Anyone pull child 1 if child 2 is rejected?

[Anonymous]

School is a great fit for child 2, but lots of siblings are applying so you never know. Fit for child 1 is okay. I cant bear the thought of different schools. Its been exhausting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
School is a great fit for child 2, but lots of siblings are applying so you never know. Fit for child 1 is okay. I cant bear the thought of different schools. Its been exhausting.

Yes, some people do. I have seen many at same sex schools change to co-ed once opposite sex sibling comes into play. It is exhausting and worse St high school level

[Anonymous]

I think it's relatively common, at least at competitive schools, that a school would reject Child #2. I know many families in that situation, and they just send the kids to different schools. (I've got 3 kids at 3 different schools myself, which is not ideal but we're making it work.)

[Anonymous]

Remember often you may have to sign next year's contract and commit and put down a deposit for next year BEFORE offers for new admissions are extended. I know people who have gotten extensions on the renewal date for this reason to wait and see if younger sibling is admitted. Your school should understand and work with you on this timing.

I do know of 2 families at our private whose DC2s did not get admitted. Both pulled DC1 and send all kids to public. School warned both families ahead of time there were major red flags for DC2s, WPPSI scores were very poor, play dates bad and strong indications of some learning issues that probably would be better supported at a smaller speciality school like Lab or public.

[Anonymous]

In your shoes, I would have DC 1 apply to other schools at the same time that DC 2 is applying for schools. That way, there is a chance to keep the kids together at the same school, even if DC 2 is rejected from DC 1's current school. Also, there is always the opportunity to reapply in the future (sometimes at our school, siblings get rejected the first time, but then accepted in a later grade.) Rejection happens, but more so at some schools than at others. Ask about sibling policies when you apply.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Remember often you may have to sign next year's contract and commit and put down a deposit for next year BEFORE offers for new admissions are extended. I know people who have gotten extensions on the renewal date for this reason to wait and see if younger sibling is admitted. Your school should understand and work with you on this timing.

I do know of 2 families at our private whose DC2s did not get admitted. Both pulled DC1 and send all kids to public. School warned both families ahead of time there were major red flags for DC2s, WPPSI scores were very poor, play dates bad and strong indications of some learning issues that probably would be better supported at a smaller speciality school like Lab or public.

Thanks for this advice. We may delay signing the contract for dc1. The school is perceived as very competitive, but that is not my perception.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Remember often you may have to sign next year's contract and commit and put down a deposit for next year BEFORE offers for new admissions are extended. I know people who have gotten extensions on the renewal date for this reason to wait and see if younger sibling is admitted. Your school should understand and work with you on this timing.

I do know of 2 families at our private whose DC2s did not get admitted. Both pulled DC1 and send all kids to public. School warned both families ahead of time there were major red flags for DC2s, WPPSI scores were very poor, play dates bad and strong indications of some learning issues that probably would be better supported at a smaller speciality school like Lab or public.

In this land of passive aggressiveness (DC and surrounding areas) I cannot imagine any school EVER listing these things to a family. The offense it would cause would be immense. "very poor play dates"? That's like saying "Your child is an absolute horror"

No. I think not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Remember often you may have to sign next year's contract and commit and put down a deposit for next year BEFORE offers for new admissions are extended. I know people who have gotten extensions on the renewal date for this reason to wait and see if younger sibling is admitted. Your school should understand and work with you on this timing.

I do know of 2 families at our private whose DC2s did not get admitted. Both pulled DC1 and send all kids to public. School warned both families ahead of time there were major red flags for DC2s, WPPSI scores were very poor, play dates bad and strong indications of some learning issues that probably would be better supported at a smaller speciality school like Lab or public.

In this land of passive aggressiveness (DC and surrounding areas) I cannot imagine any school EVER listing these things to a family. The offense it would cause would be immense. "very poor play dates"? That's like saying "Your child is an absolute horror"

No. I think not.

This is PP. children in question had serious ADHD issues, they couldn't focus on play date. And combined with Wppsi showed they needed a different learning environment, if it was my child, I would want to know the truth. And I would be pissed if school waited until March 1 to tell me what they alr Andy knew Jan 1. The school was honest with parents, to give them a warning that the second children may not get in, to give them a few months to weigh other options. It's not like telling them their child is an absolute horror, what are you talking about?

Schools like Potomac and WIS do NOT give any feedback on siblings, I know several families who ended up with siblings rejected with no warning and were left scrambling. I think giving current families early warnings is the right thing to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Remember often you may have to sign next year's contract and commit and put down a deposit for next year BEFORE offers for new admissions are extended. I know people who have gotten extensions on the renewal date for this reason to wait and see if younger sibling is admitted. Your school should understand and work with you on this timing.

I do know of 2 families at our private whose DC2s did not get admitted. Both pulled DC1 and send all kids to public. School warned both families ahead of time there were major red flags for DC2s, WPPSI scores were very poor, play dates bad and strong indications of some learning issues that probably would be better supported at a smaller speciality school like Lab or public.

