Letter from Sidwell College Counseling Office?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It wasn't "important," and it certainly wasn't intended for parents of 10th graders. MYOB, OP.

Good lord. OP, here. This is my oldest child and, from what I understand, the college process starts this spring for 10th graders. Given that, I would think that parents of 12th graders would be gracious enough to share information with others in the Sidwell community.

If you have a child in the 10th grade, I can promise you that you don't need to be worrying about the college process now. Stop before you turn into one of those parents that we all discuss.

That is stupid advice! You should start planning in the 7th grade. Mine did + got into Princeton. First in entire extended family to attend an Ivy.

I have a lot of Ivy League alums that report to me, a VA Tech grad . Some of them are drowning in student loans, can't afford an apartment w.out a roommate or get a mortgage due to debt.

Sure. Just wondering, what is the average mid career salary for a VA Tech Grad and what is the average mid career salary for a Princeton grad?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It wasn't "important," and it certainly wasn't intended for parents of 10th graders. MYOB, OP.

Good lord. OP, here. This is my oldest child and, from what I understand, the college process starts this spring for 10th graders. Given that, I would think that parents of 12th graders would be gracious enough to share information with others in the Sidwell community.

If you have a child in the 10th grade, I can promise you that you don't need to be worrying about the college process now. Stop before you turn into one of those parents that we all discuss.

That is stupid advice! You should start planning in the 7th grade. Mine did + got into Princeton. First in entire extended family to attend an Ivy.

I have a lot of Ivy League alums that report to me, a VA Tech grad . Some of them are drowning in student loans, can't afford an apartment w.out a roommate or get a mortgage due to debt.

Sure. Just wondering, what is the average mid career salary for a VA Tech Grad and what is the average mid career salary for a Princeton grad?

LOL-- I was thinking the same thing and wondering what her Ivy reports think about having to report to such a snarky/less intelligent boss.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I see both sides: as a parent of an upperclassmen, it is understandable this was a senior-only email. This is not unusual: lots of grade-specific communications at every school in every grade.

But I also understand human nature to be interested in an non-boiler plate communication discussing a process in which my kid will definitely be involved and is important.

There really must be something in the water at Sidwell. I have 2 DCs @ a similar private and not once did I ever expect to receive "non-boiler plate communication" regarding the college process when my DCs were not in cycle.

Definitely this week. The SFS parents are letting it all hang out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It wasn't "important," and it certainly wasn't intended for parents of 10th graders. MYOB, OP.

Good lord. OP, here. This is my oldest child and, from what I understand, the college process starts this spring for 10th graders. Given that, I would think that parents of 12th graders would be gracious enough to share information with others in the Sidwell community.

If you have a child in the 10th grade, I can promise you that you don't need to be worrying about the college process now. Stop before you turn into one of those parents that we all discuss.

Totally disagree. Lots of schools and places have meetings or presentations intended for sophomores and their families on college issues. SAT, PSAT and Act exams or prep starts now.

You are missing the point. THIS PARTICULAR LETTER was sent out to 12th-grade families, for kids who are CURRENTLY seniors and involved THEIR INTERESTS, for THIS YEAR. There is no reason that a 10th-grade family should reasonably expect that this be "shared with the community."

Is SFS a community or not? Shouldn’t all US parents be aware of how the CCO operates? It’s not as if they are asking that resources be directed to 10th graders, only that the letter be shared with the whole community. You are defensive.

Is this a serious question? You actually believe that a school can't have personal communication between one grade group of parents, without being expected to share it with every other nosey person there? I'm not a Sidwell parent, but wow. I agree with the first post on this ridiculous thread - MYOB.

Sorry, no. The process and performance of the CCO is very much my business. It was when we applied and accepted offers and will continue to be until my DCs graduate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It wasn't "important," and it certainly wasn't intended for parents of 10th graders. MYOB, OP.

Good lord. OP, here. This is my oldest child and, from what I understand, the college process starts this spring for 10th graders. Given that, I would think that parents of 12th graders would be gracious enough to share information with others in the Sidwell community.

If you have a child in the 10th grade, I can promise you that you don't need to be worrying about the college process now. Stop before you turn into one of those parents that we all discuss.

