Letter from Sidwell College Counseling Office?

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Anonymous wrote:This is a nutty thread.

Agreed! Isn’t it awesome! Never fails this time of year. SFS parents lose their sh!t and start ripping into their CCO and each other. It’s one of the first signs of spring!

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Anonymous wrote:It wasn't "important," and it certainly wasn't intended for parents of 10th graders. MYOB, OP.

Good lord. OP, here. This is my oldest child and, from what I understand, the college process starts this spring for 10th graders. Given that, I would think that parents of 12th graders would be gracious enough to share information with others in the Sidwell community.

If you have a child in the 10th grade, I can promise you that you don't need to be worrying about the college process now. Stop before you turn into one of those parents that we all discuss.

Totally disagree. Lots of schools and places have meetings or presentations intended for sophomores and their families on college issues. SAT, PSAT and Act exams or prep starts now.

You are missing the point. THIS PARTICULAR LETTER was sent out to 12th-grade families, for kids who are CURRENTLY seniors and involved THEIR INTERESTS, for THIS YEAR. There is no reason that a 10th-grade family should reasonably expect that this be "shared with the community."

Is SFS a community or not? Shouldn’t all US parents be aware of how the CCO operates? It’s not as if they are asking that resources be directed to 10th graders, only that the letter be shared with the whole community. You are defensive.

Is this a serious question? You actually believe that a school can't have personal communication between one grade group of parents, without being expected to share it with every other nosey person there? I'm not a Sidwell parent, but wow. I agree with the first post on this ridiculous thread - MYOB.

Sorry, no. The process and performance of the CCO is very much my business. It was when we applied and accepted offers and will continue to be until my DCs graduate.

Not a Sidwell parent here, and I don't know why I'm so invested in arguing with you about this, but you are wrong. The process and performance of the CCO is your business as it relates to your child. You do not have a right to see, know or be a part of every piece of information that the CCO dispenses to other students, parents or grade levels.

You have stated that your child is currently a 10th grader. I can only assume that the CCO is in communication with the 10th-grade class families as is appropriate to them at this time. This letter, whatever it was, was intended for 12-grade families. By your own description, that is not you. It's none of your business.

Actually, I do know why I'm arguing with you. We're at another school and there are parents there just like you. They are commonly referred to as PITA - and this is why.

Interesting that you, not an SFS parent, would be so invested in telling SFS parents what is their business - at SFS.

I’m an SFS parent and it’s far more interesting to me that a few SFS oddballs would come and air their grievances on dcum constantly and then get uppity if they get (a very reasonable) non-SFS response to a public post. If you didn’t want that, you could, oh I don’t know, raise your questions at any of many many school fora that give you an opportunity for just that

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Anonymous wrote:It wasn't "important," and it certainly wasn't intended for parents of 10th graders. MYOB, OP.

Good lord. OP, here. This is my oldest child and, from what I understand, the college process starts this spring for 10th graders. Given that, I would think that parents of 12th graders would be gracious enough to share information with others in the Sidwell community.

If you have a child in the 10th grade, I can promise you that you don't need to be worrying about the college process now. Stop before you turn into one of those parents that we all discuss.

That is stupid advice! You should start planning in the 7th grade. Mine did + got into Princeton. First in entire extended family to attend an Ivy.

I have a lot of Ivy League alums that report to me, a VA Tech grad . Some of them are drowning in student loans, can't afford an apartment w.out a roommate or get a mortgage due to debt.

Yea but at least they aren’t embarrassed when they have to say where they went to college.

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That’s just not ok, PP
Signed: SFS parent

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Anonymous wrote:It wasn't "important," and it certainly wasn't intended for parents of 10th graders. MYOB, OP.

Good lord. OP, here. This is my oldest child and, from what I understand, the college process starts this spring for 10th graders. Given that, I would think that parents of 12th graders would be gracious enough to share information with others in the Sidwell community.

If you have a child in the 10th grade, I can promise you that you don't need to be worrying about the college process now. Stop before you turn into one of those parents that we all discuss.

That is stupid advice! You should start planning in the 7th grade. Mine did + got into Princeton. First in entire extended family to attend an Ivy.

