Embarrassed about the doctor?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am confused. Hasn’t he been going to the doctors every year and they check down there? I mean, I have three boys and across their various ages, they are checked down there. It should be natural that the doctor does it. Why all of a sudden?

He’s probably afraid of popping a boner.

I’m 39 and it still happens.

[Anonymous]

Why come ask for suggestions when you shut them down.

Of course he's embarrassed about being checked by a female doctor.

Boner city.

Just how I didn't want my male Pediatrician doing my checkup when I was 12.

My mom switched me to a female doctor and it was SO much better.

Freaking switch you kid's doctor!

[Anonymous]

OP here, we had the exam yesterday and it went great.

When she asked him to drop his underpants he voiced his discomfort and she was really understanding. She gave him a whole speech about how it's totally his choice if she does the exam or not, but it's really no different from her examining any other part of his body and it's important to make sure he's healthy. She explained exactly what she would do to check and how quick it would be, and she added that he doesn't have anything she hasn't seen before and that if he does get an erection it's a totally natural reaction and nothing to be embarrassed about. She even said "if anything, it just means everything is working the way it's supposed to" which actually got a laugh out of him.

With that, he told her that it was okay if she did the exam and that was that. I had to stay in the room as a chaperone due to office policy, but I turned around too give him privacy when she did the actual exam.

I asked him in the car afterwards if he wanted me to look for a male doctor for next year and he said he had no problem staying with her. He actually said he really liked her.

All in all, he survived, and everything was fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am confused. Hasn’t he been going to the doctors every year and they check down there? I mean, I have three boys and across their various ages, they are checked down there. It should be natural that the doctor does it. Why all of a sudden?

He’s probably afraid of popping a boner.

I’m 39 and it still happens.

I'm sure that most female doctors that do physicals probably see at least one boner a day. Doubt it even phases them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m amazed at the number of parents just saying their kid should skip a preventative medical exam because he’s uncomfortable. Now is exactly the time to get used to the fact that preventative care is important, quick, and work a few seconds of embarrassment.

As for finding a male pediatrician, there aren’t that many around any more and about half of all med school students are women she he should get used to the fact that a woman might be his doctor. I stuck with the old, retiring male doctor in my kids pediatrician’s practice thinking it would save my sons from embarrassment and I very much regret it. He completely failed to follow up on some irregular test results and basically was providing very poor care. The better approach would have been to teach my son that doctors are doctors and you should consider yourself lucky to have access to a good one.

Exactly this. Testicular cancer is scarily common in adolescent boys (a friend of a friend actually died from it in high school), hernias are fairly common as well if the boy plays sports, and if the boy isn't circumsized, there's a whole host of foreskin issues that are really common in that age range as well. That area need to be checked. Skipping that part of the exam because it causes thirty seconds of embarrassment is about as ridiculous as a doctor skipping an examination of the eyes or ears, they're just body parts, that's the whole purpose of a physical.

And yes, I see how a female pediatrician doing the exam could be more embarrassing than a male doctor doing the exam, but a doctor is a doctor, it's literally her job. Any doctor that does physicals probably sees like ten penises a day, even if they're a woman. He doesn't have anything she hasn't seen before.

Not to mention that previously "descended" testicles can become rectractile later in life and pose yet a higher testicular cancer risk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m amazed at the number of parents just saying their kid should skip a preventative medical exam because he’s uncomfortable. Now is exactly the time to get used to the fact that preventative care is important, quick, and work a few seconds of embarrassment.

As for finding a male pediatrician, there aren’t that many around any more and about half of all med school students are women she he should get used to the fact that a woman might be his doctor. I stuck with the old, retiring male doctor in my kids pediatrician’s practice thinking it would save my sons from embarrassment and I very much regret it. He completely failed to follow up on some irregular test results and basically was providing very poor care. The better approach would have been to teach my son that doctors are doctors and you should consider yourself lucky to have access to a good one.

Exactly this. Testicular cancer is scarily common in adolescent boys (a friend of a friend actually died from it in high school), hernias are fairly common as well if the boy plays sports, and if the boy isn't circumsized, there's a whole host of foreskin issues that are really common in that age range as well. That area need to be checked. Skipping that part of the exam because it causes thirty seconds of embarrassment is about as ridiculous as a doctor skipping an examination of the eyes or ears, they're just body parts, that's the whole purpose of a physical.

And yes, I see how a female pediatrician doing the exam could be more embarrassing than a male doctor doing the exam, but a doctor is a doctor, it's literally her job. Any doctor that does physicals probably sees like ten penises a day, even if they're a woman. He doesn't have anything she hasn't seen before.

Not to mention that previously "descended" testicles can become rectractile later in life and pose yet a higher testicular cancer risk.

Yup, it would be like skipping an eye exam because "you didn't have any problems.last year"

[Anonymous]

Yay OP, glad it went well. She sounds like a great doctor!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yay OP, glad it went well. She sounds like a great doctor!

She is! Don't really understand the rabid outcry against female doctors for boys on here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Take him to a man. This is a form of abuse in my opinion.

Abuse???? Are you serious?

Yes, dead serious. My extremely abusive parent did this to me. It’s a form of control.

[Anonymous]

Here's an open letter to boys written by a female pediatrician on this exact topic:

https://www.archerfriendly.com/2015/06/turn-your-head-and-cough-a-teenagers-nightmare

[Anonymous]

That’s a really snotty, dismissive, condescending letter. If you disagree, read it again, only this time imagine that it’s an old man pediatrician writing to teenage girls.

[Anonymous]

I think this whole thread was started by a pervert troll.

The part about the mom having to stay in the room? That’s BS. All the weird details?

[Anonymous]

Firmly reprimand the daughter, explain procedure to son thoroughly, state you can stay in room if he is more comfortable, respect his wishes, no means no...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's an open letter to boys written by a female pediatrician on this exact topic:

https://www.archerfriendly.com/2015/06/turn-your-head-and-cough-a-teenagers-nightmare

She's a 'naturopathic medicine dr', not a real MD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Find a male doctor.

The practice we go to with our insurance only has female providers, so that isn't really an option, especially for this year when the appointment is so soon.

Call around planned parenthood and ask if there is a male nurse somewhere?