Anyone pull child 1 if child 2 is rejected?

[Anonymous]

You send your kid to an independent school, entrusting them with educating your child(ren) and you don't support it financially even when the second kid is admitted.

Get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

PP didn't say they didn't donate, just that they didn't feel the same DESIRE to donate.

[Anonymous]

Do you think they sometimes reject the 2nd kid because they'd like the family to leave altogether?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you think they sometimes reject the 2nd kid because they'd like the family to leave altogether?

I've seen this a couple of times at the school our boys attended.

It's in some cases a stinging rebuke and not something the school does lightly. The school knows when they do this that there is going to be a backlash. They know some parents are going to be furious. They know they are going to have to deal with the repercussions. They know it's going to be a much-discussed topic among the other parents with many feeling the school was being unduly harsh.

But, there are cases where its a decision they are willing to make. The second sibling they reject may have academic or behavioral or social problems they don't want to deal with for however long the second child will be at the school.

And/or the school is sick of the parents or one of the parents. The case I am most familiar with involved parents who could just not get the child to school on time. And they constantly argued with administrators and teachers. The second boy, who was rejected was academically on the border line, but the real reason was they wanted not to have to deal with these parents for another four years.

There was no expectation the parents were going to withdraw the first child. But that would not have been unwelcome.

[Anonymous]

No, and neither should you. Each child is their own person, with their individual strengths and talents, as well as their different needs. It would be unfair to both of them to do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP didn't say they didn't donate, just that they didn't feel the same DESIRE to donate.

Oh really?

Anonymous wrote:Had one kid at a big-3 and 2nd kid was rejected. Years later, 2nd kid accepted for 9th and enrolled. Still, the sting of that earlier rejection -- spouse and I never got over it. Forever changed our view of the school even after 2nd kid accepted and enrolled there. Never felt the same sense of loyalty nor desire to donate again.

No desire to donate, no loyalty to the school educating their older and later on both children.

Selfish.

Fact is, kids are different, and schools have different strengths and personalities. They know how certain kids may thrive in one environment and whither in another. Why would that PP want their younger kid in an environment that won't breed success for them? Just because it will be more convenient for their daily routine? Not fair to the kid.

I know plenty of families who have their kids at many different "top" schools: GDS, Sidwell, Cathedral, STA, Landon etc. Their kids are in the right places for them, eventhough it is more difficult to manage schedules for the parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP didn't say they didn't donate, just that they didn't feel the same DESIRE to donate.

Oh really?

Anonymous wrote:Had one kid at a big-3 and 2nd kid was rejected. Years later, 2nd kid accepted for 9th and enrolled. Still, the sting of that earlier rejection -- spouse and I never got over it. Forever changed our view of the school even after 2nd kid accepted and enrolled there. Never felt the same sense of loyalty nor desire to donate again.

No desire to donate, no loyalty to the school educating their older and later on both children.

Selfish.

Fact is, kids are different, and schools have different strengths and personalities. They know how certain kids may thrive in one environment and whither in another. Why would that PP want their younger kid in an environment that won't breed success for them? Just because it will be more convenient for their daily routine? Not fair to the kid.

Who cares, its their money and their private decision. Not for you to dictate who donates or how much. If you want to live like that try 1950s Russia.

I know plenty of families who have their kids at many different "top" schools: GDS, Sidwell, Cathedral, STA, Landon etc. Their kids are in the right places for them, eventhough it is more difficult to manage schedules for the parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP didn't say they didn't donate, just that they didn't feel the same DESIRE to donate.

Oh really?

Anonymous wrote:Had one kid at a big-3 and 2nd kid was rejected. Years later, 2nd kid accepted for 9th and enrolled. Still, the sting of that earlier rejection -- spouse and I never got over it. Forever changed our view of the school even after 2nd kid accepted and enrolled there. Never felt the same sense of loyalty nor desire to donate again.

No desire to donate, no loyalty to the school educating their older and later on both children.

Selfish.

Fact is, kids are different, and schools have different strengths and personalities. They know how certain kids may thrive in one environment and whither in another. Why would that PP want their younger kid in an environment that won't breed success for them? Just because it will be more convenient for their daily routine? Not fair to the kid.

I know plenty of families who have their kids at many different "top" schools: GDS, Sidwell, Cathedral, STA, Landon etc. Their kids are in the right places for them, eventhough it is more difficult to manage schedules for the parents.

None of your business though, really.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP didn't say they didn't donate, just that they didn't feel the same DESIRE to donate.

Oh really?

Anonymous wrote:Had one kid at a big-3 and 2nd kid was rejected. Years later, 2nd kid accepted for 9th and enrolled. Still, the sting of that earlier rejection -- spouse and I never got over it. Forever changed our view of the school even after 2nd kid accepted and enrolled there. Never felt the same sense of loyalty nor desire to donate again.

No desire to donate, no loyalty to the school educating their older and later on both children.

Selfish.

Fact is, kids are different, and schools have different strengths and personalities. They know how certain kids may thrive in one environment and whither in another. Why would that PP want their younger kid in an environment that won't breed success for them? Just because it will be more convenient for their daily routine? Not fair to the kid.

I know plenty of families who have their kids at many different "top" schools: GDS, Sidwell, Cathedral, STA, Landon etc. Their kids are in the right places for them, eventhough it is more difficult to manage schedules for the parents.

np: Don't be ridiculous. A disappointing experience with someone/some institution can definitely color your perceptions. She didn't say she exacted revenge on the school; she just didn't feel as warm and fuzzy as before. She still paid the school for a second child, and they were still happy to take her money. She's not selfish, just human.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP didn't say they didn't donate, just that they didn't feel the same DESIRE to donate.

Oh really?

Anonymous wrote:Had one kid at a big-3 and 2nd kid was rejected. Years later, 2nd kid accepted for 9th and enrolled. Still, the sting of that earlier rejection -- spouse and I never got over it. Forever changed our view of the school even after 2nd kid accepted and enrolled there. Never felt the same sense of loyalty nor desire to donate again.

No desire to donate, no loyalty to the school educating their older and later on both children.

Selfish.

Fact is, kids are different, and schools have different strengths and personalities. They know how certain kids may thrive in one environment and whither in another. Why would that PP want their younger kid in an environment that won't breed success for them? Just because it will be more convenient for their daily routine? Not fair to the kid.

I know plenty of families who have their kids at many different "top" schools: GDS, Sidwell, Cathedral, STA, Landon etc. Their kids are in the right places for them, eventhough it is more difficult to manage schedules for the parents.

np: Don't be ridiculous. A disappointing experience with someone/some institution can definitely color your perceptions. She didn't say she exacted revenge on the school; she just didn't feel as warm and fuzzy as before. She still paid the school for a second child, and they were still happy to take her money. She's not selfish, just human.

This, what PP says -- even though kid #2 eventually was admitted, don't have same warm and fuzzy "go team!" feeling. We still donate generously to the school.

[Anonymous]

Thought decission, probably re-apply and if not admitted I will change both.