Totally disagree. Lots of schools and places have meetings or presentations intended for sophomores and their families on college issues. SAT, PSAT and Act exams or prep starts now.

You are missing the point. THIS PARTICULAR LETTER was sent out to 12th-grade families, for kids who are CURRENTLY seniors and involved THEIR INTERESTS, for THIS YEAR. There is no reason that a 10th-grade family should reasonably expect that this be "shared with the community."

Is SFS a community or not? Shouldn’t all US parents be aware of how the CCO operates? It’s not as if they are asking that resources be directed to 10th graders, only that the letter be shared with the whole community. You are defensive.

Is this a serious question? You actually believe that a school can't have personal communication between one grade group of parents, without being expected to share it with every other nosey person there? I'm not a Sidwell parent, but wow. I agree with the first post on this ridiculous thread - MYOB.

Sorry, no. The process and performance of the CCO is very much my business. It was when we applied and accepted offers and will continue to be until my DCs graduate.

Not a Sidwell parent here, and I don't know why I'm so invested in arguing with you about this, but you are wrong. The process and performance of the CCO is your business as it relates to your child. You do not have a right to see, know or be a part of every piece of information that the CCO dispenses to other students, parents or grade levels.

You have stated that your child is currently a 10th grader. I can only assume that the CCO is in communication with the 10th-grade class families as is appropriate to them at this time. This letter, whatever it was, was intended for 12-grade families. By your own description, that is not you. It's none of your business.

Actually, I do know why I'm arguing with you. We're at another school and there are parents there just like you. They are commonly referred to as PITA - and this is why.

[Anonymous]

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SFS parent

[Anonymous]

Team OP! I get why the school doesn’t want to freak out the parents of younger students with what sounds like a defensive letter, but I’d like to know by 10th grade what sort of extra resources my kid may need if she is aiming for particular schools. I’d think all parents would support broader dissemination of potentially relevant information, so I’m wondering if the people on here telling OP she is being “rather presumptuous” in asking for this info are Sidwell administrators or parents who suck up to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Team OP! I get why the school doesn’t want to freak out the parents of younger students with what sounds like a defensive letter, but I’d like to know by 10th grade what sort of extra resources my kid may need if she is aiming for particular schools. I’d think all parents would support broader dissemination of potentially relevant information, so I’m wondering if the people on here telling OP she is being “rather presumptuous” in asking for this info are Sidwell administrators or parents who suck up to them.

If by "particular schools" you mean ivys and otherwise Top 20, you have grades, SATs, ECs and recommendation letters. Write good essays and if it all works out, then you get a seat at the table with 20 other applicants. At that point, there is a ping pong ball drop and your kid might be the one kid at the table chosen. As your kid is a sophomore, the table between now and then may be expanded to 30 or 50 seats rather than the 20 currently.

Have a lot of actual safeties and targets that your kid likes and don't fall in love with a lottery school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Team OP! I get why the school doesn’t want to freak out the parents of younger students with what sounds like a defensive letter, but I’d like to know by 10th grade what sort of extra resources my kid may need if she is aiming for particular schools. I’d think all parents would support broader dissemination of potentially relevant information, so I’m wondering if the people on here telling OP she is being “rather presumptuous” in asking for this info are Sidwell administrators or parents who suck up to them.

So, go ask them. Your child's admissions process is not an event for community discussion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It wasn't "important," and it certainly wasn't intended for parents of 10th graders. MYOB, OP.

Good lord. OP, here. This is my oldest child and, from what I understand, the college process starts this spring for 10th graders. Given that, I would think that parents of 12th graders would be gracious enough to share information with others in the Sidwell community.

If you have a child in the 10th grade, I can promise you that you don't need to be worrying about the college process now. Stop before you turn into one of those parents that we all discuss.

Totally disagree. Lots of schools and places have meetings or presentations intended for sophomores and their families on college issues. SAT, PSAT and Act exams or prep starts now.

You are missing the point. THIS PARTICULAR LETTER was sent out to 12th-grade families, for kids who are CURRENTLY seniors and involved THEIR INTERESTS, for THIS YEAR. There is no reason that a 10th-grade family should reasonably expect that this be "shared with the community."

