If your kids changed elementary schools due to a move
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Anonymous
| How did they adapt to the new school? DH and I are divorcing and we plan to sell our current home and I'm going to buy another house. I can't really afford the cluster I live in now so I'm looking in a different cluster. DH told me when I move not to tell the school that so our son can stay in their current elementary school because he likes it and his aftercare (currently in kindergarten). I don't think it will be a big deal for him to change schools since he's only in kindergarten. What are some experience others have had with this? |
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Of course you have to notify the school. Where will the mail go? What happens when your child mentions to the teacher that you moved.
Tell your ex that he should buy or rent in the cluster if he wants your child to continue to go to the same school. As for your question, children adapt, especially if they're only in kindergarten. |
Anonymous
| We moved in the middle of Kindergarten. We did a COSA for the rest of his K year and then started in the new school to start 1st grade. The transition was pretty easy. |
Anonymous
Was it easy to get a COSA for the rest of kindergarten? I would prefer to keep him at his school for the rest of the year. |
Anonymous
| Some schools will let you finish up the year. Then apply for a COSA. We did a switch in second from private to public and it was a much easier transition than we expected. Kids adapt. |
Anonymous
| Thanks, hopefully I can work it out so he can finish up the school year. |
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Honestly I'd be more worried about how he deals with the divorce.
Changing schools is pretty easy up to about 3rd grade. I hope you find somewhere that works for you OP, and your kid. |
Anonymous
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Changing schools is the least of your problems, OP, unless your child has special needs. It is illegal to not notify the school of a move. They will let you finish the school year at the old school, usually.
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Anonymous
| No big deal for a kindergartner. I only had issues with my kids for middle school moves. |
Anonymous
That's a huge concern of mine too, I'm trying not to make too many changes for him at one time. |
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We moved the summer after K. It was a little scary -- the move more so than the new school I think. At that point he didn't realize you could stay at the same school from year to year. But he adjusted fine.
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Anonymous
| At that age it's pretty easy. We moved the summer between K and 1st and my ds is handling it very well so far. |
Anonymous
Thanks for this! I'm sure my son will handle it well, I just feel a little guilty about making him switch schools. |
Anonymous
We moved between K and 1st and it was totally fine. Did DD miss her friends from the old school? Sure, some. But she made new friends in the new school. Be proactive about llaydstes with new kids, keep up some play dates with the old friends for a while, and trust that kids are resilient. Especially at this young age, it doesn't take much to form a friendship. "You like trucks? I like trucks! Let's be friends!" 
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OP. Legally your child can stay with the school if you will have shared custody of child.
Child can go to school at either cluster. I would keep child in his current school. You do not want to add stress from school to be on top of stress from divorce. Try to find place may be outside of boundary, but very close to it, so commuting to and from school will not be a problem. Plus that way your DH would be more involved with your child, and that would be plus for both your child and you. Mail from school can go to either house, it is not important. I hardly can imaging your DH to withhold final grades of your son. |