What would you/your husband have done? Sexism

[Anonymous]

We moved to a new very sexist country where I'm operating in a new language, where my word carries little gravitas compared to my husband's, and where women of a certain class aren't expected to work outside the home.
We were just talking to a third country dude at a party, who explained what a certain very basic term means (I worked in that industry) and told my husband we shouldn't "bore the ladies with the business talk" (I have an MBA).

My husband just smiled.

I'm pissed.

Vent over.

[Anonymous]

Mansplaining knows no boundaries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We moved to a new very sexist country where I'm operating in a new language, where my word carries little gravitas compared to my husband's, and where women of a certain class aren't expected to work outside the home.
We were just talking to a third country dude at a party, who explained what a certain very basic term means (I worked in that industry) and told my husband we shouldn't "bore the ladies with the business talk" (I have an MBA).

My husband just smiled.

I'm pissed.

Vent over.

If you're in a very sexist country, this is the least of your worries. And DH was right to ignore, given the context. Have to save the arguments for when it really matters.

[Anonymous]

"I have an mba" haha are degrees really that prestigious in 2016 *yawwwwwn*

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We moved to a new very sexist country where I'm operating in a new language, where my word carries little gravitas compared to my husband's, and where women of a certain class aren't expected to work outside the home.
We were just talking to a third country dude at a party, who explained what a certain very basic term means (I worked in that industry) and told my husband we shouldn't "bore the ladies with the business talk" (I have an MBA).

My husband just smiled.

I'm pissed.

Vent over.

MBA, zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

[doodlebug]

Pick your battles. A sexist country isn't the place to live if you want your opinion to mean anything.

[Anonymous]

Did you and your DH go to this country with the intention that he is responsible for enlightening its culture and civilizing the natives?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"I have an mba" haha are degrees really that prestigious in 2016 *yawwwwwn*

Go ahead and get surgery from that DR that read about it online.

[Anonymous]

doodlebug wrote:Pick your battles. A sexist country isn't the place to live if you want your opinion to mean anything.

Agree with this. I'm a feminist and if I were in a sexist country I wouldn't express my opinions unless I found a like minded friend. Your DH probably didn't want to say something that could lead to a heated debate about feminism/sexism/ why what he said is not okay.

[Anonymous]

In America, my husband would have said, "This lady is actual an expert in these details..." but as a guest in another country he might not have thought it was safe to do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In America, my husband would have said, "This lady is actual an expert in these details..." but as a guest in another country he might not have thought it was safe to do that.

or even appropriate.

[Anonymous]

when in rome

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We moved to a new very sexist country where I'm operating in a new language, where my word carries little gravitas compared to my husband's, and where women of a certain class aren't expected to work outside the home.
We were just talking to a third country dude at a party, who explained what a certain very basic term means (I worked in that industry) and told my husband we shouldn't "bore the ladies with the business talk" (I have an MBA).

My husband just smiled.

I'm pissed.

Vent over.

So you call him a third country dude? You are a racist.
I am betting he wasn't trying to dumb it down for you. It was business between him and your husband. He was trying to politely shut the conversation down in your favor.

Maybe relax a bit a have a drink.

[Anonymous]

Watch out! Maybe your husband loves his new membership in the Stepford Men's Association. Now repeat after me:

I'll just die if I don't get that recipe!
I'll just die if I don't get that recipe!
I'll just die if I don't get that recipe!

[Anonymous]

What did you expect your husband to do? Begin a systematic breakdown of that country's value system and defend your honor? You moved there knowing what the deal was, unless your husband moved there with the intention of starting a crusade for women's rights, I'm not sure what you wanted him to do differently here.