Don't defend your previously incorrect post. Yes, OP SHOULD be organizing the college process now. If you only wanted to say that she shouldn't worry about this particular letter, you should have written exactly that.
Words matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Team OP! I get why the school doesn’t want to freak out the parents of younger students with what sounds like a defensive letter, but I’d like to know by 10th grade what sort of extra resources my kid may need if she is aiming for particular schools. I’d think all parents would support broader dissemination of potentially relevant information, so I’m wondering if the people on here telling OP she is being “rather presumptuous” in asking for this info are Sidwell administrators or parents who suck up to them.

I can assure you OP received at least as many emails and invitations to discuss as other 10th grade parents. The content and number was appropriate plus sum. I absolutely question OPs motivation. Why would one come to dcum for something one call to the school would solve? And don’t whine about censorship OP, it’s a well worn and completely inaccurate trope.

I think we ought to step up parental screening quite frankly. The dissipation of energy on these malcontents is staggering and takes directly away from the energy that would be expanded on the children otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It wasn't "important," and it certainly wasn't intended for parents of 10th graders. MYOB, OP.

Good lord. OP, here. This is my oldest child and, from what I understand, the college process starts this spring for 10th graders. Given that, I would think that parents of 12th graders would be gracious enough to share information with others in the Sidwell community.

If you have a child in the 10th grade, I can promise you that you don't need to be worrying about the college process now. Stop before you turn into one of those parents that we all discuss.

Totally disagree. Lots of schools and places have meetings or presentations intended for sophomores and their families on college issues. SAT, PSAT and Act exams or prep starts now.

You are missing the point. THIS PARTICULAR LETTER was sent out to 12th-grade families, for kids who are CURRENTLY seniors and involved THEIR INTERESTS, for THIS YEAR. There is no reason that a 10th-grade family should reasonably expect that this be "shared with the community."

Don't defend your previously incorrect post. Yes, OP SHOULD be organizing the college process now. If you only wanted to say that she shouldn't worry about this particular letter, you should have written exactly that.
Words matter.

Not being a total prick matters too, including in the admission process for your children. So what’s your excuse?

[Anonymous]

This is a nutty thread.

[Anonymous]

Oh sure it’s always nutty when people rightly ridicule self serving and inaccurate threads

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It wasn't "important," and it certainly wasn't intended for parents of 10th graders. MYOB, OP.

Good lord. OP, here. This is my oldest child and, from what I understand, the college process starts this spring for 10th graders. Given that, I would think that parents of 12th graders would be gracious enough to share information with others in the Sidwell community.

If you have a child in the 10th grade, I can promise you that you don't need to be worrying about the college process now. Stop before you turn into one of those parents that we all discuss.

Totally disagree. Lots of schools and places have meetings or presentations intended for sophomores and their families on college issues. SAT, PSAT and Act exams or prep starts now.

You are missing the point. THIS PARTICULAR LETTER was sent out to 12th-grade families, for kids who are CURRENTLY seniors and involved THEIR INTERESTS, for THIS YEAR. There is no reason that a 10th-grade family should reasonably expect that this be "shared with the community."

Is SFS a community or not? Shouldn’t all US parents be aware of how the CCO operates? It’s not as if they are asking that resources be directed to 10th graders, only that the letter be shared with the whole community. You are defensive.

Is this a serious question? You actually believe that a school can't have personal communication between one grade group of parents, without being expected to share it with every other nosey person there? I'm not a Sidwell parent, but wow. I agree with the first post on this ridiculous thread - MYOB.

Sorry, no. The process and performance of the CCO is very much my business. It was when we applied and accepted offers and will continue to be until my DCs graduate.

Not a Sidwell parent here, and I don't know why I'm so invested in arguing with you about this, but you are wrong. The process and performance of the CCO is your business as it relates to your child. You do not have a right to see, know or be a part of every piece of information that the CCO dispenses to other students, parents or grade levels.

You have stated that your child is currently a 10th grader. I can only assume that the CCO is in communication with the 10th-grade class families as is appropriate to them at this time. This letter, whatever it was, was intended for 12-grade families. By your own description, that is not you. It's none of your business.

Actually, I do know why I'm arguing with you. We're at another school and there are parents there just like you. They are commonly referred to as PITA - and this is why.

Interesting that you, not an SFS parent, would be so invested in telling SFS parents what is their business - at SFS.