S/O: What women should know getting into a relationship

[Anonymous]

It seems there are many threads about women being screwed over when a relationship falls apart or a divorce happens.

I'm suggesting a you really need to do this, or watch out for this thread where you share experiences or tips if you're a professional that can help women if shit hits the fan.

1. Preferably never share finances, have a joint account to which you both contribute to pay household expenses.
2. If either of you has money, have a prenup that protects you.
3. Don't live with a man in his house. It's either in both your names, or you have your own place with your own name on it. Never contribute finances without your name on the property.

Go...

[Anonymous]

- Always be financially able to leave

- Look at his faults, multiply them by 10, and take away all the good stuff. Do you still want to marry him? Maybe that's extreme, but my point is there comes a time where everything you hate about him is all that's left. Hmm still extreme.

[Anonymous]

-- Practice birth control.

[Anonymous]

Never give a man a key to your place or let him move in (same could go for a woman) unless you have a household joint account and work out bill splitting first.

[Anonymous]

I would add that if you're getting divorced, and if you were the one that didn't want it and weren't expecting it, PLEASE hire a competent lawyer to read over the agreement. Don't fight about stupid shit but definitely make sure you get the important stuff resolved. Don't let him bully you or scare you. And if you feel he is doing that, don't play prideful and sign to be done. YOU take YOUR time. Because many men in divorce show their abusive teeth. Be careful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It seems there are many threads about women being screwed over when a relationship falls apart or a divorce happens.

I'm suggesting a you really need to do this, or watch out for this thread where you share experiences or tips if you're a professional that can help women if shit hits the fan.

1. Preferably never share finances, have a joint account to which you both contribute to pay household expenses.
2. If either of you has money, have a prenup that protects you.
3. Don't live with a man in his house. It's either in both your names, or you have your own place with your own name on it. Never contribute finances without your name on the property.

Go...

I COMPLETELY disagree with this. There have been several threads where it is clear that the issue in a marriage breakdown is failure to work as a team, keeping score of contributions etc. Sometimes when you try to protect yourself you really screw yourself. Marriage does require some faith. Now that doesn't mean become dependent on your spouse financially to the point that you'd be screwed if you got a divorce, but not combining finances at all during a marriage? That is asking for trouble. A joint financial plan for the future is a big part of being happily married.

[Anonymous]

Keep a list of everything he/she does that you feel is wrong. Refer to it frequently. Provide score updates regularly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Keep a list of everything he/she does that you feel is wrong. Refer to it frequently. Provide score updates regularly.

+1000 it also helps to think of personal attacks and insults before you get into the fight.

[Anonymous]

As it is in the beginning, so shall it forever be.

(Don't date someone you think you can change).

[Anonymous]

require that his income cover all expenses for the marriage while you keep all of your income in a separate account so that you are able to escape the marriage. Mantra: His income is our income my income is my income!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never give a man a key to your place or let him move in (same could go for a woman) unless you have a household joint account and work out bill splitting first.

co-habitation is trashy. only low class (or those who were recently low class) do this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Never give a man a key to your place or let him move in (same could go for a woman) unless you have a household joint account and work out bill splitting first.

co-habitation is trashy. only low class (or those who were recently low class) do this.

Thanks for sharing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Never give a man a key to your place or let him move in (same could go for a woman) unless you have a household joint account and work out bill splitting first.

co-habitation is trashy. only low class (or those who were recently low class) do this.

I didn't ask for your opinion on people's living arrangements I asked specifically for ideas on how women can protect themselves from assholes. When a woman is being abused, particularly mentally, she can be talked into giving up all her rights. I'm trying to help her go into the relationship strong, so she doesn't end up there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:require that his income cover all expenses for the marriage while you keep all of your income in a separate account so that you are able to escape the marriage. Mantra: His income is our income my income is my income!

Ha ha

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Never give a man a key to your place or let him move in (same could go for a woman) unless you have a household joint account and work out bill splitting first.

co-habitation is trashy. only low class (or those who were recently low class) do this.

I didn't ask for your opinion on people's living arrangements I asked specifically for ideas on how women can protect themselves from assholes. When a woman is being abused, particularly mentally, she can be talked into giving up all her rights. I'm trying to help her go into the relationship strong, so she doesn't end up there.

exactly - don't co-habitate is a great way of protecting yourself. If you have the unwavering view that it is trashy you are less likely to do it.