Question about families hanging around at evening hours at playground on weekday?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In our neighborhood it’s entirely Hispanic families at the park after 6pm. I think it’s just a cultural thing. Also could be the parents have had to work hard all day and this is the only time they can be together outside.

We have our kids in bed by 8pm with dinner at 6pm. Late night park just wouldn’t work.

Different strokes for different folks- neither being better or worse if it works for you.

A ton of Ethiopian families in my neighborhood do the same. Although we do dinner and bedtime earlier most days we do join in sometimes because it is absolutely bustling and the kids love it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids must get really unusually sweaty if they need a shower after playing at the playground.

this is a cultural thing around dirt, my husband is asian and he would get grossed out if the kids didn't bathe and change after they came home plus no shoes in the house, since we've moved to th suburbs though he has calmed down. still no shoes in the house though but in winter we dont shower every single day.

This is a your husband thing, not an “Asian” thing.

Asian husband here. Wait, am I in the minority for making my (elementary age) kids shower every evening before bed? I mean, I'll make an occasional exception if the kids fall asleep in the car when we're getting home very late, but I can probably count on one hand the number of times that happens in a year.

Also, never shoes in the house. On this I stand firm

Daily showering is definitely not just an Asian thing. It is a cross cultural habit for those of us who like to be clean.

I am a mom to my two daughters. They have to bathe or shower everyday. It's good hygiene.

I'm surprised other parents do not have their daughter bathe /shower everyday. I understand it's not necessary for a son.

This is sexist garbage

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids must get really unusually sweaty if they need a shower after playing at the playground.

this is a cultural thing around dirt, my husband is asian and he would get grossed out if the kids didn't bathe and change after they came home plus no shoes in the house, since we've moved to th suburbs though he has calmed down. still no shoes in the house though but in winter we dont shower every single day.

This is a your husband thing, not an “Asian” thing.

Asian husband here. Wait, am I in the minority for making my (elementary age) kids shower every evening before bed? I mean, I'll make an occasional exception if the kids fall asleep in the car when we're getting home very late, but I can probably count on one hand the number of times that happens in a year.

Also, never shoes in the house. On this I stand firm

Daily showering is definitely not just an Asian thing. It is a cross cultural habit for those of us who like to be clean.

I am a mom to my two daughters. They have to bathe or shower everyday. It's good hygiene.

I'm surprised other parents do not have their daughter bathe /shower everyday. I understand it's not necessary for a son.

I have 2 boys in upper ES and they absolutely reek after a day of active outside play. They definitely shower in the evening.

[Anonymous]

During spring and summer my kids sometimes stay at the playground until 8pm. In that case they would usually eat dinner around 5:00 and maybe have a snack before bed.

[Anonymous]

Why all the vitriol towards OP? Probably just curious. No need to be sensitive about everything.

OP, we do this sometimes. The park is literally down the street from us. May go around 6-7, get home, shower, kids eat dinner, then bedtimes are 9pm for all 3, who attend the same school at 8am. And yes, we're Asian Americans.

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids must get really unusually sweaty if they need a shower after playing at the playground.

this is a cultural thing around dirt, my husband is asian and he would get grossed out if the kids didn't bathe and change after they came home plus no shoes in the house, since we've moved to th suburbs though he has calmed down. still no shoes in the house though but in winter we dont shower every single day.

This is a your husband thing, not an “Asian” thing.

Asian husband here. Wait, am I in the minority for making my (elementary age) kids shower every evening before bed? I mean, I'll make an occasional exception if the kids fall asleep in the car when we're getting home very late, but I can probably count on one hand the number of times that happens in a year.

Also, never shoes in the house. On this I stand firm

Daily showering is definitely not just an Asian thing. It is a cross cultural habit for those of us who like to be clean.

I am a mom to my two daughters. They have to bathe or shower everyday. It's good hygiene.

I'm surprised other parents do not have their daughter bathe /shower everyday. I understand it's not necessary for a son.

Why is it not necessary for a boy?

[Anonymous]

No idea, but I've seen kids at the playground in pajamas at all times of day (Vienna, VA). So they may well be going home and showering before bed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In our neighborhood it’s entirely Hispanic families at the park after 6pm. I think it’s just a cultural thing. Also could be the parents have had to work hard all day and this is the only time they can be together outside.

We have our kids in bed by 8pm with dinner at 6pm. Late night park just wouldn’t work.

Different strokes for different folks- neither being better or worse if it works for you.

A ton of Ethiopian families in my neighborhood do the same. Although we do dinner and bedtime earlier most days we do join in sometimes because it is absolutely bustling and the kids love it.

We live in a white neighborhood. Very few Hispanics and no Ethiopians. White people go to the playground too. What an odd thing to say about Hispanics and Ethiopians.