I have a lot of Ivy League alums that report to me, a VA Tech grad . Some of them are drowning in student loans, can't afford an apartment w.out a roommate or get a mortgage due to debt.

Yea but at least they aren’t embarrassed when they have to say where they went to college.

You should be embarrassed for being such a jerk. I’m not PP but many, many people in the world do not go to Ivy League and then go on to become very accomplished. Like the PP, who went to VA Tech.

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Anonymous wrote:It wasn't "important," and it certainly wasn't intended for parents of 10th graders. MYOB, OP.

Good lord. OP, here. This is my oldest child and, from what I understand, the college process starts this spring for 10th graders. Given that, I would think that parents of 12th graders would be gracious enough to share information with others in the Sidwell community.

If you have a child in the 10th grade, I can promise you that you don't need to be worrying about the college process now. Stop before you turn into one of those parents that we all discuss.

Totally disagree. Lots of schools and places have meetings or presentations intended for sophomores and their families on college issues. SAT, PSAT and Act exams or prep starts now.

You are missing the point. THIS PARTICULAR LETTER was sent out to 12th-grade families, for kids who are CURRENTLY seniors and involved THEIR INTERESTS, for THIS YEAR. There is no reason that a 10th-grade family should reasonably expect that this be "shared with the community."

Is SFS a community or not? Shouldn’t all US parents be aware of how the CCO operates? It’s not as if they are asking that resources be directed to 10th graders, only that the letter be shared with the whole community. You are defensive.

Is this a serious question? You actually believe that a school can't have personal communication between one grade group of parents, without being expected to share it with every other nosey person there? I'm not a Sidwell parent, but wow. I agree with the first post on this ridiculous thread - MYOB.

Sorry, no. The process and performance of the CCO is very much my business. It was when we applied and accepted offers and will continue to be until my DCs graduate.

Not a Sidwell parent here, and I don't know why I'm so invested in arguing with you about this, but you are wrong. The process and performance of the CCO is your business as it relates to your child. You do not have a right to see, know or be a part of every piece of information that the CCO dispenses to other students, parents or grade levels.

You have stated that your child is currently a 10th grader. I can only assume that the CCO is in communication with the 10th-grade class families as is appropriate to them at this time. This letter, whatever it was, was intended for 12-grade families. By your own description, that is not you. It's none of your business.

Actually, I do know why I'm arguing with you. We're at another school and there are parents there just like you. They are commonly referred to as PITA - and this is why.

Interesting that you, not an SFS parent, would be so invested in telling SFS parents what is their business - at SFS.

I’m an SFS parent and it’s far more interesting to me that a few SFS oddballs would come and air their grievances on dcum constantly and then get uppity if they get (a very reasonable) non-SFS response to a public post. If you didn’t want that, you could, oh I don’t know, raise your questions at any of many many school fora that give you an opportunity for just that

Why is it that Sidwell parents like to air the dirty laundry in public? So many complaints in the College forum.

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Anonymous wrote:Team OP! I get why the school doesn’t want to freak out the parents of younger students with what sounds like a defensive letter, but I’d like to know by 10th grade what sort of extra resources my kid may need if she is aiming for particular schools. I’d think all parents would support broader dissemination of potentially relevant information, so I’m wondering if the people on here telling OP she is being “rather presumptuous” in asking for this info are Sidwell administrators or parents who suck up to them.

I can assure you OP received at least as many emails and invitations to discuss as other 10th grade parents. The content and number was appropriate plus sum. I absolutely question OPs motivation. Why would one come to dcum for something one call to the school would solve? And don’t whine about censorship OP, it’s a well worn and completely inaccurate trope.

I think we ought to step up parental screening quite frankly. The dissipation of energy on these malcontents is staggering and takes directly away from the energy that would be expanded on the children otherwise.

You are the “rather presumptuous” poster, correct? What screening process do you have in mind to prevent malcontents from dissipating the energy that would otherwise be expended on the precious children of Sidwell?

As for why OP would come here for answers, I’m assuming it’s because she’s curious about the contents of the letter but doesn’t want to bother the administrators or get a reputation as a pushy parent. I find it completely understandable, though I have no dog in this fight. You and some of the other posters seem to be very content with the information you are receiving, but there are some of us who like to make our own judgments based on as much information as we can get.

