Dating prospects for divorced 50 yo female

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m in the process of separating and will be 50 when the divorce is final. Was married for 25 years and have one kid in college and another about to graduate. I hadn’t thought much about dating but probably should. I’m 5’7 120 lbs attractive, but let’s face it, I’m middle aged. I have a well established career that pays very well. I would want to spend time with someone who is laid back and doesn’t get stressed out and is not into games. Attractive, reasonably well off and within 10 years of my age. Are my expectations realistic at this stage in life?

The odds are good, but the goods are odd

^^^ this

OP here - I’m open to knowing what seems odd from this post. I haven’t dated in forever so any feedback is welcomed.

It’s a pun…

The odds are good (you’ll get a lot of date) but the goods (aka dates) are odd.

The fact is most of the guys out there are super weird, odd and gross. They want sex with no effort or commitment. The dude above is rotating a bunch of women, does not know he is disgusting and you are opening yourself to STIs.

Many have a ton of baggage. Do Some women have baggage, yes. But you don’t sound like you do.

Finding a man without baggage it’s like finding a needle in hay stack.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a late 50s divorced dad. Right now I am dating 3 women (hope to add one more). All three are attractive, are moms, their ages are 48-54, and I have things in common with each one. Guess which one I will end up in a relationship with? The woman who is best in bed.

gross

Right. What a gross man.

If his three dates have similar outlook and I assume none you use condoms. The it will get ‘interesting’ soon enough

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m in the process of separating and will be 50 when the divorce is final. Was married for 25 years and have one kid in college and another about to graduate. I hadn’t thought much about dating but probably should. I’m 5’7 120 lbs attractive, but let’s face it, I’m middle aged. I have a well established career that pays very well. I would want to spend time with someone who is laid back and doesn’t get stressed out and is not into games. Attractive, reasonably well off and within 10 years of my age. Are my expectations realistic at this stage in life?

The odds are good, but the goods are odd

^^^ this

OP here - I’m open to knowing what seems odd from this post. I haven’t dated in forever so any feedback is welcomed.

It’s a pun…

The odds are good (you’ll get a lot of date) but the goods (aka dates) are odd.

The fact is most of the guys out there are super weird, odd and gross. They want sex with no effort or commitment. The dude above is rotating a bunch of women, does not know he is disgusting and you are opening yourself to STIs.

Many have a ton of baggage. Do Some women have baggage, yes. But you don’t sound like you do.

Finding a man without baggage it’s like finding a needle in hay stack.

As I guy in the same demographic I will say that there are many women who don’t just have ‘carryon’ baggage. One thing other you’ll discover is that the kids can have issues that will impact the time available to do activities etc

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m in the process of separating and will be 50 when the divorce is final. Was married for 25 years and have one kid in college and another about to graduate. I hadn’t thought much about dating but probably should. I’m 5’7 120 lbs attractive, but let’s face it, I’m middle aged. I have a well established career that pays very well. I would want to spend time with someone who is laid back and doesn’t get stressed out and is not into games. Attractive, reasonably well off and within 10 years of my age. Are my expectations realistic at this stage in life?

The odds are good, but the goods are odd

^^^ this

OP here - I’m open to knowing what seems odd from this post. I haven’t dated in forever so any feedback is welcomed.

It’s a pun…

The odds are good (you’ll get a lot of date) but the goods (aka dates) are odd.

The fact is most of the guys out there are super weird, odd and gross. They want sex with no effort or commitment. The dude above is rotating a bunch of women, does not know he is disgusting and you are opening yourself to STIs.

Many have a ton of baggage. Do Some women have baggage, yes. But you don’t sound like you do.

Finding a man without baggage it’s like finding a needle in hay stack.

As I guy in the same demographic I will say that there are many women who don’t just have ‘carryon’ baggage. One thing other you’ll discover is that the kids can have issues that will impact the time available to do activities etc

Oh yea thanks got reminding me of this.

Guys get super jealous of the time you spend with you adult children. Every misstep your child makes, they will let you know they’d never parent that way, or your parenting caused it. They will say you spoil them, etc and try to poison your relationship with them out of jealousy.

Your kids won’t visit when he is there.

They do the same when grandkids come. They don’t understand visiting so much.

It’s insane out there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m in the process of separating and will be 50 when the divorce is final. Was married for 25 years and have one kid in college and another about to graduate. I hadn’t thought much about dating but probably should. I’m 5’7 120 lbs attractive, but let’s face it, I’m middle aged. I have a well established career that pays very well. I would want to spend time with someone who is laid back and doesn’t get stressed out and is not into games. Attractive, reasonably well off and within 10 years of my age. Are my expectations realistic at this stage in life?

Similar, guy, 6’2’, very good shape, mid 50s, just divorced, no age bands for me, and no rush… trusting fate a bit. Yes, simplicity is crucial.

Ok, asking again, how are you meeting women? Where would a normal woman like OP meet decent men?

Tinder, is basically trash. I will try be trying bumble soon, but the best have been intros from people you know, and events ( tailgate, cookouts, other gatherings).

Bars, not much data from me, be seem tougher. Went to Millies last Thursday, prefect weather … was lame.

The same women are on every site. There is no “trashy” or “classy” OLD site.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Out of season caroling club? Hot damn! Points for thinking outside the bachs.

In some areas, (Republican) homeowners have actually threatened carolers with firearms, simply for the act of caroling out of season on their porch or steps. Not fun.

I’ll take “stuff that didn’t happen” for $500, Alex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a late 50s divorced dad. Right now I am dating 3 women (hope to add one more). All three are attractive, are moms, their ages are 48-54, and I have things in common with each one. Guess which one I will end up in a relationship with? The woman who is best in bed.

gross

Right. What a gross man.

