Worst emotional pain you have ever felt?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Death of a child. But for me not finding out about the death, not the funeral, not the burial, but the first day back to work. Probably 7 months later. Just putting in my pantyhose and realizing my life, and the rest of the world, has to resume. I just know there would be a before and an after and the two worlds would never mesh. That feeling, was very peculiarly earth shattering. Just driving in my car, taking that same commute I always took, knowing that I was going to half to fake it for the rest of my life and pretend I’m in this before world still.

I am so sorry for your loss.

[Anonymous]

Compared to many of yours mine seems like it should be a cakewalk. I’m so sorry for what you have all been through. This is such a good reminder of remember than no one has walked a mile in anyone else’s shoes.

Mine was my 18 year marriage imploding shortly after I lost my dad. My whole world crashed down and it took two entire years before I felt a semblance of normal.

[Anonymous]

The unexpected death of my sibling at age 25.

[Anonymous]

Worst was my mother dying.

Longest and equal was being in love with a married man. Still feel like I cannot live without him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Compared to many of yours mine seems like it should be a cakewalk. I’m so sorry for what you have all been through. This is such a good reminder of remember than no one has walked a mile in anyone else’s shoes.

Mine was my 18 year marriage imploding shortly after I lost my dad. My whole world crashed down and it took two entire years before I felt a semblance of normal.

That is not a cakewalk. And two years is a short recovery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When husband in a very long drawn out way, told me he didn’t want me going to his company’s holiday party. He said that it’s a burden to have me there when he supposed to be bonding with colleagues.

You are…very lucky

+1

[Anonymous]

When my mom died.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Question in title

When my husband died at 45

[Anonymous]

When my brother died of AIDS. I was at the hospital with him. It was 20+ years ago and I still cry sometimes. Like right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my brother died of AIDS. I was at the hospital with him. It was 20+ years ago and I still cry sometimes. Like right now.

OP and I apologize for taking you there.

[Anonymous]

Losing my best friend to suicide, and my miscarriage.

I have been through other longer term traumas with the kind of ache that stays with you for months, but those two events brought the worst, absolutely searing pain through my whole body and soul.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The range in this thread is so wide. When I broke up with my boyfriend to when husband died of suicide.

It's not a competition. Obviously certain things are objectively worse than others, but everyone experiences things in their own ways. And sometimes something that may not seem that bad from the outside, is just devastating to the person experiencing it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also blindsided by an affair. Currently living it; spouse is leaving/divorcing for AP. Young children involved. It is absolute hell on earth.

I'm so sorry, PP. This was my life 3 years ago. I'm now divorced and doing better than I could have ever expected. My kids are hanging in there, too. I wish you strength and send you compassion.

[Anonymous]

When my DH told me he would never adjust his priorities to do more parenting and household responsibilities no matter how much I said I needed it, because he is too ambitious.

[Anonymous]

Oh dear. Why do I click on threads like this?

Guess I will go...

Losing my sweet baby son
Sudden and unexpected deaths of both my (youngish) parents

But I want to add that even in these darkest and most painful moments of my life, I still had joy and love in my heart. I think about my son and my parents a lot. I miss them dearly but I am a very joyful person and I'm going to love life right on up to the day I get to be with them again.