Does anyone NOT talk politics with their spouse/partner?

[Anonymous]

Are all the people who are saying things like discussing politics is unimportant or shallow or dull, etc., white people? I do not understand this point of view at all!

The person saying politics = everything is right on point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dh and I probably have the same feelings about everything but he often can’t see the other side. Whereas I like to argue the middle of every issue.

Like abortion. He’s very very anti abortion. But then he can’t believe it wouldn’t be available for rape, disabilities, incest, life of the mother. He just wants to repeat that it’s gross that someone would be allowed to abort a 37 week old baby.

nobody is advocating for “abortions” at 37 weeks, so sounds like he must be having a made up argument with himself.

[Anonymous]

I wish my DH would stop talking about politics.

[Anonymous]

I don't talk politics with my dh, even though our values are aligned. I am pessimistic and, when people get all passionate and heated up over the issues, I feel they are wasting energy because things will never change for the better. There is no point discussing things we are powerless to change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't talk politics with my dh, even though our values are aligned. I am pessimistic and, when people get all passionate and heated up over the issues, I feel they are wasting energy because things will never change for the better. There is no point discussing things we are powerless to change.

I hear you, but, this is exactly how the people in power who are making things shitty want you to feel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are all the people who are saying things like discussing politics is unimportant or shallow or dull, etc., white people? I do not understand this point of view at all!

The person saying politics = everything is right on point.

That is a trite and meaningless statement. I could say art = everything, religion = everything, love = everything. Trying to fit a square peg into a round hole

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s wild to me that she doesn’t actually know! That goes beyond you’re general “not talking about politics” IMO.

DH and I don’t talk about it too often because I tend to be more harsh on republicans and politicians generally (politicians of all parties) and he thinks that’s mean and it bugs him to hear it. But we ultimately vote for the same people and believe in the same causes. We do talk about issues that aren’t completely political, like police use of force and trans rights.

Politics isn’t something I’m interested in all the time, and so that plus DH and I having different approaches to politics makes it so we don’t talk about too much. But definitely sometimes.

Yep, this is my husband and me. We agree on almost everything but I get more passionate and riled up about it, so I tend to tamp it down at home and save it for my friends.

[Anonymous]

Pretty shocking to me how many people don't talk politics! I understand not talking about it all the time, but sometimes is good.How we vote impacts everything in this world. How do you think women got the right to vote, or black people? How about child labor laws? How about environmental laws? Should they all be eliminated? Do you only care about yourselves?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why is everyone talking about "politics" like it's some knd of separate topic and not about everything we do and experience? Our money, our food, our transportation, infrastructure, education, health care, etc.
Right now it's our values.
How does anyone opt out of talking about everything?

And the wife who claims to not know what political affiliation her husband is? What? After these last 7 years? Are they cognitively challenged, depressed, living under a rock?

I talk about food when discussing what farmers market I’ll buy from this week or what recipes to try, no politics necessary. I talk about transportation when I need to buy a new car or complain about gas prices-sometimes political. I talk about education when I discuss curriculum with teachers and do homework and supplemental education with dc. I’ll discuss health care with my doctors. Majority of topics don’t center around politics unless you want them to. I don’t want my life to be like that. If you do though great I won’t judge you for it.

Agree. Not everything in life is politics. I can discuss the menu for the week and items we need to get from the grocery store without talking about how much money farmers get from the government or how the pesticides are destroying the earth. We can discuss who’s picking up Larlo from practice and who’s covering early school pickup without discussing the greed of oil companies and how our cars are polluting the air. We can talk about the upcoming school projects for the kids and what craft supplies they’ll need without talking about the good/bad of common core, or the inept school board.
Frankly, my opinions on politics won’t change anything. Discussing with my husband won’t change anything. Only through the ballot box and choosing candidates that have similar ideals without being in the pocket of lobbyists will policies change.

[Anonymous]

I vote and am informed but what is the point of talking about it? My husband and I mainly agree so talking about it would do what? "You are so right about X." "Yes, you also are so right." Wonderful. Great.

[Anonymous]

We don't, as we are bored with it and find politicians mostly annoying.

We are both sort of similar views anyway so there's nothing to discuss. We are both independent, ex-Republicans in a highly progressive limousine liberal area.

[Anonymous]

We talk politics regularly. We don’t agree on everything but do agree on the “big” things.

There was never an option for me to date someone conservative. My best friend since childhood is a gay man and someone who would not welcome him into our home and life with open arms wasn’t even getting a second date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are all the people who are saying things like discussing politics is unimportant or shallow or dull, etc., white people? I do not understand this point of view at all!

The person saying politics = everything is right on point.

Seals my impression of the current generation of American women - a bunch of empty vessels.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are all the people who are saying things like discussing politics is unimportant or shallow or dull, etc., white people? I do not understand this point of view at all!

The person saying politics = everything is right on point.

Seals my impression of the current generation of American women - a bunch of empty vessels.

Huh. Now see as for me, I don’t look at this vapid comment from somebody suffering from intense insecurity and think that all men are so sexist and stupid.

[Anonymous]

We don't anymore. We used to be able to have a conversation about political issues, but not since 2016.

Civil conversation about anything remotely political is no longer possible in our relationship.