My son plays soccer at the school fields and when I am there for soccer practice, I see white families at the playground. It may be the only time for them to spend time together after school and after work.

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My preteen (who has started puberty) showers nightly. My young ES kid doesn’t need to yet. If we are at the playground in the evening, we’ve probably already had dinner. Kids always eat a snack before bed anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you have to let a few things go and be a little less rigid. I let my kids play outside until late and then give them dinner and bath afterwards. I used to rush home on nice days, feed them and take them outside they would come in hungry and if have to give them more dinner. Now I give them a snack, take them to play as long as possible and come in and do bath and bed I find that my kids don't sleep at all if they do not play outside. I value the unstructured play time more than I value my schedule. My kids also have better moods if they play outside.

Exactly this.

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Anonymous wrote:In our neighborhood it’s entirely Hispanic families at the park after 6pm. I think it’s just a cultural thing. Also could be the parents have had to work hard all day and this is the only time they can be together outside.

We have our kids in bed by 8pm with dinner at 6pm. Late night park just wouldn’t work.

Different strokes for different folks- neither being better or worse if it works for you.

A ton of Ethiopian families in my neighborhood do the same. Although we do dinner and bedtime earlier most days we do join in sometimes because it is absolutely bustling and the kids love it.

We live in a white neighborhood. Very few Hispanics and no Ethiopians. White people go to the playground too. What an odd thing to say about Hispanics and Ethiopians.

My son plays soccer at the school fields and when I am there for soccer practice, I see white families at the playground. It may be the only time for them to spend time together after school and after work.

NP well this might be a stereotype but I tend to see non-white cultures being more flexible with bedtime. I am non-white (Asian) myself. My white friends tend to be very rigid: bedtime at X, nap time (and later quiet time) at Y. No exceptions whatsoever.

[Anonymous]

^ Btw I am similarly rigid 80-90% of the time but do make exceptions

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In our neighborhood it’s entirely Hispanic families at the park after 6pm. I think it’s just a cultural thing. Also could be the parents have had to work hard all day and this is the only time they can be together outside.

We have our kids in bed by 8pm with dinner at 6pm. Late night park just wouldn’t work.

Different strokes for different folks- neither being better or worse if it works for you.

A ton of Ethiopian families in my neighborhood do the same. Although we do dinner and bedtime earlier most days we do join in sometimes because it is absolutely bustling and the kids love it.

We live in a white neighborhood. Very few Hispanics and no Ethiopians. White people go to the playground too. What an odd thing to say about Hispanics and Ethiopians.

My son plays soccer at the school fields and when I am there for soccer practice, I see white families at the playground. It may be the only time for them to spend time together after school and after work.

NP well this might be a stereotype but I tend to see non-white cultures being more flexible with bedtime. I am non-white (Asian) myself. My white friends tend to be very rigid: bedtime at X, nap time (and later quiet time) at Y. No exceptions whatsoever.

Same experience here, but it feels like white European immigrant families (based on the people we've met and the languages we hear) are also out in the evening at our playground.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids must get really unusually sweaty if they need a shower after playing at the playground.

this is a cultural thing around dirt, my husband is asian and he would get grossed out if the kids didn't bathe and change after they came home plus no shoes in the house, since we've moved to th suburbs though he has calmed down. still no shoes in the house though but in winter we dont shower every single day.

This is a your husband thing, not an “Asian” thing.

Asian husband here. Wait, am I in the minority for making my (elementary age) kids shower every evening before bed? I mean, I'll make an occasional exception if the kids fall asleep in the car when we're getting home very late, but I can probably count on one hand the number of times that happens in a year.

Also, never shoes in the house. On this I stand firm

I am Eastern European and I am the same way

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Anonymous wrote:In our neighborhood it’s entirely Hispanic families at the park after 6pm. I think it’s just a cultural thing. Also could be the parents have had to work hard all day and this is the only time they can be together outside.

We have our kids in bed by 8pm with dinner at 6pm. Late night park just wouldn’t work.

Different strokes for different folks- neither being better or worse if it works for you.

A ton of Ethiopian families in my neighborhood do the same. Although we do dinner and bedtime earlier most days we do join in sometimes because it is absolutely bustling and the kids love it.

We live in a white neighborhood. Very few Hispanics and no Ethiopians. White people go to the playground too. What an odd thing to say about Hispanics and Ethiopians.

My son plays soccer at the school fields and when I am there for soccer practice, I see white families at the playground. It may be the only time for them to spend time together after school and after work.

NP well this might be a stereotype but I tend to see non-white cultures being more flexible with bedtime. I am non-white (Asian) myself. My white friends tend to be very rigid: bedtime at X, nap time (and later quiet time) at Y. No exceptions whatsoever.

Same experience here, but it feels like white European immigrant families (based on the people we've met and the languages we hear) are also out in the evening at our playground.

I agree with the last PP!
- white European immigrant