So where do the lonely go????

[Anonymous]

Perfect day

Out listening to music

Tried to talk to 3 different groups at a local event

Blown off every time.

I get pushed back in my box. Wish my kids were still home but the they are gone

Really felling down on my life In Virginia. Always feel outside looking in. How do you get to the inside? Where you feel on again

[Anonymous]

Maybe try posting in Fifty and Over?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe try posting in Fifty and Over?

Thanks for the suggestion. Can not tell you how much your thought means to me

[Anonymous]

It helps to join organized groups where you share an interest and do the activity together. Just going up to strangers at a concert/event doesn't work unless you're both attracted and interested in dating each other, as a rule. Making friends takes time and regular meeting up at activities you both do.

I go to events and have great conversations with strangers, but that's as far as it goes. You have to look nonthreatening, make people laugh, and be fun to talk to, but even then, a lot of people just don't like talking to strangers.

[Anonymous]

I just spent a week out west. I met some of the nicest locals. So as soon as my youngest is off to college I'm moving. It is not YOU. It is this area.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe try posting in Fifty and Over?

Thanks for the suggestion. Can not tell you how much your thought means to me

I mean this as nicely as possible, but is there a chance you come off as "a little too much" to others? Your posts have a little flair for the dramatic, which of course is totally fine if that's your personality. But sometimes people can seem a little too much over the top when meeting new people and it rubs them them wrong way.

[Anonymous]

You have a strange (sarcastic?) way of expressing yourself, OP.
Are you depressed?
Perhaps you could talk to your doctor about these feelings.

[Anonymous]

Pick an open group with people not standing super close, pauses in the conversation, looking outside of the group at times. Find the nicest looking person. Ask "do you mind if I join you?"

If you are picking groups where people are closed, talking rapidly about a subject they are all very interested in, and you try to insert yourself by kind of eavesdropping and offering a comment, it isn't going to work. They are going to blow you off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just spent a week out west. I met some of the nicest locals. So as soon as my youngest is off to college I'm moving. It is not YOU. It is this area.

Spot on answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just spent a week out west. I met some of the nicest locals. So as soon as my youngest is off to college I'm moving. It is not YOU. It is this area.

Spot on answer.

But even on the west coast people who are in a group are generally taken aback if someone approaches and starts talking.

Did you have friends when your children lived at home? Where are they now?
Cultivating friendship is hard, you don't need many, just one or two good ones.
And what does that DCUM poster say...envy steals the joy of life...

[Anonymous]

I spent some time at Asheville nc and everyone seemed open

I just want to have a conversation with a guy on a nice afternoon

I don't know. Must be me around here I don't fit i

I do miss my children but would like to talk to a adult male

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I spent some time at Asheville nc and everyone seemed open

I just want to have a conversation with a guy on a nice afternoon

I don't know. Must be me around here I don't fit i

I do miss my children but would like to talk to a adult male

Are you the OP? Completely different advice if you're looking to talk to a random group or if you're looking to talk to a man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I spent some time at Asheville nc and everyone seemed open

I just want to have a conversation with a guy on a nice afternoon

I don't know. Must be me around here I don't fit i

I do miss my children but would like to talk to a adult male

Are you the OP? Completely different advice if you're looking to talk to a random group or if you're looking to talk to a man.

Yes

Just bored on lonely in a crowd

In a funk. i am invisible

And I tried at least a little bit

Sun still feels good and i can hear the laughter

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I spent some time at Asheville nc and everyone seemed open

I just want to have a conversation with a guy on a nice afternoon

I don't know. Must be me around here I don't fit i

I do miss my children but would like to talk to a adult male

Are you the OP? Completely different advice if you're looking to talk to a random group or if you're looking to talk to a man.

Yes

Just bored on lonely in a crowd

In a funk. i am invisible

And I tried at least a little bit

Sun still feels good and i can hear the laughter

You're being way over dramatic and I bet that's turning people off.

[Anonymous]

I'm annoyed by you and this is online. I'm guessing that's your problem in real life too