If his three dates have similar outlook and I assume none you use condoms. The it will get ‘interesting’ soon enough

Not that PP but there are plenty of women out there sleeping with more than one guy at a time. More women sleep around than men, because if you’re a woman it requires zero effort to get a guy to sleep with you.

[Anonymous]

You won’t know until you try. It sounds like you are the whole package and have reasonable expectations. Get on some sites and go on some dates. Don’t waste your time on people you know you won’t like based on their profiles and expect to get a few duds. People can be very flakey with OLD so don’t take that personally. Have fun out there and go on dates with the intention of getting to know someone new and having a nice time!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You won’t know until you try. It sounds like you are the whole package and have reasonable expectations. Get on some sites and go on some dates. Don’t waste your time on people you know you won’t like based on their profiles and expect to get a few duds. People can be very flakey with OLD so don’t take that personally. Have fun out there and go on dates with the intention of getting to know someone new and having a nice time!

Thank you, PP

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m in the process of separating and will be 50 when the divorce is final. Was married for 25 years and have one kid in college and another about to graduate. I hadn’t thought much about dating but probably should. I’m 5’7 120 lbs attractive, but let’s face it, I’m middle aged. I have a well established career that pays very well. I would want to spend time with someone who is laid back and doesn’t get stressed out and is not into games. Attractive, reasonably well off and within 10 years of my age. Are my expectations realistic at this stage in life?

The odds are good, but the goods are odd

^^^ this

OP here - I’m open to knowing what seems odd from this post. I haven’t dated in forever so any feedback is welcomed.

It’s a pun…

The odds are good (you’ll get a lot of date) but the goods (aka dates) are odd.

The fact is most of the guys out there are super weird, odd and gross. They want sex with no effort or commitment. The dude above is rotating a bunch of women, does not know he is disgusting and you are opening yourself to STIs.

Many have a ton of baggage. Do Some women have baggage, yes. But you don’t sound like you do.

Finding a man without baggage it’s like finding a needle in hay stack.

As I guy in the same demographic I will say that there are many women who don’t just have ‘carryon’ baggage. One thing other you’ll discover is that the kids can have issues that will impact the time available to do activities etc

Oh yea thanks got reminding me of this.

Guys get super jealous of the time you spend with you adult children. Every misstep your child makes, they will let you know they’d never parent that way, or your parenting caused it. They will say you spoil them, etc and try to poison your relationship with them out of jealousy.

Your kids won’t visit when he is there.

They do the same when grandkids come. They don’t understand visiting so much.

It’s insane out there.

NP: OP you can see from this thread that you will need a good ‘picker’ and thick skin

[Anonymous]

Also, PP does not know what a pun is. Sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m in the process of separating and will be 50 when the divorce is final. Was married for 25 years and have one kid in college and another about to graduate. I hadn’t thought much about dating but probably should. I’m 5’7 120 lbs attractive, but let’s face it, I’m middle aged. I have a well established career that pays very well. I would want to spend time with someone who is laid back and doesn’t get stressed out and is not into games. Attractive, reasonably well off and within 10 years of my age. Are my expectations realistic at this stage in life?

The odds are good, but the goods are odd

^^^ this

OP here - I’m open to knowing what seems odd from this post. I haven’t dated in forever so any feedback is welcomed.

It’s a pun…

The odds are good (you’ll get a lot of date) but the goods (aka dates) are odd.

The fact is most of the guys out there are super weird, odd and gross. They want sex with no effort or commitment. The dude above is rotating a bunch of women, does not know he is disgusting and you are opening yourself to STIs.

Many have a ton of baggage. Do Some women have baggage, yes. But you don’t sound like you do.

Finding a man without baggage it’s like finding a needle in hay stack.

As I guy in the same demographic I will say that there are many women who don’t just have ‘carryon’ baggage. One thing other you’ll discover is that the kids can have issues that will impact the time available to do activities etc

Oh yea thanks got reminding me of this.

Guys get super jealous of the time you spend with you adult children. Every misstep your child makes, they will let you know they’d never parent that way, or your parenting caused it. They will say you spoil them, etc and try to poison your relationship with them out of jealousy.

Your kids won’t visit when he is there.

They do the same when grandkids come. They don’t understand visiting so much.

It’s insane out there.

NP: OP you can see from this thread that you will need a good ‘picker’ and thick skin

Yes I can see that. Being calm is a must-have. I will set my picker to “drama free.”

[Anonymous]

Guys get super jealous of the time you spend with you adult children. Every misstep your child makes, they will let you know they’d never parent that way, or your parenting caused it. They will say you spoil them, etc and try to poison your relationship with them out of jealousy.

I’m a divorced dad and I have no issue with my SO spending time with her kids. I spend time with my own, after all. I couldn’t care less about her parenting. Maybe I’d care if she wanted to move her kids in with me but that’s not gonna happen.

[Anonymous]

You sound eminently reasonably and I’m confident you will have a lot of interest. Also I apologize if this comes off as condescending but just a reminder to be very cautious of both the dangerous creeps and the scammers. Let a friend know when and where you’re on a date, share location, have an escape text code, all the things you’d probably tell your daughter or niece, because creepy and violent has no age limit.

Be very wary of anyone who sets off your financial spidey senses too, there are men who prey on comfortably off women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound eminently reasonably and I’m confident you will have a lot of interest. Also I apologize if this comes off as condescending but just a reminder to be very cautious of both the dangerous creeps and the scammers. Let a friend know when and where you’re on a date, share location, have an escape text code, all the things you’d probably tell your daughter or niece, because creepy and violent has no age limit.

Be very wary of anyone who sets off your financial spidey senses too, there are men who prey on comfortably off women.

Thank you this is excellent advice.