In this land of passive aggressiveness (DC and surrounding areas) I cannot imagine any school EVER listing these things to a family. The offense it would cause would be immense. "very poor play dates"? That's like saying "Your child is an absolute horror"

No. I think not.

This is PP. children in question had serious ADHD issues, they couldn't focus on play date. And combined with Wppsi showed they needed a different learning environment, if it was my child, I would want to know the truth. And I would be pissed if school waited until March 1 to tell me what they alr Andy knew Jan 1. The school was honest with parents, to give them a warning that the second children may not get in, to give them a few months to weigh other options. It's not like telling them their child is an absolute horror, what are you talking about?

Schools like Potomac and WIS do NOT give any feedback on siblings, I know several families who ended up with siblings rejected with no warning and were left scrambling. I think giving current families early warnings is the right thing to do.

Potomac absolutely gives a heads up if there's an issue with a sibling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Remember often you may have to sign next year's contract and commit and put down a deposit for next year BEFORE offers for new admissions are extended. I know people who have gotten extensions on the renewal date for this reason to wait and see if younger sibling is admitted. Your school should understand and work with you on this timing.

I do know of 2 families at our private whose DC2s did not get admitted. Both pulled DC1 and send all kids to public. School warned both families ahead of time there were major red flags for DC2s, WPPSI scores were very poor, play dates bad and strong indications of some learning issues that probably would be better supported at a smaller speciality school like Lab or public.

In this land of passive aggressiveness (DC and surrounding areas) I cannot imagine any school EVER listing these things to a family. The offense it would cause would be immense. "very poor play dates"? That's like saying "Your child is an absolute horror"

No. I think not.

This is PP. children in question had serious ADHD issues, they couldn't focus on play date. And combined with Wppsi showed they needed a different learning environment, if it was my child, I would want to know the truth. And I would be pissed if school waited until March 1 to tell me what they alr Andy knew Jan 1. The school was honest with parents, to give them a warning that the second children may not get in, to give them a few months to weigh other options. It's not like telling them their child is an absolute horror, what are you talking about?

Schools like Potomac and WIS do NOT give any feedback on siblings, I know several families who ended up with siblings rejected with no warning and were left scrambling. I think giving current families early warnings is the right thing to do.

To be fair, this is a much better explanation of what you were saying.

[Anonymous]

Do schools generally give families an early heads up if they are going to reject a sibling?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Remember often you may have to sign next year's contract and commit and put down a deposit for next year BEFORE offers for new admissions are extended. I know people who have gotten extensions on the renewal date for this reason to wait and see if younger sibling is admitted. Your school should understand and work with you on this timing.

I do know of 2 families at our private whose DC2s did not get admitted. Both pulled DC1 and send all kids to public. School warned both families ahead of time there were major red flags for DC2s, WPPSI scores were very poor, play dates bad and strong indications of some learning issues that probably would be better supported at a smaller speciality school like Lab or public.

In this land of passive aggressiveness (DC and surrounding areas) I cannot imagine any school EVER listing these things to a family. The offense it would cause would be immense. "very poor play dates"? That's like saying "Your child is an absolute horror"

No. I think not.

This is PP. children in question had serious ADHD issues, they couldn't focus on play date. And combined with Wppsi showed they needed a different learning environment, if it was my child, I would want to know the truth. And I would be pissed if school waited until March 1 to tell me what they alr Andy knew Jan 1. The school was honest with parents, to give them a warning that the second children may not get in, to give them a few months to weigh other options. It's not like telling them their child is an absolute horror, what are you talking about?

Schools like Potomac and WIS do NOT give any feedback on siblings, I know several families who ended up with siblings rejected with no warning and were left scrambling. I think giving current families early warnings is the right thing to do.

To be fair, this is a much better explanation of what you were saying.

No, it was exactly the same.

[Anonymous]

Had one kid at a big-3 and 2nd kid was rejected. Years later, 2nd kid accepted for 9th and enrolled. Still, the sting of that earlier rejection -- spouse and I never got over it. Forever changed our view of the school even after 2nd kid accepted and enrolled there. Never felt the same sense of loyalty nor desire to donate again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Had one kid at a big-3 and 2nd kid was rejected. Years later, 2nd kid accepted for 9th and enrolled. Still, the sting of that earlier rejection -- spouse and I never got over it. Forever changed our view of the school even after 2nd kid accepted and enrolled there. Never felt the same sense of loyalty nor desire to donate again.

Are you so petty in other parts of your life?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Had one kid at a big-3 and 2nd kid was rejected. Years later, 2nd kid accepted for 9th and enrolled. Still, the sting of that earlier rejection -- spouse and I never got over it. Forever changed our view of the school even after 2nd kid accepted and enrolled there. Never felt the same sense of loyalty nor desire to donate again.

Are you so petty in other parts of your life?

I don't think this is petty & would probably feel the same way.