Changing diapers at a friend's house

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, the diaper in trashcan wasn't even wrapped. and I didn't even know she used our trashcan.
so I didn't have a chance to tell her at the time.
Next time, I'll tell her to wrap it and throw outside bin.

But in my opinion, I don't need to prepare a diaper pail for someone (even friends), and people with kids should bring plastic bags or something to cover it up.
Again, I'm not trying to offend anyone. that's how I think "manner" is and how I want to be as parents in the future.

I would not invite her back with or without baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Address where you want dirty diapers to go if you invite an infant into your house. They all use diapers you know. And so did you and every other person. Not a big deal but to avoid upset... communicate what you want.

Yes. It sounds like this took you by surprise. Your friend could have handled it better as well. Move forward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I carry those dog poop bags in my diaper bag and always tie up the diaper and bring it home to dispose. I would never leave it in a friend’s trash!

And yes, I do the same with pads and tampons. I keep little bags in my purse.

It’s how I was raised and how my mother has always taught me.

Yeah, that's how I was raised too.
I thought that I'm crazy since I've seen the comments here.

+3. Me too! I would never leave a dirty diaper or bloodied sanitary pad in a host’s trash can! You wrap it and tuck it in your bag to dispose of at home! Further I have never had a friend/guest leave either in my trash either!!

[Anonymous]

The taking pads home thing is NOT normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I carry those dog poop bags in my diaper bag and always tie up the diaper and bring it home to dispose. I would never leave it in a friend’s trash!

And yes, I do the same with pads and tampons. I keep little bags in my purse.

It’s how I was raised and how my mother has always taught me.

Yeah, that's how I was raised too.
I thought that I'm crazy since I've seen the comments here.

+3. Me too! I would never leave a dirty diaper or bloodied sanitary pad in a host’s trash can! You wrap it and tuck it in your bag to dispose of at home! Further I have never had a friend/guest leave either in my trash either!!

I know you're trying to prove you're the politest person around but if I knew any of my friends were walking around with bloodied santitary pads in their purses I would recommend therapy. What do you think bathroom trash cans are for? What did OP think happened to the diaper? This is pathological. It's trash. Trash goes in trash cans. If you have strong preferences about which can (inside vs outside) then use your big girl voice and state them. Judging people you invited into your home for having the nerve to put trash in your trash cans is literally insane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I carry those dog poop bags in my diaper bag and always tie up the diaper and bring it home to dispose. I would never leave it in a friend’s trash!

And yes, I do the same with pads and tampons. I keep little bags in my purse.

It’s how I was raised and how my mother has always taught me.

Yeah, that's how I was raised too.
I thought that I'm crazy since I've seen the comments here.

+3. Me too! I would never leave a dirty diaper or bloodied sanitary pad in a host’s trash can! You wrap it and tuck it in your bag to dispose of at home! Further I have never had a friend/guest leave either in my trash either!!

I know you're trying to prove you're the politest person around but if I knew any of my friends were walking around with bloodied santitary pads in their purses I would recommend therapy. What do you think bathroom trash cans are for? What did OP think happened to the diaper? This is pathological. It's trash. Trash goes in trash cans. If you have strong preferences about which can (inside vs outside) then use your big girl voice and state them. Judging people you invited into your home for having the nerve to put trash in your trash cans is literally insane.

You’re wrong, PP. You never leave anything that has an odor in someone else’s trash can. Your friends are too polite to tell you that you’re a pig.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The taking pads home thing is NOT normal.

If it’s not normal in your world, it should be. Bloodied pads smell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I carry those dog poop bags in my diaper bag and always tie up the diaper and bring it home to dispose. I would never leave it in a friend’s trash!

And yes, I do the same with pads and tampons. I keep little bags in my purse.

It’s how I was raised and how my mother has always taught me.

Yeah, that's how I was raised too.
I thought that I'm crazy since I've seen the comments here.

+3. Me too! I would never leave a dirty diaper or bloodied sanitary pad in a host’s trash can! You wrap it and tuck it in your bag to dispose of at home! Further I have never had a friend/guest leave either in my trash either!!

I know you're trying to prove you're the politest person around but if I knew any of my friends were walking around with bloodied santitary pads in their purses I would recommend therapy. What do you think bathroom trash cans are for? What did OP think happened to the diaper? This is pathological. It's trash. Trash goes in trash cans. If you have strong preferences about which can (inside vs outside) then use your big girl voice and state them. Judging people you invited into your home for having the nerve to put trash in your trash cans is literally insane.

