Dating prospects for divorced 50 yo female

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m in the process of separating and will be 50 when the divorce is final. Was married for 25 years and have one kid in college and another about to graduate. I hadn’t thought much about dating but probably should. I’m 5’7 120 lbs attractive, but let’s face it, I’m middle aged. I have a well established career that pays very well. I would want to spend time with someone who is laid back and doesn’t get stressed out and is not into games. Attractive, reasonably well off and within 10 years of my age. Are my expectations realistic at this stage in life?

Similar, guy, 6’2’, very good shape, mid 50s, just divorced, no age bands for me, and no rush… trusting fate a bit. Yes, simplicity is crucial.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m in the process of separating and will be 50 when the divorce is final. Was married for 25 years and have one kid in college and another about to graduate. I hadn’t thought much about dating but probably should. I’m 5’7 120 lbs attractive, but let’s face it, I’m middle aged. I have a well established career that pays very well. I would want to spend time with someone who is laid back and doesn’t get stressed out and is not into games. Attractive, reasonably well off and within 10 years of my age. Are my expectations realistic at this stage in life?

Similar, guy, 6’2’, very good shape, mid 50s, just divorced, no age bands for me, and no rush… trusting fate a bit. Yes, simplicity is crucial.

Ok, asking again, how are you meeting women? Where would a normal woman like OP meet decent men?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m in the process of separating and will be 50 when the divorce is final. Was married for 25 years and have one kid in college and another about to graduate. I hadn’t thought much about dating but probably should. I’m 5’7 120 lbs attractive, but let’s face it, I’m middle aged. I have a well established career that pays very well. I would want to spend time with someone who is laid back and doesn’t get stressed out and is not into games. Attractive, reasonably well off and within 10 years of my age. Are my expectations realistic at this stage in life?

Similar, guy, 6’2’, very good shape, mid 50s, just divorced, no age bands for me, and no rush… trusting fate a bit. Yes, simplicity is crucial.

Ok, asking again, how are you meeting women? Where would a normal woman like OP meet decent men?

Tinder, is basically trash. I will try be trying bumble soon, but the best have been intros from people you know, and events ( tailgate, cookouts, other gatherings).

Bars, not much data from me, be seem tougher. Went to Millies last Thursday, prefect weather … was lame.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m in the process of separating and will be 50 when the divorce is final. Was married for 25 years and have one kid in college and another about to graduate. I hadn’t thought much about dating but probably should. I’m 5’7 120 lbs attractive, but let’s face it, I’m middle aged. I have a well established career that pays very well. I would want to spend time with someone who is laid back and doesn’t get stressed out and is not into games. Attractive, reasonably well off and within 10 years of my age. Are my expectations realistic at this stage in life?

The odds are good, but the goods are odd

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m in the process of separating and will be 50 when the divorce is final. Was married for 25 years and have one kid in college and another about to graduate. I hadn’t thought much about dating but probably should. I’m 5’7 120 lbs attractive, but let’s face it, I’m middle aged. I have a well established career that pays very well. I would want to spend time with someone who is laid back and doesn’t get stressed out and is not into games. Attractive, reasonably well off and within 10 years of my age. Are my expectations realistic at this stage in life?

Similar, guy, 6’2’, very good shape, mid 50s, just divorced, no age bands for me, and no rush… trusting fate a bit. Yes, simplicity is crucial.

Ok, asking again, how are you meeting women? Where would a normal woman like OP meet decent men?

Tinder, is basically trash. I will try be trying bumble soon, but the best have been intros from people you know, and events ( tailgate, cookouts, other gatherings).

Bars, not much data from me, be seem tougher. Went to Millies last Thursday, prefect weather … was lame.

+100. Checked out out-of-season caroling club and two airport parties (one in DC area and one in Ohio). All were a lot of fun but a little goofy in some ways.

[Anonymous]

Out of season caroling club? Hot damn! Points for thinking outside the bachs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH here.

You sound great! You will do well - especially in this area (lots of eligible, educated single men in your age range here).

A work colleague in similar circumstances to yours told me she had tons of interested prospects; she was having a great time dating (and she was clear that it was all the attention she appreciated).

Just one suggestion: if like most of us, you have some sort of “baggage” or issue you’d prefer not to have, try to address that issue ahead of time. Yes, yes, no one is perfect. I get it.

But the less you drag into a new relationship, the better.

Thank you, I agree. I read somewhere (maybe on DCUM?) that it’s better to focus on what you can bring to the relationship rather than on what the other person can do for you. I’m pretty self sufficient. It would be nice to have someone to share that with though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Out of season caroling club? Hot damn! Points for thinking outside the bachs.

In some areas, (Republican) homeowners have actually threatened carolers with firearms, simply for the act of caroling out of season on their porch or steps. Not fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m in the process of separating and will be 50 when the divorce is final. Was married for 25 years and have one kid in college and another about to graduate. I hadn’t thought much about dating but probably should. I’m 5’7 120 lbs attractive, but let’s face it, I’m middle aged. I have a well established career that pays very well. I would want to spend time with someone who is laid back and doesn’t get stressed out and is not into games. Attractive, reasonably well off and within 10 years of my age. Are my expectations realistic at this stage in life?

Similar, guy, 6’2’, very good shape, mid 50s, just divorced, no age bands for me, and no rush… trusting fate a bit. Yes, simplicity is crucial.

This person actually is likely to be the one to have the pick of the litter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a late 50s divorced dad. Right now I am dating 3 women (hope to add one more). All three are attractive, are moms, their ages are 48-54, and I have things in common with each one. Guess which one I will end up in a relationship with? The woman who is best in bed.

Omg gross, and this is why women end up never wanting to get married again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 49. Since you're just dating for fun, go for slightly older guys (in their early 60s). In my experience they're more attuned to their partners needs and wants in bed and they're typically appreciative of the time you spend with them. Guys in their 50s seem (on the whole - i know there are exceptions) to still want to date women in their 30s.

Disagree. Female here around the same age, and there are a lot of men around my age who are interested in women their own age, and are not trying to go after 30-year-olds. Those relationships don’t work out anyways. As a 49-year-old, I feel like there is a huge gap with a man in his early 60s, just as I would feel a huge gap dating a man in his late 30s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a late 50s divorced dad. Right now I am dating 3 women (hope to add one more). All three are attractive, are moms, their ages are 48-54, and I have things in common with each one. Guess which one I will end up in a relationship with? The woman who is best in bed.

What exactly is the point of your post as it relates to OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a late 50s divorced dad. Right now I am dating 3 women (hope to add one more). All three are attractive, are moms, their ages are 48-54, and I have things in common with each one. Guess which one I will end up in a relationship with? The woman who is best in bed.

What exactly is the point of your post as it relates to OP?

I’m pretty sure this was a troll post. It reads like he’s doing auditions on a casting couch.

[Anonymous]

OP, you will be perfect for a ton of men! Just take it slow and have fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m in the process of separating and will be 50 when the divorce is final. Was married for 25 years and have one kid in college and another about to graduate. I hadn’t thought much about dating but probably should. I’m 5’7 120 lbs attractive, but let’s face it, I’m middle aged. I have a well established career that pays very well. I would want to spend time with someone who is laid back and doesn’t get stressed out and is not into games. Attractive, reasonably well off and within 10 years of my age. Are my expectations realistic at this stage in life?

The odds are good, but the goods are odd

^^^ this