overnight school field trips in a hotel--sharing beds?

[Anonymous]

I would have my child use a sleeping bag or air mattress and sleep on the floor. Everyone is gay now so you can’t take any chances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The number of “out” LGBT students now changes the calculation somewhat from when many of us were kids. Not a judgement.

I feel like that actually moves the needle towards four in a room so no two students are alone for a whole night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would have my child use a sleeping bag or air mattress and sleep on the floor. Everyone is gay now so you can’t take any chances.

You think they'll be assaulted in their sleep by a classmate with two others in the room? Wtf?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The number of “out” LGBT students now changes the calculation somewhat from when many of us were kids. Not a judgment.

+100 Whole different game if your daughter is sharing a bed with a 13 to 16-year-old transgender student. Not a judgment, but something to think about.

[Anonymous]

We did 4 to a room 2 to a bed back in the 1980s in my PA high school for band trip. The girl I shared a bed with had apparently just gotten over shingles. Guess who got chicken pox the next week? I was a senior in high school, too!

[Anonymous]

my child would not be allowed to go. This is a disaster waiting to happen. Even now I tell my elementary school daughter no one gets in a bed with you. Not sure why any school would want to do this given all that we know now.

[Anonymous]

I never liked doing this either as a kid in school. I think there must be many girls that also feel this way and it is totally not a gay thing as I am a straight American married woman of 25 years. I just think it can be anxiety producing to share a bed with somebody you are not close to. I have a daughter that traveled for dance competitions and the girls would bring sleeping bags and put those on top of the bed or somebody would sleep on the floor. My son traveled for band in high school and they used to stack pillows and instrument cases in between them and had the rule that one person is under the covers and another person is on top of the covers. Sharing the room is not the problem but the bed is different even for a lot of girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your high school student has gone on an overnight trip with a team/club/band, etc. what type of hotel accommodations/students per bed did they have? In the early 90s my school band would take a 2-3 night overnight trip each spring. 4 students would share one hotel room; 2 student per full/queen bed. My son's school is now offering something similar, and my husband was shocked that they expect two students to share a bed. Is this still typical in most schools?

Tell your husband to rent your kid a private room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The number of “out” LGBT students now changes the calculation somewhat from when many of us were kids. Not a judgement.

It’s not really the “out” kids who are fooling around. The sexual activity is mostly going on between the bi and bi-curious kids overnight.

Not a big deal if a couple of teen girls experience some kissing or heavy petting. For boys, it’s a wise precaution to openly and directly equip them with condoms and knowledge- to be on the safe side.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The number of “out” LGBT students now changes the calculation somewhat from when many of us were kids. Not a judgement.

It’s not really the “out” kids who are fooling around. The sexual activity is mostly going on between the bi and bi-curious kids overnight.

Not a big deal if a couple of teen girls experience some kissing or heavy petting. For boys, it’s a wise precaution to openly and directly equip them with condoms and knowledge- to be on the safe side.

The issue is that both kids have to want to do this.

[Anonymous]

If adults went on a work trip overnight, would it be OK to share beds with same sex co-workers?

[Anonymous]

In the age of many kids identifying as lgbqt+, I would not be ok with bed sharing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In the age of many kids identifying as lgbqt+, I would not be ok with bed sharing.

Actually I would be ok if there was one adult in the room: one adult and their kid in one bed, two other kids sharing the other bed. But adult supervision in a hotel room is a must

[Anonymous]

I remember sharing a bed on various school trips, and having a blast. It was like a sleepover. We would talk forever, get cokes and ice from the ice machine, and zip in and out of each other’s rooms until the chaperone told us to knock it off and go to our rooms. I don’t remember ever even thinking about it being weird to share a bed, and I was an only child, so it wasn’t like it was a typical thing for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In the age of many kids identifying as lgbqt+, I would not be ok with bed sharing.

Actually I would be ok if there was one adult in the room: one adult and their kid in one bed, two other kids sharing the other bed. But adult supervision in a hotel room is a must

Ew, no, an adult in the room makes everything weird. They might be an abuser. I wouldn’t permit an adult to be in the room with my child overnight.