You’re wrong, PP. You never leave anything that has an odor in someone else’s trash can. Your friends are too polite to tell you that you’re a pig.

Your pads should not have an odor. You need a whole team of doctors, apparently.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The taking pads home thing is NOT normal.

If it’s not normal in your world, it should be. Bloodied pads smell.

Which is why I never wear them. It’s antiquated and creates so much waste. Being that worried about your pads reads like body shame as well.

[Anonymous]

When my babies were in diapers, I did use doggie bags for poop diapers when out and about. I also wouldn't put them in my own kitchen trash, and we had a nursery diaper pail that wasn't as smell-proof as others, so all poop diapers went outside right away once the kid was on solids.

As for being a guest, I would definitely ask or at least let them know. I would be taken aback to be told to pack it and take it home with me, but I would fully expect to be directed to an outside garbage. If it was a long visit and the outside garbage was inconvenient, I'd hope my host would offer a suggestion. (For example, my in laws set up a little garbage i the garage for a multi day visit. Another friend found a little trash to put out of site just out the door.)

But, if someone left a dirty diaper in my kitchen garbage, I would just take it out and offer an alternative next time. It is within the range of normal, although I think a lot of parents would ask where the best spot was

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The taking pads home thing is NOT normal.

If it’s not normal in your world, it should be. Bloodied pads smell.

Which is why I never wear them. It’s antiquated and creates so much waste. Being that worried about your pads reads like body shame as well.

We have so many more options than pads now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my babies were in diapers, I did use doggie bags for poop diapers when out and about. I also wouldn't put them in my own kitchen trash, and we had a nursery diaper pail that wasn't as smell-proof as others, so all poop diapers went outside right away once the kid was on solids.

As for being a guest, I would definitely ask or at least let them know. I would be taken aback to be told to pack it and take it home with me, but I would fully expect to be directed to an outside garbage. If it was a long visit and the outside garbage was inconvenient, I'd hope my host would offer a suggestion. (For example, my in laws set up a little garbage i the garage for a multi day visit. Another friend found a little trash to put out of site just out the door.)

But, if someone left a dirty diaper in my kitchen garbage, I would just take it out and offer an alternative next time. It is within the range of normal, although I think a lot of parents would ask where the best spot was

Thank you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I carry those dog poop bags in my diaper bag and always tie up the diaper and bring it home to dispose. I would never leave it in a friend’s trash!

And yes, I do the same with pads and tampons. I keep little bags in my purse.

It’s how I was raised and how my mother has always taught me.

Yeah, that's how I was raised too.
I thought that I'm crazy since I've seen the comments here.

+3. Me too! I would never leave a dirty diaper or bloodied sanitary pad in a host’s trash can! You wrap it and tuck it in your bag to dispose of at home! Further I have never had a friend/guest leave either in my trash either!!

I know you're trying to prove you're the politest person around but if I knew any of my friends were walking around with bloodied santitary pads in their purses I would recommend therapy. What do you think bathroom trash cans are for? What did OP think happened to the diaper? This is pathological. It's trash. Trash goes in trash cans. If you have strong preferences about which can (inside vs outside) then use your big girl voice and state them. Judging people you invited into your home for having the nerve to put trash in your trash cans is literally insane.

You’re wrong, PP. You never leave anything that has an odor in someone else’s trash can. Your friends are too polite to tell you that you’re a pig.

Your pads should not have an odor. You need a whole team of doctors, apparently.

NP here. Blood definitely has a smell. I’m worried for you that you don’t know that! I bet you’re one of those parents who doesn’t bathe their kids more than once a week and you don’t think they smell either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The taking pads home thing is NOT normal.

If it’s not normal in your world, it should be. Bloodied pads smell.

Which is why I never wear them. It’s antiquated and creates so much waste. Being that worried about your pads reads like body shame as well.

I still wear pads and I won’t leave anything in anyone’s trash that has an odor. That’s common courtesy, PP, not shame. Especially in older (post menopausal) family members home who use the bathroom trash can for refuse unrelated to bodily fluids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The taking pads home thing is NOT normal.

If it’s not normal in your world, it should be. Bloodied pads smell.

Which is why I never wear them. It’s antiquated and creates so much waste. Being that worried about your pads reads like body shame as well.

I still wear pads and I won’t leave anything in anyone’s trash that has an odor. That’s common courtesy, PP, not shame. Especially in older (post menopausal) family members home who use the bathroom trash can for refuse unrelated to bodily fluids.

I don’t even know what you’re trying to say with that last sentence. But there’s all kinds of non-disposable methods of managing your period that you wouldn’t have to leave even in your own trash.