Question about families hanging around at evening hours at playground on weekday?

[Anonymous]

Were they speaking English?
I am not from here and used to hang out late with people from my culture - many moms didn’t work and they would let their kids take long naps so then the kids wouldn’t settle until like 10-11 pm but moms didn’t mind because sahm.
It’s a combination of tradition of sah with young kids and long naps imo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I see many families with ES/pre-K kids (some in pajamas) play at playground yesterday night at 6:30pm. Some of them were before as early as 5:30pm.

Did the family have dinner already, shower?, kids come to play, and then go to bed afterwards in sweat? Or go home to dinner afterwards? We left at 7pm with dinner carryout home, well, my kids don't hit bed till as late as 9pm/10pm even though they are ES/pre-K age, and I know it is uncommon.

So every family has to do things exactly the way you do? Why?

[Anonymous]

God mind your own business you complete and utter weirdo. Of all the things to be judged about. I’ll take my kid to the playground whenever I please and o could care less what you think about how late it is, our attire, etc. again, mind your own business!

[Anonymous]

Guys, chill! OP came back to explain that she wants to be able to take her kids to the playground in the evening and is trying to figure out how to do it.

[Anonymous]

In our neighborhood it’s entirely Hispanic families at the park after 6pm. I think it’s just a cultural thing. Also could be the parents have had to work hard all day and this is the only time they can be together outside.

We have our kids in bed by 8pm with dinner at 6pm. Late night park just wouldn’t work.

Different strokes for different folks- neither being better or worse if it works for you.

[Anonymous]

Picking your kids up at 6-6:30pm is really late. The reason some of us are at the playground in the evening is because we pick our kids up between 4:30-5:30pm. We do this by starting earlier, not taking lunch, and working from home 5-10 min from preschool.

If my kids don’t have activities and I have leftovers in the fridge or my partner is picking up takeout, I take my kids outside on nice days to keep them away from the iPad/TV.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Your kids must get really unusually sweaty if they need a shower after playing at the playground.

this is a cultural thing around dirt, my husband is asian and he would get grossed out if the kids didn't bathe and change after they came home plus no shoes in the house, since we've moved to th suburbs though he has calmed down. still no shoes in the house though but in winter we dont shower every single day.

This is a your husband thing, not an “Asian” thing.

Asian husband here. Wait, am I in the minority for making my (elementary age) kids shower every evening before bed? I mean, I'll make an occasional exception if the kids fall asleep in the car when we're getting home very late, but I can probably count on one hand the number of times that happens in a year.

Also, never shoes in the house. On this I stand firm

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I see many families with ES/pre-K kids (some in pajamas) play at playground yesterday night at 6:30pm. Some of them were before as early as 5:30pm.

Did the family have dinner already, shower?, kids come to play, and then go to bed afterwards in sweat? Or go home to dinner afterwards? We left at 7pm with dinner carryout home, well, my kids don't hit bed till as late as 9pm/10pm even though they are ES/pre-K age, and I know it is uncommon.

How does this affect your life. Unbelievable!

Really. This has to be a troll, and if not, I'm sorry for you and for anyone who knows you.

[Anonymous]

Why is everyone jumping on OP and assuming she was being judgmental? I saw no judgment in either her original or follow-up posts. Just curiosity. Maybe some of you nasty responders need to examine why you project judgment on everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kids must get really unusually sweaty if they need a shower after playing at the playground.

this is a cultural thing around dirt, my husband is asian and he would get grossed out if the kids didn't bathe and change after they came home plus no shoes in the house, since we've moved to th suburbs though he has calmed down. still no shoes in the house though but in winter we dont shower every single day.

This is a your husband thing, not an “Asian” thing.

Asian husband here. Wait, am I in the minority for making my (elementary age) kids shower every evening before bed? I mean, I'll make an occasional exception if the kids fall asleep in the car when we're getting home very late, but I can probably count on one hand the number of times that happens in a year.

Also, never shoes in the house. On this I stand firm

Daily showering is definitely not just an Asian thing. It is a cross cultural habit for those of us who like to be clean.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kids must get really unusually sweaty if they need a shower after playing at the playground.

this is a cultural thing around dirt, my husband is asian and he would get grossed out if the kids didn't bathe and change after they came home plus no shoes in the house, since we've moved to th suburbs though he has calmed down. still no shoes in the house though but in winter we dont shower every single day.

This is a your husband thing, not an “Asian” thing.

Asian husband here. Wait, am I in the minority for making my (elementary age) kids shower every evening before bed? I mean, I'll make an occasional exception if the kids fall asleep in the car when we're getting home very late, but I can probably count on one hand the number of times that happens in a year.

Also, never shoes in the house. On this I stand firm

Daily showering is definitely not just an Asian thing. It is a cross cultural habit for those of us who like to be clean. [/quote

+1]

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kids must get really unusually sweaty if they need a shower after playing at the playground.

this is a cultural thing around dirt, my husband is asian and he would get grossed out if the kids didn't bathe and change after they came home plus no shoes in the house, since we've moved to th suburbs though he has calmed down. still no shoes in the house though but in winter we dont shower every single day.

This is a your husband thing, not an “Asian” thing.

Asian husband here. Wait, am I in the minority for making my (elementary age) kids shower every evening before bed? I mean, I'll make an occasional exception if the kids fall asleep in the car when we're getting home very late, but I can probably count on one hand the number of times that happens in a year.

Also, never shoes in the house. On this I stand firm

Daily showering is definitely not just an Asian thing. It is a cross cultural habit for those of us who like to be clean.

I am a mom to my two daughters. They have to bathe or shower everyday. It's good hygiene.

I'm surprised other parents do not have their daughter bathe /shower everyday. I understand it's not necessary for a son.

[Anonymous]

Once a week go to the park right after pickup then go for ice cream and skip the shower if you have to. Some things are more important than dinner and showers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Once a week go to the park right after pickup then go for ice cream and skip the shower if you have to. Some things are more important than dinner and showers.

+1,000

[Anonymous]

I think you have to let a few things go and be a little less rigid. I let my kids play outside until late and then give them dinner and bath afterwards. I used to rush home on nice days, feed them and take them outside they would come in hungry and if have to give them more dinner. Now I give them a snack, take them to play as long as possible and come in and do bath and bed I find that my kids don't sleep at all if they do not play outside. I value the unstructured play time more than I value my schedule. My kids also have better moods if they play outside.