Jen Hatmaker

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Big Sis & Big Sass are speaking together at an event on April 14 in Iowa. "An evening filled with laughter and love as these two amazing authors share their insight on loving others."

For me, this shows more than anything else this is pretty much a user relationship, especially on Sass’s part. He’s getting more publicity and exposure and events than he could without Jen (granted, it’s zz list celebrity exposure but a whole new audience he wouldn’t have been able to tap into) without any emotional or other investment. All he has to do is have some text and phone conversations and occasionally show up to feed Jen’s ego and luuvv fantasy and that’s it. For Jen, she may really believe they’re the real deal, but even with her, she needed a boyfriend to prove that she was still desirable and not the scorned bitter woman, and Sass was a bonus because, you know, he’s a black social justice warrior which made her squeal in delight. Sass, being an opportunist, picked up on that neediness and some of that day thinking about it was probably how he could use it to his advantage, so, yeah, I can be your boyfriend. Even with all the red flags, Jen will keep it up because another failed relationship is more than her ego and fake person she’s built up in her mind could take.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:brooksstyled on IG just tagged Tyler and he re-posted---the reason Jen and Tyler haven't disappeared is bc they cling to the strangers on the internet who write stuff like this to them. pathetic

That was straight cringe. Why do middle aged white women write like that?

[Anonymous]

So he can use his words for platonic love just not romantic love, hmm. You know who I really feel bad for? Shannon, she’s given her best reproductive years to being Tyler’s emotional spouse while he wax’s on about her great devotion (ie codependency) and how anyone else would have bailed. Now Shannon gets to hear Jen talking about her sex life with Tyler while she’s spent the last several years picking up all his dang pieces.
Guess how available Shannon was for a bona fide love affair while being Tyler’s it girl? Not at all. This is why Tyler needed a day to answer Jen about getting into a romantic relationship cause he had to run it past his real partner, the ever loyal sacrificing Shannon.
This is more common than you think in the single adult Christian communities. So many weird emotional, non-sexual couplings.

[Anonymous]

Also, in his ode to Shannon, look how many times he describes himself as difficult, high maintenance, getting in the way of her own attention and credit. I would not describe myself that way when discussing how I show up for friends and I know my friends wouldn't use those words to describe me. He's telling the world he is an insufferable Man Baby. Who would want him?

[Anonymous]

Can't wait to hear what a never-married man child can teach me about loving others!

[Anonymous]

Also, in his ode to Shannon, look how many times he describes himself as difficult, high maintenance, getting in the way of her own attention and credit

If you are high-maintenance, you really need to change. Life is too short to make others maintain you.

[Anonymous]

As much as I dislike Jen, I dislike Brandon almost as much.

I feel, and this may be a little old-fashioned, that if the mother of your children, whom you left, and who is still alive and still single (for the most part), you should refrain from over the top odes to your current wife. It's fine to say you love her, think she is pretty, etc. But Brando is just driving the stakes into Jen with every IG Tina post.

[Anonymous]

You know who I really feel bad for? Shannon, she’s given her best reproductive years to being Tyler’s emotional spouse while he wax’s on about her great devotion (ie codependency) and how anyone else would have bailed

You know her parents probably were not happy to see this. I think most folks want grandkids.

[Anonymous]

For me, this shows more than anything else this is pretty much a user relationship, especially on Sass’s part. He’s getting more publicity and exposure and events than he could without Jen (granted, it’s zz list celebrity exposure but a whole new audience he wouldn’t have been able to tap into) without any emotional or other investment. All he has to do is have some text and phone conversations and occasionally show up to feed Jen’s ego and luuvv fantasy and that’s it. For Jen, she may really believe they’re the real deal, but even with her, she needed a boyfriend to prove that she was still desirable and not the scorned bitter woman, and Sass was a bonus because, you know, he’s a black social justice warrior which made her squeal in delight. Sass, being an opportunist, picked up on that neediness and some of that day thinking about it was probably how he could use it to his advantage, so, yeah, I can be your boyfriend. Even with all the red flags, Jen will keep it up because another failed relationship is more than her ego and fake person she’s built up in her mind could take

X10000

I would LOVE to see Tyler's book sale data pre and post Jen. Say what we want about Big Sis, she does move product and her fans are ready to spend money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As much as I dislike Jen, I dislike Brandon almost as much.

I feel, and this may be a little old-fashioned, that if the mother of your children, whom you left, and who is still alive and still single (for the most part), you should refrain from over the top odes to your current wife. It's fine to say you love her, think she is pretty, etc. But Brando is just driving the stakes into Jen with every IG Tina post.

At least Tina returns the love. Jen isn’t even married and indulges in over the top odds like her career depends on it. In print, television, podcasts, and social media, Jen drools over Tyler. Tyler drools over Shannon.

[Anonymous]

At least Tina returns the love. Jen isn’t even married and indulges in over the top odds like her career depends on it. In print, television, podcasts, and social media, Jen drools over Tyler. Tyler drools over Shannon

OP and I totally agree- and I think it makes it so much sadder that Brandon is in love with someone who genuinely loves and adores him, and his ex is with the opposite. I guess I wish Brandon could tone it down at least until Jen is in a loving, committed, healthy relationship.

[Anonymous]

Jen needs to get mentally healthy herself before she can engage in a healthy romantic relationship. By the time she finally admits the Tyler fakery, gets herself together and finds a new man, it could be a decade down the line. Don’t think Brandon should have to wait for that.

Not even sure what mentally health man would choose to get serious with her though… being a mess is one thing but being completely inauthentic is a much bigger issue for her imo.

I think that over the top proclamations of love on social media are pretty lame anyway though 🤭

[Anonymous]

Okay, how many straight guys do we know who would even notice when a woman is holding a purse let alone post a comment along the lines of "Girl, I simply MUST know where you got that purse!" (Shades of Legally Blonde where the pool guy tells Elle not to tap her knock-off Manolo at him and she has the epiphany that solves the case...)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay, how many straight guys do we know who would even notice when a woman is holding a purse let alone post a comment along the lines of "Girl, I simply MUST know where you got that purse!" (Shades of Legally Blonde where the pool guy tells Elle not to tap her knock-off Manolo at him and she has the epiphany that solves the case...)

I assumed he was insinuating that he had bought it for her. Especially because her reply was, “Ask my boyfriend.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Okay, how many straight guys do we know who would even notice when a woman is holding a purse let alone post a comment along the lines of "Girl, I simply MUST know where you got that purse!" (Shades of Legally Blonde where the pool guy tells Elle not to tap her knock-off Manolo at him and she has the epiphany that solves the case...)

I assumed he was insinuating that he had bought it for her. Especially because her reply was, “Ask my boyfriend.”

I assumed the same…