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Blah blah blah
Irrelevant as always

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Anonymous wrote:It wasn't "important," and it certainly wasn't intended for parents of 10th graders. MYOB, OP.

Good lord. OP, here. This is my oldest child and, from what I understand, the college process starts this spring for 10th graders. Given that, I would think that parents of 12th graders would be gracious enough to share information with others in the Sidwell community.

If you have a child in the 10th grade, I can promise you that you don't need to be worrying about the college process now. Stop before you turn into one of those parents that we all discuss.

Totally disagree. Lots of schools and places have meetings or presentations intended for sophomores and their families on college issues. SAT, PSAT and Act exams or prep starts now.

You are missing the point. THIS PARTICULAR LETTER was sent out to 12th-grade families, for kids who are CURRENTLY seniors and involved THEIR INTERESTS, for THIS YEAR. There is no reason that a 10th-grade family should reasonably expect that this be "shared with the community."

Is SFS a community or not? Shouldn’t all US parents be aware of how the CCO operates? It’s not as if they are asking that resources be directed to 10th graders, only that the letter be shared with the whole community. You are defensive.

Is this a serious question? You actually believe that a school can't have personal communication between one grade group of parents, without being expected to share it with every other nosey person there? I'm not a Sidwell parent, but wow. I agree with the first post on this ridiculous thread - MYOB.

Sorry, no. The process and performance of the CCO is very much my business. It was when we applied and accepted offers and will continue to be until my DCs graduate.

Not a Sidwell parent here, and I don't know why I'm so invested in arguing with you about this, but you are wrong. The process and performance of the CCO is your business as it relates to your child. You do not have a right to see, know or be a part of every piece of information that the CCO dispenses to other students, parents or grade levels.

You have stated that your child is currently a 10th grader. I can only assume that the CCO is in communication with the 10th-grade class families as is appropriate to them at this time. This letter, whatever it was, was intended for 12-grade families. By your own description, that is not you. It's none of your business.

Actually, I do know why I'm arguing with you. We're at another school and there are parents there just like you. They are commonly referred to as PITA - and this is why.

Interesting that you, not an SFS parent, would be so invested in telling SFS parents what is their business - at SFS.

I’m an SFS parent and it’s far more interesting to me that a few SFS oddballs would come and air their grievances on dcum constantly and then get uppity if they get (a very reasonable) non-SFS response to a public post. If you didn’t want that, you could, oh I don’t know, raise your questions at any of many many school fora that give you an opportunity for just that

Why is it that Sidwell parents like to air the dirty laundry in public? So many complaints in the College forum.

Good question. Perhaps because the school doesn’t take feedback well.

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Anonymous wrote:It wasn't "important," and it certainly wasn't intended for parents of 10th graders. MYOB, OP.

Good lord. OP, here. This is my oldest child and, from what I understand, the college process starts this spring for 10th graders. Given that, I would think that parents of 12th graders would be gracious enough to share information with others in the Sidwell community.

If you have a child in the 10th grade, I can promise you that you don't need to be worrying about the college process now. Stop before you turn into one of those parents that we all discuss.

That is stupid advice! You should start planning in the 7th grade. Mine did + got into Princeton. First in entire extended family to attend an Ivy.

I have a lot of Ivy League alums that report to me, a VA Tech grad . Some of them are drowning in student loans, can't afford an apartment w.out a roommate or get a mortgage due to debt.

Yea but at least they aren’t embarrassed when they have to say where they went to college.

I went to a state school and I’m very proud. It was the state flagship of my home state and where all the smartest kids from my high school went. But if I were a cog in a machine individual contributor after spending $$$$$ on Brown I’d probably be sheepish. (NP)

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Bitter. Fact.

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Huh? Are you getting all racistsy and spinning out cause the truck convoy just folded, troll?

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Anonymous wrote:Bitter. Fact.

True hurts honey.

[Anonymous]

This thread really truly makes me want to decline Sidwell if an acceptance were offered to my child.

I am horrified by how much these are not my people.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread really truly makes me want to decline Sidwell if an acceptance were offered to my child.

I am horrified by how much these are not my people.

Sidwell parent with 2 kids at another Big3. If you judge a community by what you read on DCUM, you deserve what you get.