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We talk politics regularly. We don’t agree on everything but do agree on the “big” things.

There was never an option for me to date someone conservative. My best friend since childhood is a gay man and someone who would not welcome him into our home and life with open arms wasn’t even getting a second date.

Oh, I bet a ton of conservatives would welcome him with open arms indeed, but not the way you mean!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We don't anymore. We used to be able to have a conversation about political issues, but not since 2016.

Civil conversation about anything remotely political is no longer possible in our relationship.

"Relationships" like this one stupify me.

How can you share a life with someone who doesn't value anything you value? Is it just about money? Or what other people think? It is just laziness?

I cannot imagine sharing my life with someone who I couldn't talk to about something as integral to life in America today as politics. Almost everything that matters is political -- unless you literally go through life doing nothing but existing -- eat/sleep/poop/take out the garbage. That is not living.

[Anonymous]

We don’t talk that much about it because we mostly agree on everything

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We don't anymore. We used to be able to have a conversation about political issues, but not since 2016.

Civil conversation about anything remotely political is no longer possible in our relationship.

"Relationships" like this one stupify me.

How can you share a life with someone who doesn't value anything you value? Is it just about money? Or what other people think? It is just laziness?

I cannot imagine sharing my life with someone who I couldn't talk to about something as integral to life in America today as politics. Almost everything that matters is political -- unless you literally go through life doing nothing but existing -- eat/sleep/poop/take out the garbage. That is not living.

Dp. People like my friend, who has been married for 27 years, didn't find out how their spouse felt *until 2016. What is she supposed to do? She still loves him and he loves her, she now has to integrate the fact that he's a trumpy pos into her reality. They don't talk politics, obviously.

[Anonymous]

We don't talk about politics because that subject is stupid, pointless, and exhausting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Dh and I probably have the same feelings about everything but he often can’t see the other side. Whereas I like to argue the middle of every issue.

Like abortion. He’s very very anti abortion. But then he can’t believe it wouldn’t be available for rape, disabilities, incest, life of the mother. He just wants to repeat that it’s gross that someone would be allowed to abort a 37 week old baby.

Some couples agree on some parts of the same issue too. Some think abortion is ok to a certain time frame like 12 weeks others are ok with partial birth abortions or full term. The point is I think it's better to be able to talk about it then never be able to voice your thoughts. That's stranger to me than just disagreeing on issues. You should be able to talk about all this not ending up in a fight.

DP Mine just gets angry about abortion and shuts down any nuanced discussion. He does the same with many other issues, he just repeats what he hears on Fox and that's it, whereas I actually welcome and consider differing viewpoints.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We don't anymore. We used to be able to have a conversation about political issues, but not since 2016.

Civil conversation about anything remotely political is no longer possible in our relationship.

"Relationships" like this one stupify me.

How can you share a life with someone who doesn't value anything you value? Is it just about money? Or what other people think? It is just laziness?

I cannot imagine sharing my life with someone who I couldn't talk to about something as integral to life in America today as politics. Almost everything that matters is political -- unless you literally go through life doing nothing but existing -- eat/sleep/poop/take out the garbage. That is not living.

Dp. People like my friend, who has been married for 27 years, didn't find out how their spouse felt *until 2016. What is she supposed to do? She still loves him and he loves her, she now has to integrate the fact that he's a trumpy pos into her reality. They don't talk politics, obviously.

Exactly. The reality is people do not remain the same over time. Sometimes the change is unwelcome.

ps would your friend want to start a club?

[Anonymous]

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DP Mine just gets angry about abortion and shuts down any nuanced discussion. He does the same with many other issues, he just repeats what he hears on Fox and that's it, whereas I actually welcome and consider differing viewpoints.

lmao if there's one thing that has been abundantly clear since 2016 (if not before) it's that Democrats do not "welcome and consider differing viewpoints" (i.e. viewpoints that diverge from the latest consensus of the Democrat hivemind).

[Anonymous]

How can you share a life with someone who doesn't value anything you value?

if you value politics and think it is "integral to everything that matters" then you are a profoundly broken human being and you should definitely avoid interactions with normal, sane human beings (i.e. those who do not think politics is "integral to everything that matters").

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We don't anymore. We used to be able to have a conversation about political issues, but not since 2016.

Civil conversation about anything remotely political is no longer possible in our relationship.

"Relationships" like this one stupify me.

How can you share a life with someone who doesn't value anything you value? Is it just about money? Or what other people think? It is just laziness?

I cannot imagine sharing my life with someone who I couldn't talk to about something as integral to life in America today as politics. Almost everything that matters is political -- unless you literally go through life doing nothing but existing -- eat/sleep/poop/take out the garbage. That is not living.

Dp. People like my friend, who has been married for 27 years, didn't find out how their spouse felt *until 2016. What is she supposed to do? She still loves him and he loves her, she now has to integrate the fact that he's a trumpy pos into her reality. They don't talk politics, obviously.

Exactly. The reality is people do not remain the same over time. Sometimes the change is unwelcome.

ps would your friend want to start a club?

I'm the PP of "We don't anymore. We used to be able to have a conversation about political issues, but not since 2016.

Civil conversation about anything remotely political is no longer possible in our relationship."

My experience is similar to the friend's. It's been pretty miserable, to be honest. My spouse was always on the conservative side, but it was like a switch flipped. It's been jarring. I guess lazy is one word that could be used to describe why I'm still here. Exhausted and depressed are other words.

[Anonymous]

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My experience is similar to the friend's. It's been pretty miserable, to be honest. My spouse was always on the conservative side, but it was like a switch flipped. It's been jarring. I guess lazy is one word that could be used to describe why I'm still here. Exhausted and depressed are other words.

Let me give you a conservative perspective. Until 2016, I didn't feel like Democrats violently hated me and wanted me fired, hounded off social media, and preferably dead. But now I do, and as you say, it was like a switch flipped in 2016, and yes, it is exhausting and depressing. Very likely your DHs attitude reflects, to some degree, the hate he feels coming at him.